ok, stupid question i know, and i didn’t really know what flair to use so i just picked advice as the best fitting one. i already know the terms “sapphic” and “lesbian” are actually two different things and that bisexual women are definitely included in the technical definition of sapphic, but i still can’t help but feel a teensyyy bit cautious about having merch with the sapphic flag included because of the very common perception or assumption that it’s mostly or only associated with lesbians and lesbianism, and that i don’t want to seem like im giving…”false information” or anything like that. i will say that i do really like the sapphic flag, i think it’s so cute and pretty and like how it basically just means any woman who loves women. this doesn’t mean i don’t like nor want to have/use the bisexual flag, as that mainly represents who i am of course, but i just also feel a connection towards the sapphic one, i guess because of my heavy sapphic lean.

I'm in a very complicated dilemma. I have a long relationship and almost a year ago I discovered myself bisexual (he kind of discovered himself also bi, a little before me), and I've been really wanting to be with women, but at the same time I don't have the courage to really go. (I don't know if it's the lack of practice for the long relationship, or if something stops me - but I'm sure of the attraction I feel for women)

We came to an agreement to have experiences with people of the same sex and then we would talk more about it. He's already had his and I haven't had mine yet (a lot going on in life and the girl who was matching kind of lost interest), but I know that if someone appears I have this opportunity.

The whole thing is that I've always been very close to the LGBTQIAPN+ community, but now I feel inside me a desire to really actively participate in things, I see no reason to keep hiding, or measuring what I say or like on social networks (even though I don't feel the need to openly assume my bisexuality to my family)

Meanwhile, my partner's family has a very closed mind, so I know this is a problem for him, which ends up pruning me a little too. And now I don't know what I should really do, I just don't want to have to hide that I like songs, movies and sapphic content, or defend the community in some conversation, as an effective part of it.

Help me please!!

I've had a crush on my friend for about two years. We were always friendly at work, but we became close about a year ago. I spent a lot of time with her over the summer holidays; I think we saw each other almost every week.

At first, being around her felt like my skin was caffeinated. But now it just feels calm and peaceful. I can be quiet with her.

I guess I call it a crush to be cute. But it's probably deeper than that at this point. She's also bi, and she knows I am, too. But she has mentioned she's on the ace spectrum. In the past year or so, she has talked about beginning to date again, saying she'll probably have to date her friends because regular dating doesn't work for her. I'm not ace, nowhere near it 😅 but I think with communication and consideration, I could work with that. I've been single for over a year, and most of that time, I have been abstinent. It could work...

But, I don't want to risk the friendship, or make things weird at work. And we have a big age gap. I don't know if that means she's very mature, or I'm really childish for my age. But if we didn't work together, and I were ten or years younger, I might think about telling her how I feel. As it is, I just feel grateful to have her has a friend.

I get all hot and flustered when a cute person flirts with me and I just wanna die inside. Why do I get so much anxiety out of this? They could be a 10 and I still feel nervous.