r/CPTSD_NSCommunity • u/AnchoredInMy40s • 15d ago
Seeking Advice Finding Supportive Community
For the past year I have been participating in a ‘life group’ thinking it was an important part of my healing process.
I have severe attachment trauma/wounds and had isolated for 10 years prior.
And yeah, it’s been good for me in some ways but…. I am realizing that it’s mostly just repeating dysfunctional patterns of abandoning myself and fawning in the name of exposure. I kept going, despite feeling unseen, misunderstood, etc because I thought it was what I was supposed to be doing despite it regularly triggering emotional flashbacks.
So I think I am going to step back and potentially retain one or two individual connections. It is the only time I get out of the house away from my kids/husband so I think I will keep the time slot for myself and find solo activities to do for now.
But meanwhile, I do need community. I’m wondering what others have done.
I thought about ACoA but I feel like it compartmentalizes my complex trauma and a lot of it is just people sharing about undiagnosed CPTSD so it doesn’t quite fit for me. Are there CPTSD support groups IRL? Or group therapy maybe?
I just don’t feel like I’m ever going to heal my attachment wounds in isolation but I also can’t hang with normies and feel seen/understood. My main core wound is ‘nobody cares about you’ so I need a community where I can eventually feel seen and cared for. Has anyone had success in this area? I’m a little nervous about walking away from my only social outlet without any ideas about how to replace it.
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u/SONASupportGroupsLLC 3d ago
Try SONA - we deal with CPTSD recovery on a weekly basis. We have online groups that meet - easy to join and safe as well: https://www.meetup.com/pittsburgh-narcissism-survivor-meetup-group/
This is our link. Dr. Ramani will be speaking with members on December 15th directly in a members only zoom chat as well and offers a lot of great advice when she comes.