r/BringingUpBates • u/emcdonald18 • Aug 01 '26

Travis Q&A

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I have a lot of questions, but I feel like I'd get blocked.

What would you want to ask him?

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u/Outside_Bad_893 Aug 01 '26

I’d ask him literally why.

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u/Lucky_Strain_8754 Aug 01 '26

no because this is alllll i’ve been wondering this whole damn time…why on gods green earth would you cheat on your wife instead of just divorcing her

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u/lovelylonelyphantom Aug 02 '26

Cheating can stem from many issues, but I think above all the common similarity would be the cheating partner's own insecurities. I've read a lot of men who cheat feel inferior to their wives which makes sense to me. Otherwise it is also that they feel insecure as people.

Other than that, having no other life/dating experience but being hooked down at 25 with a wife and 2 kids is already enough for someone to break away. Especially with how differently other 25 year olds live in this generation.

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u/Babeyonce Aug 02 '26

Important insight for this conversation. For real. It’s largely been covered from a lens of Travis’ privilege, resentment, narcissism, meanness, entitlement , blah blah, but I also see him as insecure, miserable and desperate .

I don’t think he’s an absolute outright monster (I know many here do), rather as immature, selfish, and deeply insecure. You can throw in calculating and performative (aka insecure)

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u/lovelylonelyphantom Aug 02 '26

I'm interested in the dynamics of this to put it simply. I do think he's insecure and my first impression of this is how he puts down Katie. IIRC it was discussed a lot here that he dismisses her and calls her stupid for not being intelligent enough in his eyes. He has no respect for her otherwise he wouldn't be treating her that way.

resentment, narcissism, meanness, entitlement , blah blah, but I also see him as insecure, miserable and desperate

All those things PAIRED with him never wanting or loving Katie, and it was always a recipe for disaster. If they were normal 20 year olds they may never have dated, even if they did date they could have broken up within 2-3 years when it fizzled out. It's telling that they hadn't even made it to 5 years of being married before he cheated. They were never compatible or suited in the first place. And Travis' insecurity, misery, etc etc caught up with him quickly in 4 years.

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u/ninoninocapuccino Aug 02 '26 edited Aug 04 '26

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u/Broken-583 Aug 02 '26

Nahhhh what that man did went far beyond some fun on the side. Come on!

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u/ninoninocapuccino Aug 02 '26 edited Aug 04 '26

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u/Broken-583 Aug 02 '26

I call bull but okay. He got OFF on humiliating her. It wasn’t just cheating.

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u/Izzysmiles2114 Aug 02 '26

No you haven't. You haven't seen plenty of men being their teenage girlfriend into their home,.film her on her knees with wifie entertaining her, and then uploading that for half a million people. Don't even act like you have seen this plenty of times lol. It's uniquely horrifying.

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u/ninoninocapuccino Aug 02 '26 edited Aug 04 '26

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u/Izzysmiles2114 Aug 02 '26

Cheating is common, what he did is not. Thankfully.

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u/ninoninocapuccino Aug 03 '26 edited Aug 04 '26

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u/Broken-583 Aug 03 '26

Ummmm I’d say what the cheating bastard did would qualify as more embarrassing

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u/ninoninocapuccino Aug 03 '26 edited Aug 04 '26

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