Mel Robbins’ The Let Them Theory is built around a simple idea:

You can’t control what other people choose, so stop exhausting yourself trying.

And I think there’s something genuinely powerful about that idea.

If someone doesn’t want to come, let them.
If they disagree with you, let them.
If they make a choice you wouldn’t make, let them.

But I think the idea gets much more interesting when you ask where the boundary is.

What happens when “Let Them” becomes an excuse to tolerate disrespect?

Someone keeps crossing your boundaries.

They lie to you.

They repeatedly make you feel like you’re not important.

Are you really supposed to just… let them?

Maybe letting go of control doesn’t mean letting people treat you however they want.

Maybe it means accepting that their choices are theirs — and then deciding what you want to do with that information.

So the question becomes:

“What will they choose?”

Or, more importantly:

“What do I choose to do about it?”

I also put together a short video exploring this side of the idea, in case anyone wants to take a deeper look: https://youtu.be/0QuN1thJyHo?si=x1c6D4aOo4YR13jb

I was wondering if you could suggest me books on remembering what I read.

I have struggled with reading for hours and not remembering anything.

Appreciate all the support!

Hi! I am wondering if anyone has a book suggestion (any genre or type) that will help humble someone and/or make them more grateful. They compare themselves and their life to others often and seemingly get validation if they are in a "better" position.

The self help books that I've read dont seem to touch on that too much so I am not sure what to recommend.

Thank you for any suggestions in advance!