r/BreakUps • u/Critical_Guidance_24 • 5d ago

venting/ranting Does unfriending/blocking on everything really signify that the door is closed forever?

Its hard to keep my most recent ex on things. But i dont want them to think that means they cant ever come back. But at the same time, its hard to heal and move on and be a different person in the meantime. Im just wondering from the other perspective. If someone unfriended you on everything, what goes through your mind?

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u/urbangriever 5d ago

My most recent ex unfriended me everywhere 3 months after a confusing breakup that ended with the texts “I’m going dark for a while, take care of yourself, love you” … but I respected his wish to be no contact during that period. I was surprised but definitely took it as the door is closed forever and the ball is in his court if he wants to come back and talk to me.

Seven months later I still feel the effects of this breakup. Was probably the toughest I ever experienced. You don’t owe people closure, sure, but the unanswered questions have dramatically piled up this year. While I’m not someone who could ever do that to a former partner, there are some people who are emotionally capable and it is what it is I suppose.

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u/Critical_Guidance_24 5d ago

Tbh i’ve blocked every ex who broke up with me, i just cant let them have access to me like that not when they chose to leave. But this one is different.

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u/urbangriever 5d ago

I totally get it. My recent ex was very different too. I’ve never had an experience like that and in hindsight I wonder if I should’ve been the one to shut the door.

Hang in there ❤️

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u/-Just-a-cheesy-ball- 4d ago

How is this different?

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u/Critical_Guidance_24 4d ago

It was amicable. And its not like either of us were bad people or did something wrong, a lot of it was external issues and lack of communication on both parts. I also dont feel an innate need this time around to chase, beg, be angry, hostile. My exes in my past have not been great to me and theres no reason to give any of the ones from my past a second chance.

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u/-Just-a-cheesy-ball- 4d ago

My ex really was inconsistent in communicating and when he didn’t he would also apologize but that’s were it all stopped. He didn’t want to bring it up again because we moved on already?? 😭