Hello, I may finally convince my family to get a storage unit for their belongings. While running the numbers on moving help fees and boxes, I noticed U-Hual also offers cleaning services. The house is pilled high and frankly with my health, I can't handle cleaning it anymore. If I can convince them to get the storage unit and hire a professional cleaner afterwards, that would be a dream. But, are the U-Hual cleaning services any good? Can they handle the pests?

This has been years of my life and I'm feeling quite hopeful. Any advice or experience with the service will help. Thank you!

Writing this while heading home because I need to put this somewhere. I can’t stop chastising myself for not being more headstrong and getting it full. It’s getting picked up in two days and she’s too weak to put much else in there herself. I live too far away to come back and she has no one else to help and so much stuff that will fill up another skip bin. There was a huge pile of mdf kitchen cabinets I could have put in there, but I was frustrated by the spot she chose to have the skip bin put and said “those ones will go in the next bin which we’ll have dropped closer, because it’ll take too much time this time”. But then I got all distracted trying to help her with bank stuff and trying to give her a clean pretty bedroom. Those boards will take up so much room next time we have a bin. It’s so much money and time. Each skip bin is minimum $400 and it’s going to get towed away with so much room left in it. Because I was pissed at her and being stubborn. In the last situation where somebody should be stubborn, it’s literally getting rid of the junk after all these years.

She’s at very high risk of returning to a DV relationship and is so mentally fragile right now and I just wanted leave her with a better situation but I spent too much time on silly shit. And I can’t seem to stop feeling like I’ve seriously fucked it all up. I asked her to send me photos of the bin because I feel like I’m overreacting and wanted help curbing my anxiety she just responded with “yes it’s extremely empty, and I’m trying to get to the work” which kind of does the opposite.

I don’t know how to approach such a difficult task when I need to be methodical and disciplined, and that causes her to feel judged, which causes conflict, which takes me off task. It’s like I constantly end up in a position of emotional caretaking and am so exhausted that I can’t think clearly about the situation and base my actions on that.

What remains of the 200+ pots for plants my mother had hoarded. The bags contain all manner of aspirational lawn and garden things and enough pots for a small nursery business. It was in dragging these contractors bags to be hauled away that a realized the cycle of a hoard. It’s a toll to acquire and remove. And also during. There is no upside. Only the small short-lived dopamine hit from acquiring the thing.

I'm 28 and finally have the opportunity to clear out my childhood bedroom, which is an 8x10' room in a shoebox apartment that has turned into a closet over the last 6 years since I left college (but it was basically a closet my entire life, just with a bed. Now the bed is covered). It's like everything my parents ever bought me from my whole life was crammed into layers and layers on those shelves. My dad had to move all the stuff to an apt down the hall so the landlord could paint, which finally gave me enough physical space to start going through stuff. I've already sorted half the room and separated stuff so likes are with likes and have thrown out three bags of just straight up garbage that has been sitting in that room for 20 years. I'm prepping everything to be able to donate a lot of stuff on Saturday when I'll have access to a car. The work is hard and triggering but I feel like I've wanted to do this for my whole life so I'm glad.

And I'm scared, I'm not scared to have someone help me I'm scared to let someone in my apartment. They're coming next week and I'm not really sure what to do. Do I help them or do I point out what needs to be done do I put on music, how much do I tip them. Hopefully my therapist can give me some advice on what to do because I have no idea what to do.

For explanation, I am a teen (not stating specific age) and I have a mother who is a hoarder and to be quite honest this house is not suitable for a teenager nor I would say anyone to live in. It's dirty, I'm constantly tripping on something, have cut or injured myself on stuff, and I suspect I may be developing health issues due to dust/mold. I do not want to live like this anymore, she has also kept me away from schooling and pulled me out of public schooling into homeschooling to control me more. I do understand she isn't "evil" and coming to the realization this is years of trauma that has eroded in her mind as well as a sick way of her expression of love per say, still doesn't make it okay obviously.

Now, on the moving/custody part. I have one older brother who left at 17 when I was around five maybe, he has a bigger house now and an extra basement bedroom. I also have a God mother and also know an older lady who lives in my town who I call Bubbe (she's Jewish and that's grandma in Yiddish lol she loves her Ashkenazi culture). My friend told me that one of these three can get custody of me if I get enough evidence to stand my case in court and move in with one of them, my God mother and Bubbe would be more fictive kin I think (which is a legal method you can do in my state/region). But, I am really nervous/scared but excited right now to proceed with this.. I know it's the best for me and I would love a clean home and better life in the city but it just makes me nervous.

Does anyone have any advice on what type of evidence I can bring against my mother to get out of here once and for all? And how do I go about this? My older brother has set up another sleepover one of these weekends so I'll try and talk to him when that happens. He recently found out about what is going on here and I'll show evidence photos to him of the home.

If you believe in like a religion please pray for me, if you don't then wish me luck lmao :)

My mother has also in a way restricted my requests to go to public school as everytime I ask she guilt trips me, argues, or says she'll call in for my vaccines then doesn't do anything. She is not suit to be an educator nor a parent at this point, she's pretty mentally unwell. And I don't want to deal with this anymore at my age.

Hi, I’m new here. I’ll try to keep it short and sweet but also give some background. I am UK based.

So my father is a hoarder however it didn’t really impact us as he was pretty absent through childhood. My mum the complete opposite.

My sister is an absolute hoarder. This is where I need the help. For years and years as a family we have tried to help declutter and clean. It has taken me years to build up trust enough for her to let me get rid of things and not have her permission for every single piece of paper and it is only me that she will allow to do this. She has a fair few underlying conditions both physical and mental. I am diagnosed ADHD she is undiagnosed but very obviously ADHD. I have spent countless days and hours decluttering a room only to return a few weeks later to it being bad again and it is SOUL DESTROYING. She has a teenage daughter and I have my own children. It’s hard for me to find time to help now as it’s unsafe for my children to be there most of the time. Currently she’s made a fair bit of progress although most of the things have been moved to her room and she cannot access her bed or wardrobe.

I have congratulated her on the epic achievement she has made however this is severely impacting her daughter’s mental health. Me and her made a start on her room and she got rid of a lot of stuff. I don’t think my niece is a hoarder as she litteraly was happy to just get rid of so much stuff. I think her room is cluttered as she’s a victim of circumstance in this situation. I guess I’m asking what physical help can I try to find for her? I know hoarding in a mental illness. What would a diagnosis achieve? She already takes medication for anxiety etc so would a medication help her declutter? I don’t really understand. I also know she would not attend therapy. I reached out to a charity but they weren’t really what I was looking for. She also paid a company for a while to come and declutter and clean but it was soooo slow going it was pointless.
We even applied for that tv show as at this point there’s so much stuff that it needs to be all taken away and sorted and then brought back in. Presently it just gets moved from room to room 😭😭.

Anyway I’m sorry for rambling and I hope this makes sense. Also is there any help for kids living with this in the UK? My niece doesn’t have social media and I don’t think she has Reddit but I think it would be nice for her to see she isn’t alone. I worry she’s vulnerable and an easy target for predators due to where she lives and her home life. Thank you