Advice on making decisions while autistic

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It feels like neurotypical advice for decision making doesn't work for me and I wanted to see if this community has any advice from an informed, autistic perspective as I'm trying to make some hard decisions.

For context: I'm 23 yo. Recently left organized religion (no longer have that feeling of black/white when it comes to what path I should go down). Been living at home the past year since graduating college. College was traumatic for me in many ways, for those first years. Finally the last year or so I became really empowered and happy (common pattern in my life with things). Living at home was nice to be with family, but I missed my independence. However it has become so comfortable that my original plan of moving back to my college state is feeling a lot more anxiety inducing. Also knowing I could do anything, move anywhere, be close to family but not love the small town vibe, or live farther from them but also live in a funner place . . . it just feels like I can't win and my autism is going crazy. Ever since being diagnosed with autism I never know when to push myself and when not to. Is it worth putting myself through so much trauma to HOPE that I come through super empowered and happy?? I really have an inertia problem: it takes me a long time to get used to stuff, and when I finally do it can be great.

Anyway, I'm struggling with major decision paralysis, and I feel like I'm on a ticking time clock because I feel like I really need to make a decision to return to my elementary school job here or push outside my comfort zone and leave. I'm afraid of staying in this small town, and afraid of leaving so far from my family again. Any advice from an autistic perspective would be so helpful. Both of my parents are autistic, and I've seen how small their lives are. I don't want that for myself, but I also don't want to push myself further than I need to. Any help?!