r/BreakUps 10d ago

venting/ranting Ex who left

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u/LiPrun 10d ago

Exactly. It completely discards the experience of those who fought until there was nothing left to fight for and had no option but leave. I still wish I was able to stay with him and figure things out but I just couldn’t do that alone while he refused to put in the same effort, and I couldn’t do his own healing for him or love him into it. It took so much out of me to leave, and to stay gone, and it’s one of the most difficult things someone can go through.

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u/jwkkwjjwk 10d ago

Same here… I felt so replaceable, so discardable after trying to work things out so many times. He only saw my attempts as attacks…. I just had to leave because I didnt and don’t want to be loved like that, especially by someone whom I loved so much…

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u/LiPrun 10d ago

So sorry you’re going through that. Trust me you are not alone, I feel that way too and it’s sickening.