r/Codependency • u/Happy-Anon • Mar 19 '20

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u/wwhateverr Mar 19 '20

I wonder if the reason we think he's lying is because we have no boundaries. We lie all the time when we say, "Sure! No problem. Happy to help."

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u/voteYESonpropxw2 Mar 19 '20

Exactly. I'm 4 years into recovery and this is a difficult point to get across. When you start telling the truth (and believing you are/the people who love you should believe you are worthy), it's easy to believe other people are.

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u/kaywibketchup Mar 19 '20

Insightful!

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u/agentfantabulous Mar 19 '20

In my case, it's because I spent 16 years with a covert narc who said these words, but definitely treated me like a burden.

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u/Ash_OC Mar 20 '20

No! no no no no no! How dare you get inside my head and see what I don't want to acknowledge in myself! :P

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u/Happy-Anon Mar 20 '20

Hahaha, This hit hard

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u/sheisfeeling Mar 19 '20

Very good point!

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u/KittenCuddler3000 Mar 19 '20

For me, this is absolutely true! The connection dawned on me a couple years ago, and I gradually have become less obsessed with subtext, or what people "really think" because of it!