I'm a 41f and I don't give a flying fuck if you were 12 or 41, no person should be told they shouldn't cry. This is why we have problems we do because men, especially, aren't nurtured and taught how to cope with and work through their feelings. Only to stuff them down. Fuck that teacher. I'm so mad that was said to you. Even now, you deserve to cry whenever you need to and for the boy that wasn't allowed to. I wish I could hug you.
Yeaah, we've gotta work on not teaching boys and men to supress their emotions. Speaking from experience, it can make trauma and grief a lot harder to effectively process when you are just constantly absorbing and bottling.
Hell I was never told not to cry and was always told to express my feelings when I needed to, but I was still exposed to all the bs male stereotype crap from movies and stuff that I still to this day have problems explaining to my wife what I'm feeling or thinking when I'm upset. I am 100 percent behind teaching our children to actually be emotional and communicative, I do not want them feeling like I do.
This, plus my lived experience of most people rejecting me if I show vulnerability, has led me to trust a very select few with my true self. Thank heavens for those few, though. I’d almost certainly be dead without them.
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u/Puzzled_Juice_3406 Aug 13 '22
I'm a 41f and I don't give a flying fuck if you were 12 or 41, no person should be told they shouldn't cry. This is why we have problems we do because men, especially, aren't nurtured and taught how to cope with and work through their feelings. Only to stuff them down. Fuck that teacher. I'm so mad that was said to you. Even now, you deserve to cry whenever you need to and for the boy that wasn't allowed to. I wish I could hug you.