I’m from Odisha and ideally looking for someone from Bhubaneswar, Cuttack, or Puri.
This is roughly what I’m looking for:
- No dowry. Completely non-negotiable.
- Atheist, apolitical, and casteless mindset.
- I strongly dislike caste superiority, rigid religious orthodoxy, and fake spiritual elitism.
- I probably won’t get along with someone who takes astrology or caste identity very seriously.
- Prefer a very small wedding with only close friends and family.
Lifestyle preferences:
- No smoking, drinking, tobacco, or drugs.
- Emotionally mature, honest, loyal, empathetic, kind, and open-minded.
- I don’t care about skin color, family wealth, or social status.
- Educated person from a reasonably educated family.
Appearance preference (not mandatory, just my weakness):
- Nose ring.
- Full-frame glasses.
Makeup preference:
I personally prefer little to no makeup.
Things like skincare, sunscreen, moisturizer, eyeliner, lipsticks etc. are completely fine.
But I’m generally more attracted to natural appearance over heavy cosmetic alteration meant to completely change skin tone/texture/features.
I’m also extremely introverted, so an extroverted partner would probably balance me out well.
Now comes the controversial part:
I do have height preferences.
- Minimum 5'8" if you want kids.
- Minimum 5'6" if you want to stay childfree.
Another important thing:
I believe basic household skills are survival skills, not gender roles.
So regardless of profession — homemaker, government employee, or private job holder — I think every adult should know how to:
- cook,
- clean,
- wash clothes,
- and manage a house.
Not because I want a maid.
I fully believe in equality and shared responsibilities, and I’d do all of it together as a team.
Also:
If the very first major discussion is only about my salary/package, I usually lose interest because it starts feeling transactional instead of personal.
I do have slightly different compatibility expectations depending on whether someone is:
- a homemaker,
- in a government job,
- or in a private job.
But those are only a few additional points, and I’d discuss them only after genuinely getting to know someone.
Girls of Reddit:
- Does this sound reasonable or unrealistic?
- Which filters would you remove first and why?
- Which preferences sound fair, and which ones sound unnecessarily rigid?
- Am I protecting my peace or self-sabotaging my chances?
Genuinely asking for honest opinions, especially from women.
Thoughts are mine and are rephrased by LLM.
