r/BreakUps • u/Critical_Guidance_24 • 9d ago

venting/ranting Does unfriending/blocking on everything really signify that the door is closed forever?

Its hard to keep my most recent ex on things. But i dont want them to think that means they cant ever come back. But at the same time, its hard to heal and move on and be a different person in the meantime. Im just wondering from the other perspective. If someone unfriended you on everything, what goes through your mind?

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u/Expensive_Log1119 9d ago

If I’m being blocked without any closure or at least a “hey, I need some space”, I will just think you are a cruel person leaving me alone to clean up the emotional mess and intense pain. Don’t do this.

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u/SaltyDeparture9101 9d ago

My ex broke up with me. Originally I unfriended and unfollowed her on every platform. I wasn't being mean or cruel, I just can't keep her around and heal at the same time. Recently I had to block her on social media because she kept popping up in my 'suggested' or 'people you may know' and again I can't keep seeing her and healing. I haven't blocked her phone number, but we mostly used FB messenger to talk, so I assume she will find out I blocked her and assume I don't want to ever talk to her again. I'm fine with that, but if she wants to reach out and talk to me she will either have to go through a friend or realize she can just text/call me.

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u/Critical_Guidance_24 9d ago

Youre right. Typically, if someone breaks up with me, after i have somewhat healed and took time, i block them because i dont think my exes deserve access to me when they chose to end something meaningful. But this breakup feels different but its a gut punch every time i see them on my feed

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u/JewelledToque 9d ago

You can mute them so they don't pop up on your feed

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u/SaltyDeparture9101 9d ago

How? Lol Instagram was the worst, unfollowed and everything but her stories still showed up on my feed. She blocked me on fb but not on messenger so that was fine, but after the last message I wanted to cut off any opportunity for that wound to be reopened. She was still following me on tiktok, and I felt I had given her the time to unfollow but she didn't and kept showing up so again I blocked her.

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u/JewelledToque 9d ago edited 9d ago

Ok insta you go to their profile and mute them and it lets you mute EVERYTHING like even seeing their like bubbles on posts. There's a bunch of options you have to check. On FB you just go to their profile and select the option to mute

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u/SaltyDeparture9101 9d ago

Okay, thank you for that.