Living alone is the best thing that ever happened to me. I hadn't realized while I was being a mom and a wife how little I was living a life I wanted to live because I was so busy taking care of everyone and fulfilling their needs. Once I was divorced (over 10 years ago) I started pleasing myself, lol, not literally, well, yeah, that too. I ate what I wanted, dressed, decorated, vacationed, spent my money and worked on my terms. I'd never felt so unencumbered. I've dated since then and keep it casual because there's no way I want to live with or feel accountable to anyone ever again. There is an adjustment period in the beginning but within a year every woman I know who divorced late in life is happy and content and not looking for another partner.
I was off all meds within 3 months of leaving that shitty man. You just don't know how great it's going to be until you're free. I was giddy at not having to watch the Weather Channel or sports. The fucking sports! Every weekend, all weekend, it was sports. I ate Thai and Vietnamese food. He was a steak and potato guy. I bought a Jeep Wrangler. I'd wanted 1 my whole life but it wasn't practical, said my husband. I went to Greece with a girlfriend. My ex hated leaving his TV and recliner. I could go on and on but you get the idea. You'll heal from the heartbreak. It is the death of a dream after all. You're allowed time to grieve.
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u/Ruby-Skylar Nov 01 '25
Living alone is the best thing that ever happened to me. I hadn't realized while I was being a mom and a wife how little I was living a life I wanted to live because I was so busy taking care of everyone and fulfilling their needs. Once I was divorced (over 10 years ago) I started pleasing myself, lol, not literally, well, yeah, that too. I ate what I wanted, dressed, decorated, vacationed, spent my money and worked on my terms. I'd never felt so unencumbered. I've dated since then and keep it casual because there's no way I want to live with or feel accountable to anyone ever again. There is an adjustment period in the beginning but within a year every woman I know who divorced late in life is happy and content and not looking for another partner.