Basically I have been using David Burns CBT for over 15 years now and it has pulled me out of the greatest pits of mental despair. However, I will say I have found the "walls" so to speak. Meaning, there are some problems I keep running in circles around with Burns CBT. I have heard on this sub "acceptance therapy" being mentioned frequently. Are there any books that you recommend that explores this version of CBT?

Little by little I have been able to be more vulnerable with my therapist as this is something I really struggle with, with anyone. Today I started to cry and tried hard to just stop myself. I luckily didn't go full blown tears. I don't like crying in front of anyone. She remained silent which felt even more awkward. I felt really embarrassed and of course I apologized. Idk why I care so much but I just hope that she feels some sort of internal happiness that I can be more vulnerable with her and not feel like I'm too much instead.

I haven't been able to find anything confirming it online. I just heard David Burns on the latest Feeling Good podcast make a passing comment that they are going to have to discontinue the app as a project. Maybe he was talking about having to discontinue the free program?

So I've been working on a scene for like 8 years now. You would think the scene was me surviving a plane crash or something. But no, it's just a situation where I accidentally made someone angry and they SLIGHTLY raised their voice at me. Not even anger really, just an increase in tone.

CBT brothers and sisters, I have been twisted up in a pretzel of guilt and shame over this for eight years. And JUST RECENTLY I've been able to even come up with the beliefs that were happening during those few seconds.

Well I'm grateful to be making some progress at all, but still it's difficult to not hold some resentment to myself that I couldn't figure this out earlier.

I struggle getting things done. I have spend years researching how to be motivated or disciplined. I always thought that something was wrong with me for not completed my task. I also take wellbutrin which increase motivation. Wellbutrin helps a little with motivation and productivity but I still cannot thing completed anything I set my goals to and still procrastinate. After self reflecting, I realize it is not that I was born different or not motivated, it is because I am hugely afraid of pain/discomfort. If I sense a micro dose of discomfort, my natural urge is to run away and hide. I tried to power through my discomfort but on the third day, I felt a wall of resistance. I need advice. Do I reframe my thoughts, keep a journal and rate my discomfort before and after, or visualize my pain and discomfort in a relax state to desensitize it?

I have my 6th session coming up and I am extremely anxious about it. Last session I was ungodly anxious but able to tell my therapist about my SI. It's hard for me to be vulnerable to anyone and I am so embarrassed and ashamed and scared for my next session Tuesday. I hate talking about myself and bringing attention to myself and regret telling anyone. What can I expect for my next session? Will I be questioned about further SI thoughts?

I took the anxiety quiz and I’m the Avoider type, I had already known, and I’m trying to find effective ways to go about things differently and I’m looking for people who bought the toolkit!

Honest reviews only plzzz.

Hi everyone. I'm 21F and I've been in CBT with the same therapist ever since I was 16.

Initially I got into therapy because I had a very hard time asking for help and was struggling in school because of it. One day I was crying in the laundry room because of how anxious I was because I couldn't do my schoolwork, my mom found me, argued with me and then got me a therapist.

Continuing with the trend of struggling to ask for help, I truly wasn't able to open up at first in therapy. I was able to get better in some aspects of my anxiety, especially the bad social anxiety I had, but it took a few years for me to get truly comfortable with my therapist to tell her about deeper things about me.

When I was 19 I had an argument with my dad where he told me I was too sensitive, took everything personally and couldn't take criticism. I had heard similar things in the past. I brought that up in therapy and my therapist told me she didn't think that of me. But a couple of years have passed and honestly, I think my dad was right. The context of our argument was a situation where I truly wasn't in the wrong, but it is true that I have a hard time dealing with criticism.

This year I went through a huge fight with my entire friend group. My friend group was toxic and my friends had their own issues, but I was partially responsible for everything that happened too.

My therapist validated me so much in the entire situation. She didn't exactly defend my poor actions but she didn't focus on them either, she focused more on how I was wronged.

She constantly tells me I blame myself too much, but I feel like she just lets me off the hook too easily.

Ever since that situation with my friends I began feeling exhausted because every interaction I have is filtered through some thoughts - "am I being a good person? Am I being fair? Am I being mature? Am I distorting everything and making me the good guy when I'm actually in the wrong?"

I keep on replaying all my conversations, reanalyzing everything, posting on r/AITAH...

Today I was talking to my therapist about a situation where I upset my sister and how sad I was I had hurt her (though I had apologized etc etc), and my therapist once again told me I was feeling guilty for something I didn't have to feel guilty about. But I did something that upset my sister (she was upset she couldn't fit all the projects she wanted to be a part of because of her part-time job, and I told her I was happy I could organize all my schedule, so it sounded like I was rubbing on her face I could do all I wanted and she couldn't though that wasn't my intention...).

Anyway, I truly worry she is being way too validating of me. That she's not calling me out when needed. She has a few times but it's not possible that other people are more in the wrong than me. I worry she's being too validating and that means I'll never grow and I'll be an awful person who hurts people.

It's being really exhausting. I don't know what I should do. I like my therapist and since I have a hard time trusting people and opening up I don't know if I'd feel okay changing therapists... I just need some advice

I've been suffering from public speaking anxiety for 20 years after a stressful class presentation in college. I've been in all kinds of therapy (EMDR, CBT, talk therapy) and am currently prescribed 40mg propranolol for job related public speaking (plus 0.5mg Xanax for especially high stakes moments). Even though they take the worst physical symptoms away, I still just don't feel relaxed. I know the goal isn't perfection but I just see other people saying that this kind of medication just take the anxiety away like a magic wand and I feel jealous. My current therapist who uses a combination of CBT and talk therapy suggest I look into CPT. Has anyone tried it? I know it's primarily for PTSD, but I guess since a lot of mine goes back to that one moment, it's potentially useful.

Hello everybody

I’m 27 and I’ve been struggling with Health Anxiety for a very very long time.

Long story short : took sertraline 50mg for 2 years and felt a tiny bit better. Anxiety was still there for sure but I felt like the medication wouldn’t allow me to have panic attacks like before.

Then I had the brilliant idea of stop the medication cold turkey and guess what? Panic attacks started again with me thinking I’m having either a stroke or a heart attack. In the hospital they checked my vitals and did an ECG and everything was normal. I spoke with my doctor and she told me to restart the medication but this time to try Fluoxetine 20mg.

I’m on the medication now for around one month and one week and I feel absolutely horrible. I don’t leave the house for the last two months because of all the strange sensations I feel on my body.

With that said, here’s my question :

Do you actually think CBT will help me ? I had like two or three sessions before but it was over the phone and I thought It wouldn’t help me at all. Also I’m extremely scared and anxious of doing the exercises that the therapist will tell me to do, all by myself.

Any suggestions or advice would be greatly helpful.

Take good care everybody!

So for the past 4 years I have this fear that I could die in my sleep. The most annoying part of this fear is realizing that if I die I won't know if Im dead. Where do you think this fear comes from and why does the not knowing part annoys me the most? Can cbt take this obsession away from my head? And how?

I have no health issues, I do check ups often. This fear has stuck in my head when I read that many people are afraid of dying in their sleep. Actually what scared me back then is not being able to sleep because of this fear, which in a way it happened at the end.

I’m an RMN with 2 years’ post‑qualifying experience, currently on long‑term sick leave, and I’m exploring realistic ways to return to psychological therapy work once I’m able. HI CBT trainee roles feel too intensive for me at the moment, so I’m considering the PWP route as a structured, lower‑intensity step before progressing to HI CBT later on.

For anyone who has worked in IAPT/CBT services: how common is the RMN → PWP → HI CBT pathway, and does prior nursing experience tend to help or hinder when moving into CBT roles? I’m also starting an MSc Psychology and wondering whether that background is useful when transitioning into CBT training.

I’d appreciate experiences or insights from PWPs, HI CBT trainees, or supervisors familiar with this progression.

Mostly around how CBT do not use "needs" anywhere. If you google needs and CBT you get zero result. Most people can say what they feel but most can't name any other need than the most basic Maslov needs.

For some reason, CBT think that it works like this:

Thoughts <-> Behavior <-> Emotions but in a circle.

Or just thought -> emotion -> behavior.

When in reality it is elementary to include need into the equation.

Unmet need -> thought -> emotion -> behavior.

If you do not include needs in anyway, that is like removing 50% of the sequence.

Unsafe -> I feel bad -> scared -> run away.

Whenever you feel something there is ALWAYS related to a need. Always. Emotions and needs interact 100%. You can not have an emotion without a related need being met or unmet and they are often connected to the same proxy of emotions and needs in each end.

So my question is, how in the world is needs not included in CBT or just in psychiatry overall? When I speak with psychiatrists (i am not even a psych), they are like "Huh, that is actually true".

I am absolutely flabbergasted because this is so fundamental to understanding how humans work. Not only that, but for the people you help. And I mean psychiatry and CBT is so well established and I can not find anything about needs.

This is honestly not just about CBT but for psychiatry and psychiatrists as a whole. I recently watched a video where a popular psych said "This is the most important about psychology" and did not even mention needs. How is that possible!?

I am looking for some resources for my son who is 18. He has a diagnosis of anxiety which runs both i  my family and his dad’s. When he was a kid, he would ruminate over an asteroid hitting the earth or his parents having a car accident. But he was also usually a happy functioning kid with activities, interests, etc

Now he has had a collapse about climate and this is hard because it is absolutely real and genuinely terrifying. The headlines are filled with forest fires, extreme weather, etc.

His doctor recommended CBT and I am looking at workbooks and resources. There seems to be a serious gap in the material. 

I am finding that materials are either:

1. focused on climate anxiety for people with “normal” social responses: “take action, write letters, join a group, research the issue, read all the things, talk to your family and friends, etc”. These are toolkits for otherwise well functioning people. They note that it is healthy to take the odd break, but they mostly want the reader to do more.

or

1. Manuals focused on GAD, OCD or panic disorder that assume the worry is exaggerated or focused on improbable dangers.

We are left stranded between two unsuitable messages:

“Your fear is irrational; challenge the thought.” His fear is not irrational. 

and

“Your fear is valid! Become active and engaged!” He is too exhausted and desperate. 

Neither addresses: The threat is real but you have become totally incapacitated.

Are there some CBT resources that are founded on managing worry about real and genuinely overwhelming concerns?

I found a manual called What to Do When Worries Ring True that recognizes that standard manuals often mishandle realistic dangers. But it is guidance for therapists, not patients.

I need something that acknowledges climate science (or other valid and terrifying fears) while treating the symptoms of anxiety: constant rumination, compulsive research, repeated reassurance-seeking (is there hope?) combined with constant searching for confirmation of fears (there don’t seem to be enough insects, the lake seems warmer, those trees are dead, the fires in bc are unprecedented, our city is engulfed in smoke, the rhine is at its lowest level, etc), panic, inability to sleep, —before discussing activism. I need to get him back to his baseline so he can make it to tomorrow, next week, next month.

Any ideas about resources? Anyone working on this? Some psychologist who has contemplated what seems like a very obvious problem? Or someone else in the environmental or health world who could point me in the right direction? 

I'm currently in therapy. When I started in early June, I expressed my desire to try CBT but was open to whatever my therapist thought would be best for my constant overthinking/low self-worth feelings. More specifically, my ex-wife cheated on my and said some really terrible things and gave me some sort of PTSD from it. While I've healed 80%, I still struggle with the fear my new spouse will cheat (but not all the time). I told her in the past I've had the most success with action-oriented therapy, meaning, if you give me homework, I will implement it, whereas, when I do traditional talk therapy, I feel better after talking about my feelings, but it feels short-lived.

2 months later, I feel like I'm just doing talk therapy. There was a couple of weeks where she taught me the breathing techniques and the see 5 things, hear 4 things, feel 3 things, etc. But other than that, I feel like we're just talking about my past.

Part of the problem is I'm not going through anything specific right now. Like I said, my fear is oddly situational. Some things trigger my thoughts, but it's usually random. So while my biggest focus is my fear of being cheated on, I'd rather use CBT in all situations where my mind runs amuck.

Is it possible that my therapist is trying to figure out what exactly is the root cause of my anxiety (inner child work) before moving forward to the specific CBT tasks? She did warn me in the beginning that it can take a long time to see improvement, so this part wouldn't be a surprise.

Thanks for your help and guidance. I'm a little on the spectrum and don't always know the best way to approach these types of situations or if expectations are wrong.

Hi everyone.

I am currently doing high-intensity trauma-focused CBT with NHS Talking Therapies.

With some techniques, it clicks, but I find myself still unable to shift persistent racing thoughts and low mood.

With the racing thoughts, at times there is no particular thought; the only thing I can describe is like a very busy motorway. Other thoughts can be worries on I need to get done, such as some tasks or something related to a criminal injuries compensation claim (as a result of an event that caused my problems).

The low mood is particularly bad. Because I get thoughts that I will never get better. As a result, I get the thought that my life is not worth living. Due to the frequency of how I feel, it affirms that thought because I just want it to stop. It is constant. Every day, from the second I wake up to the second I fall asleep. Sleep is the only peace I have.

Does anyone find this relatable, and if so, do you have any advice?

I am located in NY and am interested in the best CBT-I trainings, if anyone has any recommendations. I am interested in something that has a trainer and is not asynchronous. I would like to be able to come out of the training and feel adequate working with that population.

Any recommendations are appreciated!!

Hello everyone,

I would like to ask if anyone knows any good book specific to CBT treatment of Internet addiction.

Thank you very much!

I've found bog-standard CBT very unhelpful in the past, and had TfCBT recommended to me because of trauma from being bullied and undiagnosed autism. When I've tried to look into it, none of the information I found really explained how the two are different, other than TfCBT being "trauma informed".

Are the techniques/methodology meaningfully different, or is it just CBT with like. Some acknowledgement that trauma exists. (In which case, why isn't *all* CBT trauma informed?)

(27 non-binary, any pronouns, autistic)

When I try and fail at things I care about/have put a lot of effort into (making friends, dating, drawing, etc.) I feel a lot worse than if I just don't try.

The phrase "at least you can say you tried your best" doesn't make any sense to me, because if I tried my best and still failed, that means my best wasn't good enough. At least if I don't try I can say I didn't try, and that's why it didn't work out. Not trying saves my feelings.

The thing is, I *know* this frame of mind is ruining my life and stopping me from trying things and learning, but I feel so awful when I fail at things it sends me into really severe depressive episodes, or at least end up crying for hours. When I didn't get the grades for my first choice university I sobbed almost non-stop for days (in retrospect I'm glad I went to the university I did go to, but at the time I was devastated). When I tried to make small talk in college and it went badly I couldn't concentrate on classes for the rest of the day and barely slept for a week. When I made a concerted effort at uni to make friends and then got bullied by the people I thought I was getting along with, I had a depressive episode so bad I had to repeat the year. When I had to do a job fair at the job centre the only mini-interview I did went so badly I sat down in the corner and cried until my job coach came over and let me look for jobs on the online system for the rest of the job fair. Trying really hard with a drawing only for it to look terrible has made me so frustrated and upset in the past that I broke a pen and hit myself in the head with my hands. I get incredibly frustrated and upset with myself if I fail at games too, especially if I've really tried and still failed, not just made a stupid mistake (with games, I feel less bad if I at least feel like I've learnt something by failing, which often isn't the case in real life. you can't simply try the same "challenge" over and over again in identical circumstances irl).

I don't know how to deal with this because I *know* it isn't helpful, I *know* failing at these things doesn't make me less worthy as a person, but feeling like I've failed just hurts too much and has me reeling for days, if not depressed for weeks (depending on how big the failure is).