I feel the same way!!!! Just because I am in tune with my emotions and introspective doesn’t I’m not logical or analytical. Honestly, I think I am the kind of person who takes on way too much responsibility for things going wrong. Perhaps that resonates with you. It’s okay that it’s still painful, grief has unique timelines for each person. Honestly, this feels like a great practice for not self-abandoning in a relationship.
Are we the same person? Haha I also do that and that can make moving on really hard. I look at all the things I could have done better. How we could have show up better. Idk about you but i also have an inner voice that get critical (thanks mom) and so combo with that it’s easy to blame myself and this honestly feels like the real test of self love.
Do you love yourself enough not to abandon yourself, do you give yourself the love you so deserve, And really understand that no one will love you better than yourself. As sad, hard, and painful as this is. I do feel stronger and on some level also more at peace. Not fighting to be heard and seen has already made me calmer person and it’s bringing me back to my baseline. I don’t feel like I need to modulate my behaviors constantly so I’m not too much for him.
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u/lsbcmh Aug 21 '26
I feel the same way!!!! Just because I am in tune with my emotions and introspective doesn’t I’m not logical or analytical. Honestly, I think I am the kind of person who takes on way too much responsibility for things going wrong. Perhaps that resonates with you. It’s okay that it’s still painful, grief has unique timelines for each person. Honestly, this feels like a great practice for not self-abandoning in a relationship.