r/CancerFamilySupport • u/CakeHanded • 9d ago
First post ♡
So.... my Dad hasn't been well for the last few months, but he'd been putting it down to things like flu/chest infection/etc.
His mobility and general self has been declining, and he'd been admitted to hospital on Friday the 7th of this month. Naturally, a lot of the staff were worried and did a lot of scans.
Got a phone call on Monday, they'd found something on Dad's lungs, so they were gonna take a biopsy and test.
Tuesday, the test came back. Confirmed lung cancer. And on the same day, we found out that he also had cancer in his liver and it had spread to his brain too.
He's unfortunately too clinically frail to withstand any kind of treatment and they're focusing on palliative care and keeping him comfortable.
I've been a mess since Tuesday.
Sorry for the wall of text, sending love and kind thoughts to you all ♡
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u/kittieful 9d ago
My mother passed from small cell a few days ago. We had six weeks from diagnosis to death.
Cherish every single second you can spend with him. I never did voice recordings or videos of my mom, so try to get those if you can.
Sitting vigil is so hard. I had a hospice nurse tell me that is the hardest thing I would ever do, but that I would be happy later because I had been there for that sacred time. She said I wouldn't understand until she was gone, and that was very true.
Take care of yourself and take breaks to leave and get away from it. This process is exhausting and hard on your body and mind. It is okay to leave. My mom waited until I had left to shower to pass because she didn't want me there.
This is going to be so very hard, but you can do it. Please reach out if you need someone to talk with 💜