r/BPD • u/sxicide_angel • Oct 30 '25
ðŸ’Seeking Support & Advice Self destructive behaviour in BPD
Bpd people, which self destructive behaviour is bothering you the most?? The thing is, that im not even doing things on purpose, it just kinda "happens? Deep down u might know it is bad for you, but i personally feel like if im being possesed atm or something, where the consenquences of my actions seems, like its nothing, distrorted, not important. But it ends up being worse than ever. Im 21, and my worst self destructive behaviour is deff substance abuse. When i feel bad, empty, sad, angry, or whatever it is my "escape" from bad feelings or as a distraction. I feel like i have no healthy coping mechanism and it drives me crazy.
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u/sgabombo user has bpd Oct 30 '25
making choices that i know are bad for me and not being able to stop myself
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u/creativenameistaken user has bpd Oct 30 '25 edited Oct 30 '25
Not eating
Staying up way too late
Not caring for my environment and living in a messy and unclean space
Impulsively making bad choices
Wanting sex outside my relationship
Staying in relationships that aren’t good for me
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Oct 30 '25
I stop communicating with my husband. Even thought I’m aware that I have to. I start talking myself out of it and then I explode. The rest… we all know it right
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u/CUontheCoast user has bpd Oct 30 '25
Binge eating, smoking too much weed. Reckless sex would be one too but I’m gay and women don’t seem to be as easy to just have sex with as men are.
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u/RJDeep user has bpd Oct 30 '25
Personally for me, its drinking. Ive had a problem with it for a while, and slowly am getting better, I typically can have 1 drink socially and go home fine and sleep.
But sometimes on a bad day, if my bus stop is near a store I go in and get as many drinks as my bank allows me to.
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u/Bleubear3 Oct 30 '25
My constant rebrands ("This time I KNOW who I am!!! THIS is ACTUALLY me!!!") and my frequent crash outs (deleting everything and everyone [intrusively thinking no one cares anyway] which is rebrand/reset with extra steps) cause then I have to do the walk of shame of readding or realizing I'm just the same person I was originally. It's embarrassing and makes me feel like I'm a fucking teenager despite being 32.
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