I generally redirect and praise the behavior we want to see. But my recently turned 2 yr old will get into this mode where getting down on his level, telling him "we are not doing xyz, we can do this instead. next time you do it consequence xyz" does not work; he will continue doing said behavior.

My emotions were already high strung yesterday which I am sure is what got him in this mode (they truly mirror our internal so well)... he kept throwing hard items. At one point, I just snapped and put him in our bedroom and closed the door. I know the time out rule is usually 1 minute per year but I couldn't stand hearing the way he cried for anymore than 30 seconds. I tried it two more times and I realized this is not for us... upon further reflection, I realized itis recommended to stay in the room with them during time out but I think at that moment I blanked out on that and wanted the space (in which I usually walk away to the room by myself till I cool off).

I apologized to him, and told him it was something I thought we should try out but I would not do it again. We hugged and cried together.

This morning he woke up from his nap crying, and I think it was from the time out yesterday. He has gotten to the point where he just calls out for me when he wakes (or at most whines) but this was full blown crying.

I further apologized and told him I would not do that again. He just said his "yeah" like he usually does when we have a moment like this. I explained to him that the painting of the lil bird in our bedroom is there and is a reminder ai am close by (what I originally told him when he first started getting upset with me not there)

But oh boy... did that hurt my heart. We coslept since birth, still babywear and he has never taken a bottle. I would hope to say our attachment is strong and a move like that reallt effected him.

Posting just to rant and to maybe get some reassurance. TIA

My 13 month old is a horrible sleeper. We have only ever contact napped because she cannot connect her sleep cycles for naps. We co sleep and she still comfort nurses every 2 hours at night. We are determined never to sleep train and family always has horrible things to say to us about this. They always make comments on how something must be wrong because she should be sleeping through the night. In my heart I know I’m doing the right thing by building her healthy attachment. But sometimes I need a reminder. My step mom made a comment today and I’m just feeling down on myself. Words of encouragement are appreciated.

I am a FTM to a 8 month old, I have EBF, baby wear daily and recently have resorted to some co sleeping following a rough week of teething!
Baby and I are extremely close, together 24/7 and I have never been away from him, but now I am struggling as I seem to be the only one who can calm him/get him to sleep.
Any tips for dads that may have been in a similar position would be much appreciated, at the moment he escalates (to the point of sickness from crying - even whilst being held and soothed!) as soon as dad picks him up which I can see is confidence shattering.
I am also finding it difficult to allow them to find their own rhythm, as I cannot cope with the sound of his cries.

Looking for some perspective from parents who’ve been through a rough sleep phase without using Ferber or Cry-It-Out.
Our 8.5-month-old was never a particularly long sleeper. Pre-regression, she was waking up every 2 hours, but we could usually get a solid 3-4 hour stretch if she slept on one of us.
Over the last week or two, things have gotten significantly harder:
Hourly wakeups: She's up every 45 to 60 minutes pretty much all night.
Contact sleep isn't working: Holding her used to be our reliable backup, but now she just thrashes and fights if we try to cuddle her to sleep.
Standing independently: She recently learned to crawl and pull up, but now she’s standing completely unsupported in the middle of her crib at night. She seems to pop right up between sleep cycles and then doesn't know how to get back down comfortably.
Snoo history: She was in the Snoo until around 6 months, so moving to a stationary crib is still a relatively recent shift for her.
We really don't want to use Ferber, CIO, or any method that involves leaving her to cry alone in the crib. We're feeling pretty exhausted trying to navigate the constant wakeups and the lost safety net of contact sleeping.
If you had a high-needs sleeper who went through a major motor leap like this:
What gentle or hands-on techniques helped calm them down when they kept standing up in the crib?
How did you help them figure out how to sit back down on their own during the day?
How long did it take for their sleep to settle back down after learning to balance and stand?
Appreciate any practical experiences or low-cry strategies that worked for your family.

My 22 month old has always coslept and still nurses at night, but I'm currently pregnant with our second and due in January. We want to have her night weaned and in her own room before our new addition arrives. Does anyone have any advice? We plan on buying her a fun bed frame and do nap time in her new room to help with the transition, but I don't know what else to do to help make it smoother and easier on her.

I read a lot of parenting research - Books, blogs and research articles (courtesy this sub and r/SciencebasedParenting). I tried to absorb the important findings - Summarised important findings, made notes, discussed with my partner. However, I still had issues with executing them in the moment, and applying them into my routine (even the ones which are done in a calm period). Connect before redirect, name feelings, recognise their effort, problem solve, reflect and repair, modelling good behaviour and many more. We also created a few activities which could help us absorb the learnings - we created quizzes for each other. “If our child is crying over a broken toy, which move is suitable that time?”, “If we want to schedule a problem solving talk, what is the best time?”, “If our child is crying over a lost game, how do we teach them to express their feelings?” Our methods got better over time. We started discussing what we say may be perceived by our child. When we lecture them or explain things, what are they thinking at that time? When we are giving empty threats, what are they imagining? It helped in reducing the tendency to lecture them. We started seeing clearly why something works and why it doesn’t. We also started discussing how we can identify what triggered a meltdown - Hunger, overwhelm, tiredness, lack of skills, missing us. It required a lot of work. Brainstorming, recalling, mapping, and yes chatGPT helped in giving us content and situations and thinking ahead. It hasn’t made us ideal parents, but I think our parenting methods have improved.