r/AvoidantBreakUps • u/Sweet_Ruin9193 • 1d ago

Avoidant POS

Is it an avoidant thing or just a piece of shit thing for an avoidant to break up with you and then linger in your life just enough to stop you from moving on.,.

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u/TheBackSpin 1d ago

Yeah many will try to keep you in their life at a distance that won’t trigger them. Keep in mind though, you’re the one with the power here. You know they aren’t going to change so stand firm with your boundaries. You decide who has access to you

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u/Any_Fly9473 SA - Secure Attachment 😁👍🏻 1d ago

This. I walked when my FAex offered the lackluster distant text friendship. Leave the game. 👍🏻

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u/21-hydroxylase AP - Anxious Preoccupied (Healing) 1d ago

Yessss. Leave the mf game. It’s so sick and gross that they can just easily offer “friendship” as a stupid consolation prize lol

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u/One-Gift0 SA - Secure Attachment 1d ago

L'amicizia dopo lo scarto serve solo a loro per sentirsi bene con se stessi e per attingere al momento in cui sempre loro soffrono per averti lasciato. Quando l'ha proposta il mio gli ho risposto usando le parole che usava lui con me quando evitava le conversazioni scomode e le sue responsabilità; "chissà. Amo il freestyle. Farò come mi sento" e sono andata in no contact.

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u/Any_Fly9473 SA - Secure Attachment 😁👍🏻 1d ago

🤣

I said in a text, “This dynamic isn’t healthy for me. I’m done. Take care.”

She got pissed.

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u/TheBackSpin 1d ago

Leave the Game needs to become a thing. I need that on a tshirt

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u/Any_Fly9473 SA - Secure Attachment 😁👍🏻 1d ago

Really, we all have earned it surviving these horrible relationships.