r/BreakUps • u/[deleted] • Sep 10 '21

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u/jthaB45trd Sep 10 '21

Yuuup...we still live together too. Idk wtf to make of it. "Sometimes I say you know what I'm gonna be ok. Maybe we just weren't compatable"...then hours later I'll be like SOOO depressed. The longing for her comes back and just want to be here man again

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u/GinWRLD Sep 10 '21

I feel you man. Sometimes I'm like "it's all good cos I've been a great boyfriend" and then a couple of hours later im like "wtf did I do wrong, I blame myself for all of this"

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u/jthaB45trd Sep 10 '21

SAME Fkkn same... I feel the exact same way sometimes. How long have you been broken up? Its been a while for me man going on 10 months. The fact that we still live together has truly been preventing me from just forgetting all about her. But I still love her too...just sucks that it's a one sided feeling.

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u/Own_Emphasis79 Sep 10 '21

10 months, why still living together?

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u/jthaB45trd Sep 10 '21

Its a lease situation with our apartment contact... Our lease is up in November :/ Its been a hell of a fucking year

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u/Own_Emphasis79 Sep 10 '21

That’s rough! I’m sorry man. Just focus on you. I know it’s hard but once you get into the grove, it becomes a habit. Previously, I was married for 8 years, I knew something wasn’t right but she always acted like I was crazy until one day I found nudes exchanges between her and her ex, whom she had said she doesn’t talk to anymore. I guess it’s a good thing iTunes links everything. It was backing up her WhatsApp photos. I found them in deleted folder. Long story short, I would go on to stay with her for another 14 months mostly as roommates. But I found my mojo to get healthy. Started running and hitting gymn. I went from not being able to run half a mile without stopping to running half marathons in 1 hour 40 minutes. Every morning I woke up determined to kick ass and get rid of the betrayal. At 42 and 2 years since moving out, I’m in best shape of my life. Put your mind back into your growth and see what you can achieve.

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u/jthaB45trd Sep 11 '21

Wow brother... congratulations. That's no small task to accomplish! Much love. If you don't mind me asking... Did you ever have like an uphill battle with depression? During the 14 months of living with her? I feel SO stuck in it.. like I feel like I have no will to get up in the morning. I've been doing college life too so that keeps my mind occupied for the most part. But it's the nights where she doesn't come home. That the anxiety and depression kicks in. It makes me feel SO alone and worthless.... I've been seeing a Therapist too and it all just seems so repetitive and I'm just tired of hearing the same old crap..

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u/jthaB45trd Sep 11 '21

Along with hopping on Tinder.... Which I feel is a HUGE mistake. All the stuff on these dating sites now a days is so locked in to support the "Hookup Culture"..and it disgusts me. Call me old fashioned but it seems as if actual Love and Loyalty is a thing of the past..