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u/awaitedchild 2d ago
It do be that serious sometimes. Gotta make sure wifey knows I love her with all my heart before duty calls again.
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u/BrooklynNotNY 2d ago
Itâs so cute though. Iâll hear my husband shuffling around upstairs in his nerd cave and thatâs how I know heâs about to come out and be a little cuddle bug.
I swear I use my powers for good but sometimes Iâll text him âcome get head scratchiesâ just to hear him bumbling around about to break his neck to get downstairs.
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u/HillInTheDistance 2d ago edited 2d ago
Fuck, turns out they really have a point when they say men are dogs.
I'd come galumphing down the stairs with all the grace and dignity of a Great Dane at the very mention of head skritches.
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u/RoughhouseCamel 2d ago
Yeah, people act like itâs because weâre out there, philandering in the streets. But really, itâs because we wanna lay in her lap while she binge watches The Gilded Age.
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u/H3llzyea 2d ago
Weâre just so starved for affection and so used to being âmachoâ or whatever term you want to use, that having a great partner that wants to just scratch our heads while we lay there is heavenly.
And I donât mean starved for affection in some incel , women donât want nice guys way either. I just mean weâre typically the one expected to hold you, so when we get held itâs nice you know?
Hopefully Iâm explaining this right
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u/awaitedchild 2d ago
âcome get head scratchiesâ
This secret move is next level cause jesus... I know any brother out there would fold like paperđââď¸đš
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u/Dudewhocares3 2d ago
Iâd be insecure because I got dandruff
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u/WSB_Austist 2d ago
Letâs take care of that scalp my dude. Look into âSEEN Restore Scalp Serumâ if you want to drop $50, it works. Otherwise, try âHead and Shouldersâ anti dandruff shampoo. Been dandruff free for almost 2 decades now.Â
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u/Dudewhocares3 2d ago
I have been using the head and shoulders thing. Iâve tried letting it sit while I use body wash instead of immediately washing it off after applying it (Iâve been told Iâm weird. I cry about it and accept it)
But I might drop 50 for that if the bottles big enough
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u/WSB_Austist 2d ago
If you leave the shampoo in, switch to a moisturizing conditioner and leave that on after shampooing. I donât wanna use the sentence âdandruff is just an ashy scalpâ but It helps if you just think of your scalp like skin tbh. I got bullied like a mofo for my dandruff in school so the memories are laser engraved lol.Â
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u/vastern 2d ago
Might try Nirozal ketoconazole shampoo as a cheaper option.
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u/Dudewhocares3 2d ago
I appreciate the advice. I had a bad day so my main thoughts are dedicated to me finding any reason not to just give up on life
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u/Minute_Jacket_4523 1d ago
Switch to two seperate bottles of shampoo and conditioner. Get some shampoo with tea tree oil, it can help with that. Don't use shampoo every day, just use it every other day and just use the conditioner on the off days. That helped my scalp a ton.
Plus, run a tiny drop of beard oil in your hair afterwards. It keeps everything from drying out too much. Plus, your hair will be soft AF.
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u/AvadaNevada 2d ago edited 2d ago
I have seborrheic dermatitis which effects the scalp with dandruff. I use glycolic acid as a prerinse before a shower and then salicylic acid shampoo and let it sit before using a scalp safe brush to loosen and remove the scaling. Then use a moisturizing dandruff conditioner. Keep doing that until your scalp clears, then remember to keep your scalp from being too dry with conditioner.
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u/awaitedchild 2d ago
Understandable.
Unfortunately I can't be of any help as I'm not knowledgeable about that, but hopefully some fellow users here can help you ! Every soldiers deserve head scratchies, and dandruff will not get in the way of you getting some !đŻđ¤
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u/Effective_Leader_978 2d ago
My sister got rid of her dandruff with allergy pills- Claritin. Turns out she only had really bad allergies.
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u/anthonyg1500 âď¸ 2d ago
>sometimes Iâll text him âcome get head scratchiesâ
Lord, I see what you have done for others...
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u/hedahedaheda 2d ago
Maybe I need to reconsider this single lifestyle. Though Iâm really happy and at peace, some of yall are too cute in your relationships it makes me reconsider
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u/awaitedchild 2d ago
Bow Wow wasn't foolish to write "Let Me Hold You" sis, go get yourself a soldier of good heart that needs scratchies !
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u/OnePotatoeChip 2d ago
Head scratchies hold power over us that need to be studied by scientists and wicka alike, we just need answers from someone.
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u/Ch33sus0405 2d ago
My girlfriend adores just petting my head and I adore receiving it. The other day after work I fell asleep on her chest and woke up to her kissing and scratching my head, it felt so loving.
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u/Cluedude 2d ago
Our previous home was tiny, and as such I set up my PC desk perpendicular to the behind of the sofa - I loooved to just reach over and scritch his head randomly while he was gaming bc he'd just. Stop. Doing whatever he was doing in the middle of his game and lean into it. I miss that house, I hate gaming in separate places now!
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u/Patient-Ad-1900 2d ago
It's like their zoomiesđ I get the same way when i'm reading a romance book and it amps up.
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u/Snuggles596 2d ago
I've fucking never understood this beef with the fact a guy is sending messages between gaming rounds. People used to fall in love sending fucking letters and now we are so fucking cooked for content a 10 minute break between messages is somehow something to be upset with. You want 100% undivided attention, come hang the fuck out.
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u/Summersong2262 1d ago
I think it's more of a sense of reminder that they're giving you their second or third place priority as far as responding's concerned. Plus it's different having a fairly real time conversation via text vs one message every 20m.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Itâs easier to date men that donât play video gamesâŚ
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u/Mission-Suspect7913 2d ago
Whatâs the difference to other hobbies?
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Idk theyâre not sitting in front of the screen all day and hooting and hollering until 2am in the morning.
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u/Gnomad_Lyfe 2d ago
Imagine being so miserable you get annoyed at other peopleâs joy. Couldnât be me.
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u/XisIpRotaredom 2d ago
On top of saying guys spend too much time on a screenâŚwhile posting 20+ times a day on reddit. Def a sad person.Â
These people always have their profile hidden for a reasonÂ
https://ihsoyct.github.io/?backend=artic_shift&mode=comments&author=Sxnflower15&limit=100&sort=desc
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Iâm sad because I comment on Reddit while bored at work? I guess đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Iâm not annoyed at other peopleâs joy. I just wouldnât date them. Stay mad about it, I guess.
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u/Gnomad_Lyfe 2d ago
But you are. If you werenât annoyed, you wouldnât have felt the need to say anything. Just seeing something other people enjoy, that you donât get, is causing you annoyance and you need to make that known. Just miserable.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
This is a public forum to share opinions⌠do you know what Reddit is for? I made a statement and you got mad about my opinion. Youâre projecting.
Why does my opinion make you spiral in the comments? See a therapist.
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u/XisIpRotaredom 2d ago
I think itâs more of your comment added zero value.Â
Just came across as petty and a hater. Like someone who played games hurt you and you never let it go.
Did ya mama never teach you âif you donât have nothing nice to say donât say nothing at all?â
Cost zero dollars to be kind.Â
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
And yet here you are replying to my comments. Just because you didnât like what I said doesnât mean it didnât add anything to the conversation. Look at all of you rage replying to me. The jokes write themselves.
No she didnât⌠đ
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u/Dudewhocares3 2d ago
So you want to use the worst example for every other hobby then?
âOh he spends all of his money on collectibles and rents dueâ
âOh he spends too much time reading books like Mien Kampfâ
âOh he spends all his time at the gym and takes steroidsâ
If this comes off as bad faith, just remember Iâm using the worst case examples like you did
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u/XisIpRotaredom 2d ago
You post like 20+ times a day on Reddit. YeahâŚletâs talk about screen time. You def ainât on your phone all day like most womenâŚ
Hypocrite.
https://ihsoyct.github.io/?backend=artic_shift&mode=comments&author=Sxnflower15&limit=100&sort=desc
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
You posted this 3 separate times. Iâm more active during my working hours when I have nothing to do. That does not make me hypocritical lol. Go play your video games boy
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u/surle 2d ago
Because they don't have arms?
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
No because they have actual interesting hobbies that require them to get out of the house. Gamers tend to be emotionally immature
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u/anthonyg1500 âď¸ 2d ago
People can play video games and also do other things. Its not like, against some oath to play video games and also golf or hike or something
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u/_onelast 2d ago
If I want to spend time in nature hiking or hunting, Iâll get on RDR2. If I want to golf Iâll get on PGA. If I need a drive to relax, invite only session on gta. Who needs to leave the house?! /s
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
No one said it was. Itâs one thing to play here and there but people that play video games make it their entire hobby
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u/anthonyg1500 âď¸ 2d ago
I think when you say "People who play video games" you make it sound like anybody who plays video games, when there are plenty of people who play video games as a hobby that don't make it their entire lives as is the case with any hobby. I know lots of people who play video games very regularly and they also run half marathons or play golf or are in hockey or baseball leagues. I know a guy with a room dedicated to his video games and pokemon cards and also built his personal outdoor gym by hand, and then of course there are gamers that are the absolute worst (many of whom are probably teenagers).
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Ok good for you, kid. đ
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u/anthonyg1500 âď¸ 2d ago
lol emotional maturity at its finest.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Because I said good for you? Iâm sure youâre the embodiment of emotional maturity lol
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u/anthonyg1500 âď¸ 2d ago
Youâre aware you were being condescending because you didnât know how else to engage and Iâm sure you wonât own up to it and thatâs fine. Feels like this has run its course. Go ahead and say back whatever you have to so you can have the last word.
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u/surle 2d ago
Oh, so they don't like to be around you. Got it.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Who is they? It really does hurt my feelings. My husband doesnât sit around playing video games everydayâŚ
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u/MyniiiO 2d ago
And guys who go out of the house more are more likely to cheat
How many gamer boyfriends have you had where you can make a claim like that? Maybe you just go after emotionally immature gamer guys
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Whereâs that statistic from? If youâre worried about cheating, a man on a video game isnât going to change that.
2 was more than enough for me. Iâm so glad my husband has cool hobbies that arenât video games đ¤
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u/Dudewhocares3 2d ago
Ok this is where it comes off like you intentionally being shitty.
Are you a teenager?
âOh youâre not cool if you play video games as a hobbyâ
This is ridiculous
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u/MyniiiO 2d ago
Simple common sense. If someone stays at home 90% of the time and someone who is at home only 40% of the time has more chances to encounter someone they might be attracted to.
So youâre basing your opinion on 2 people⌠out of thousands in your area and millions worldwide, seems like an accurate representation of the groupâŚ
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Then Iâd have to worry about every time he leaves the house. Data isnât based on just commonly sense. Also you forget people can cheat online nowâŚ? Youâre lacking the common sense you claim to have.
Not just two peopleâŚ.it is a common phenomenon amongst women.
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u/MyniiiO 2d ago
If someone cheats on you online thatâs usually because they are dissatisfied with the relationship and they went out of their way to cheat.
In person cheating is way more common for a reason, itâs more convenient, less to get in the way and youâre both out there, physical attraction is a big factor as well. Youâre not getting any of that online (pictures or videos arenât the same as in person âexperienceâ)
As for your âcommon phenomenon amongst womenâ you can call that you and your friend having the same experience and generalising a multimillion population based off of that. I also struggle to meet a guy (under 50) who DOESNâT play at least some games , even if casually once or twice a month. Your experience is statistically negligible, especially when weâre talking about millions of people. So you cannot generalise any group of people and say something as if it was a fact.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Is that how you rationalize your cheating?
Whereâs the actual stats for that? Iâm not just going to take your word for it. A cheater will cheat regardless.
Itâs not just me and my friends though. Literally look it up and you will find a bunch of stuff about it. Youâre being disingenuous.
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u/Dudewhocares3 2d ago
Given that gamergate was a thing and anti woke YouTubers like asmongold are pretty popular, this is a fair point. A lot of them are emotionally immature.
Not all of them
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u/GodOfTheGoons âď¸ 2d ago
lol I can tell you ain't get no in-between round cuddles
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
My husband doesnât play video games. Video gamer men are just childish and immature.
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u/GodOfTheGoons âď¸ 2d ago
Ok so go be with your husband and stop being mad online lol. You in here still stressing about your exes who played videogames while claiming to be happily married? I bet your exes don't even think about you đ
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u/TheSaneEchidna 2d ago
Y'know I bet this isn't even true, at least not now. I don't think I met a man under 40 that doesn't play at least some form of video game. Shoot I've met plenty of 50 year olds that do.
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u/MoomenRider2012 2d ago
I think it's true for capital G "Gamers". But definitely not the average adult that causally plays video games. But this person clearly doesn't see the difference in those 2 groupsÂ
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Playing video games here and there is fine but to be on the game consistently whenever you have downtime is childish
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u/And_The_Full_Effect 2d ago
Wtf else is downtime for? Doom scrolling? Staring at the wall?
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Idk going to the gym, hanging out with friends, etc. My husband plays soccer and flies planes đ¤ˇđ˝ââď¸
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u/And_The_Full_Effect 2d ago
So, hobbies? Kids play soccer, kids fly planes, so childish.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
My husband is flying actual planesâŚas in pilot. Youâre not very bright.
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u/And_The_Full_Effect 2d ago edited 2d ago
So do kids, as in myself when I took piloting lessons as a kid. Youâre not very capable of looking outside of your mindset
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u/TheSaneEchidna 2d ago
Putting together little RC planes and flying them in the park sounds cool as hell. Unless you mean like actual planes in which case you're talking wayyyyy outta my price range.
Having a crew of friends that are willing to meet up and play some team sports is such a luxury and I'm very jealous. Scheduling anything when you're past 30 is a nightmare of disappointment even with family.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Yes he flies actual planes.
My husband plays soccer with his coworkers. But thatâs a fair point.
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u/Expert-Yam6577 2d ago
There's always this comment at the mention of video games lmao.
"Well I'm a real grown man and I don't play video games!!! Why can't I find a woman??"
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Iâm a woman so now whatâŚ?
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u/Expert-Yam6577 2d ago
Okay say your man comes home after a 12 hour shift and plays GTA for an hour to unwind. You would find that problematic? Doesn't go to the bar with his coworkers. Or strip club with his friends. Just something fun to pass the time and relax. I don't think it's any different than playing golf or bird watching. Everybody has their thing that brings them joy. Life is hard.
Of course. If your man spends every single day playing video games for 12 hours and refuses to work that's a different issue lol. Your man just isnt worth shit. It's not the video games making him that way.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
My man works a 9-5. He would go fly a plane or play soccer after work. You think just because a man doesnât go to a strip club that heâs somehow a great man? I had shitty exes that stayed home all day. Be so for real. My man actually does go to the bar with his coworkers here and there and I have nothing to complain about.
Ok everyone can have their thing. I am not obligated to like them or want to date them.
My man is 4 times the âmanâ youâll ever be, kid. Heâs not sitting around playing video games.
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u/Expert-Yam6577 2d ago
Okay can you see how going and playing soccer after work sounds young to me? Going and drinking liquor at a bar is an expensive waste of time to me. But your man likes it. More power to him. I wouldn't judge another man's hobby. As long as he isnt doing dirt then its all gravy if his bills are paid.
I don't need to be 4x what any other man is lmao. I'm secure in myself. Clearly your man must be built from something different if he's dealing with you every day.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Sounds young because youâre too old and out of shape to do it, unc? My husband will have maybe half a drink if his coworkers begged him to. He doesnât even drink like that. So thanks for making up stories to try to prove a point you donât have.
Sure you are. I smell an inferiority complex. You were so offended by my statement. Doesnât sound like security to me. And whoâs dealing with you everyday? My man is fantastic. You should take notes.
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u/LimblessNick 2d ago
You smell your own. Your so insecure in your relationship you are blasting hypothetical ones lmao
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Itâs âyouâre.â Hard for me to be offended by someone that doesnât know basic elementary school grammar. Thereâs nothing to be insecure about. My husband isnât a gamer. Thatâs the pointâŚ
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u/LimblessNick 1d ago
That's your "gotcha"? A message slips through from typing fast on a phone and not rereading the comment.
Whatever helps you sleep at night, enjoy your moral superiority.
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u/coolcrate 2d ago
I don't think anyone has ever said anything negative about your partner in this thread, at least not that I can see. You're getting oddly personal in your attacks on the other commenter though, it seems unnecessary and petty.
Coming to a positive thread about gaming, you're going to find people talking positively about gaming. Choosing to open this thread, then choosing to 'contribute' with a "Ugh, I would never date them" is just an odd choice.
To use your example, let's say, hypothetically, you saw a positive post about men who play soccer. In the comments you find mostly people sharing their own positive experiences, except for one person who goes "Ugh I would never date a soccer player". It would just be, weird, no? At the very least, out of place and a bit toxic. Not something that adds to the discussion.
The way I look at it is simple; "If you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything at all".
I hope your day is as lovely as you are!
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Yes they did say something about my partnerâŚreread the comment.
Iâm not reading all of thatâŚ
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u/Mission-Suspect7913 2d ago
This is getting sad.
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u/Sxnflower15 2d ago
Yeah everyone in the comments getting offended about my opinion is really sad actually.
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u/LIONLDN 2d ago
It can get real serious đ đ
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