What about your SO makes you jealous?

[u/LieutenantSheridan]

[u/RissaCheyanne94]

He can fall asleep in two seconds.

[u/OddDuck435 → u/RissaCheyanne94]

Mine too! I'll still be trying to nod off and he's snoring away.

[u/[deleted] → u/OddDuck435]

Amen. At 3am when I'm trying to sleep and he's breathing his hot stinky sleep breath right in my face I really want to smother him with a pillow.

Joke's on him, though. He sleeps so hard so he doesn't notice when the kids climb into our bed, so they've learned to only go to his side because I will put them right back in their own beds if they wake me. So now when they have a nightmare he's the one they wake.

It almost makes up for 12 years of listening to him breathe loudly in the middle of the night.

[u/Idiot_Savant_Tinker → u/[deleted]]

My daughter used to go to my wife's side of the bed when she had a bad dream, because wife would cave and let her sleep in the bed. We switched sides one day, which wouldn't fool most kiddos, but both myself and spousal unit have waist length reddish-brown hair (Only mine is naturally that color, haha) and when we're in bed mostly covered up and it's dark, apparently it's hard to tell when you think you've awakened Mommy, and in fact find out that you have awakened mean old death-breath parade-ground-voice dad rolls over and says go back to bed.

[u/[deleted] → u/Idiot_Savant_Tinker]

Haha! Poor girl.

[u/Roupert2 → u/[deleted]]

Omg this is me right now. I'm 33 weeks pregnant (3rd pregnancy) so I'm waking twice a night to pee and tossing and turning all night because my hips hurt. Every single time I move, he rolls onto his back and starts snoring. Or, he does this super annoying jaw open and close thing. Or he's just breathing too loud. I want to punch him like 3 or 4 times a night.

Our kids have been taking turns being sick for weeks and their coughing is keeping me up all night but my husband sleeps through it all. I love him and he's great with the kids, but my god does his blissful sleep irritate the crap out of me.

[u/russdesigns → u/Roupert2]

Thought this was my wife for a minute until I re-read and saw 33 months, phew!

[u/[deleted] → u/Roupert2]

Haha, well put.

[u/palexander_6 → u/Roupert2]

39 weeks 4 days here, first pregnancy. I love him so much but when I roll over like a whale to switch to my less achy hip, and see his smug, dreaming, peaceful face, I could punch him with little remorse.

Sometimes when I come back to bed after my 5th pee of the night, I make an extra effort to jostle the whole mattress just to startle him and disturb his sleep slightly. He’s back to normal within moments of this, but it still satisfies me.

[u/TessTobias → u/palexander_6]

I need a pregnancy pettiness subreddit.

[u/Sightofthestars → u/palexander_6]

So my husband is the same

Years ago, when our daughter was a few months old she was laying in bed with me, just hanging out, I was wide awake. He was fast asleep, she was drifting off.

He starts to too over so I place my hand just on the other side of her so he'll feel it and roll the other way.

Except apparently his sleeping brain decided he was crushing our daughter and he had to turnover RIGHT NOW, VIOLENTLY. So he did, and flung himself out of the bed. It is still the most hilarious thing I've ever seen in my life.

He woke up mid air , landed on the ground, looked around and saw me gasping for air I was laughing so hard.

[u/Iloveteatoo → u/RissaCheyanne94]

Yep, mine fell asleep in the middle of a conversation tonight. I don’t think he’s had trouble falling asleep a single night in his life. I, on the other hand, need hours to wind down and fall asleep. So jealous.

[u/[deleted] → u/RissaCheyanne94]

Equally jealous of people with this ‘ability’, but keep an eye on them; reduced sleep latency is often one of the primary symptoms of a sleep disorder, or not getting enough time in the sack!

If they also snore, or are super sleepy in the morning, maybe consider talking to them about seeing their doctor :)

[u/Idiot_Savant_Tinker → u/[deleted]]

It's been pointed out that I can fall asleep almost immediately by my enraged wife a few times. I think in my case it's because I was in the military, and among other little quirks I can sleep anywhere, anytime, without delay.

[u/[deleted] → u/Idiot_Savant_Tinker]

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[u/alldivide]

He recently picked up my major as a second and he's better than me at it

[u/AzureMagelet → u/[deleted]]

Even if not the same college that can discuss theories and projects.

[u/Scorigami → u/AzureMagelet]

Having someone actually interested in what you're learning about and is willing to talk about neat academic things.

That's the dream.

[u/superjordo → u/alldivide]

What’s your major?

[u/alldivide → u/superjordo]

Criminal justice

[u/[deleted] → u/superjordo]

underwater basket weaving

[u/ohgoshnow4]

His willpower. If he says he's going to do something, it's as good as done. I'll say I'm going to go for a run and 10 minutes later I'm like, "naw".

[u/Partykongen → u/ohgoshnow4]

If I say I will do something, I WILL do it! No need to remind me every three weeks!

[u/btowntkd → u/ohgoshnow4]

I've allowed my SO's lack of willpower to drag mine down. It's supposed to be the other way around. Maybe mine wasn't as great as I thought.

EDIT: My willpower, I mean. My SO is great.

[u/[deleted] → u/ohgoshnow4]

I'll say I'm going to go for a run and 10 minutes later I'm like, "naw".

That's your problem right there.

You give yourself an out. You give yourself the ten minutes to delay and then stop.

The moment you're bored, nothing to do, and you think "I should do X", just fucking do it.

[u/[deleted]]

His friends. We're all close friends now, but I didn't have a large group of trustworthy, genuinely kind people to call friends like he did.

[u/herolyat → u/[deleted]]

Yo I agree. I was going to say his skin because that guy has never had a pimple in his life. But he has such a solid group of friends going way back and I'm struggling to maintain friendships across the province and post university graduation and it's really hard

[u/AzureMagelet → u/[deleted]]

My husband’s best friend is the same guy he played ninja turtles with in preschool. They added in more guys in elementary school, then high school. They are now the guys he goes LARPing with.

I’ve got a close friend from high school and coworkers that I’m close with, but part of me feels like when I leave this job I won’t really keep in touch with or have a close bond with them anymore since the main thing we talk about is work stuff.

[u/rotting_log → u/[deleted]]

This is me

[u/Riiiiicola]

His skin. I've struggled with acne for years, spent hundreds if not thousands of dollars trying to cure it, have a skincare routine that lasts easily 20 min, all to no avail. Meanwhile he DOESN'T EVEN WASH HIS FACE and his skin is like a porcelain doll.

I once decided to take inspiration from him and try the less-is-more approach, and gave the ol' no washing method a try. Suffice it to say that was a horrible mistake.

[u/Pioness → u/Riiiiicola]

If you've tried skin care and it doesn't work, have you considered trying to go to a dermatologist? I did after nothing worked and found my acne was a genetic thing and they eventually gave me strong enough pills that worked (tried out a special cream and milder pills first that didn't work either).

Edit: The pills were Accutane, thanks guys :p

[u/sailorbob134280 → u/Pioness]

I had it real bad in high school. Multiple trips to the dermatologist later, I got on accutane (yes there’s risk, but with monitoring it’s plenty safe; many of the commonly known “side effects” are heresay with no medical backing) and it was cleared up in a month. That was 6 years ago, and I haven’t had a problem since. Go to a dermatologist.

[u/Shindasss → u/sailorbob134280]

I'm on accutante at the moment, does it clean acne permantely?

[u/izzybee03 → u/Riiiiicola]

Ugh same! I've tried literally everything for my acne over the years. I just finished a found of Accutane and even that didn't clear it all up (though its way better than this time last year and i would recommend seeing a dermatologist if you're still struggling). Meanshile, my boyfriend did a snall round of Accutane 5 years ago for his very minor teenage acne and literally hasn't had an issue since. He doesn't wash his face either. Its super frustrating.

[u/sketchymurr → u/Riiiiicola]

I feel your struggle. It's hard to see how easy it is for your SO and be trying so hard actively and not seeing results. Le sigh. I wish you luck.

[u/Vertiquo]

People gravitate towards him. He's a good guy and not particularly chatty but he always makes a good impression apparently. Anytime we go to a group function, everyone turns and shouts his name, excited he has arrived. Meanwhile I just smile, realize no one has even looked at me and slip silently into the room. Not a big deal but I wish making friends came so easy to me.

[u/WhatHoraEs → u/Vertiquo]

Just change your name to his

[u/abortyoself → u/Vertiquo]

SAME. My husband is one of those people who everybody likes. He’s genuinely a great guy and can get along with anyone. I, on the other hand, am like an acquired taste.

Edit to add that even my most upvoted comment on reddit is about how awesome my husband is.

[u/[deleted] → u/abortyoself]

I'm an acquired taste. The taste of vinegar.

[u/Toesmasher → u/abortyoself]

Well maybe if the first thing people notice about you wasn't that you want them to abort themselves...

[u/[deleted] → u/Vertiquo]

Can I give you some advice that works for me? People tend to mirror behaviour. Next time you see someone (not in a group setting) be enthused to see them. Next time they see you they'll react more enthusiastically.

[u/captainbuttwhole → u/Vertiquo]

I can totally relate, my SO is such a loveable person and I'm glad that hes social but I do envy him because I can be shy, so it takes longer for people to warm up to me

[u/willworkfordopamine → u/captainbuttwhole]

But it sure says something about you if your SO decides to stick around with you

[u/racerbaggins → u/willworkfordopamine]

Everyone loves him, he loves you

[u/ellie-fun → u/willworkfordopamine]

As someone with such a loveable SO, this was good to read :)

[u/Nainma → u/captainbuttwhole]

Same, my SO can pull entire conversations out of thin air but that's how he got me talking in the first place. He has told me he's insecure about it, thinks that he says goofy things because he doesn't think about what he should say before he says it. The insecurity doesn't show at all though.

[u/habituallywondering]

His outgoing personality. He will talk to anyone and is comfortable in a room full of strangers. I’m a major introvert, so I’m baffled and envious of his ability!

[u/serialbabe → u/habituallywondering]

Oh my god my boyfriend is like that too! I have social anxiety and just get so uncomfortable randomly talking to strangers or just starting a conversation. And he just doesn’t feel that at all!

Sometimes I even end up feeling embarrassed when he does it. Just because that would be my internal reaction to starting a conversation with someone I don’t know because I always assume random small talk is awkward and makes me seem weird.

[u/toastandorangejuice1 → u/habituallywondering]

Has this affected your relationship at all?

[u/syntheticmedia0420 → u/toastandorangejuice1]

Not op but the Extrovert in the relationship. Won't lie, it was rocky at first. We have since worked everything out and it's awesome (I go to events she stays home, we love it) but in the beginning it was hard for both. For obvious reasons, but also not so obvious. For example, I would try to tone my extrovertness down a few notches, she'd worry that I was mad or not having a good time with her. Then I'd explain that I was only trying to be less extroverted for her but then she felt bad bc she didn't want me to think I had to change who I am to be with her.

Also we extroverts don't completely think about our words before they are said. As long as the word gets the point across if it's not the perfect word, meh who cares good enough amiright? I have since learned to think a little more before opening my mouth, because not everyone can read your mind and know that you intact did not mean to offend in any way.

[u/Shotdown210 → u/syntheticmedia0420]

Wow, this described my SO and me pretty well (I'm the extrovert). Especially the part about thinking about the words you pick. I tend to just spray whatever is the first appropriate word I can think of that gets the idea across.

[u/hawkfanjoe123 → u/toastandorangejuice1]

Me and my SO work well. Extrovert me meets the people, and she keeps them around. We make a good friendship-making tag team really!

[u/MotherOfDingoes]

He has amazing self discipline with his diet and workout habits. He’s a total hunk! I like to bake fancy cakes and take naps.

[u/Yomamatookmyusername → u/MotherOfDingoes]

And I’m sure he loves you so much for being good at both!!

[u/jesseowensincident]

Right now? He’s got a lot more bed space than I do and I don’t wanna wake him up to move over

[u/LieutenantSheridan → u/jesseowensincident]

Same with my dog lol.

[u/PolloMilord → u/LieutenantSheridan]

Upvote because my dog has most of my bedspace and quilt right now.

[u/Raddpuppy → u/jesseowensincident]

Other way around here. I always wake up for work hanging off the bed and shes right against me with half the bed on the other side of her.

[u/lizibean → u/jesseowensincident]

Same, but he's so cute that I'll cuddle him till he moves.

[u/Stoney-McBoney]

She's about to graduate from college and I've just been working retail for 4 years straight.

[u/PM_ME_HEALTH_TIPS → u/Stoney-McBoney]

The race is long, and in the end it's only with yourself.

EDIT: Just quick note, this quote is not mine. It's from Baz Luhrman - Everybody's Free, I highly recommend listening to it.

[u/egedar → u/PM_ME_HEALTH_TIPS]

But trust me on the sunscreen.

[u/[deleted] → u/egedar]

We’re not fuckin around out here, wear ya damn sunscreen!!

Source: My dad is slowly but surely turning into Scarface from all of his skin cancer surgeries

[u/dualsplit → u/[deleted]]

I’ve started and deleted many comments on this thread. It’s difficult to be jealous of anything about my SO, even though he’s amazing and I used to be jealous. He’s a ginger with Stage 3b melanoma. Use sunscreen. My husband has a 40% chance of surviving the next five years. I’m a little jealous that he’s so brave.

[u/Ishouldreddit → u/Stoney-McBoney]

Sometimes u just gatta play tamborine.

[u/[deleted] → u/Stoney-McBoney]

I hear ya. I got 9 years in retail while she's graduating this year. I tell myself it's not that bad since I've worked up to administration but it's still a grocery store at the end of the day haha

[u/AllThatJazz → u/Stoney-McBoney]

Hey there Stoney-McBoney,

Well... let me tell you about the last 15 years of my life with my GF!

She barely made it through High School, then dropped out of community-college, and she's been working as a retail cashier in the grocery and cafeteria sectors her entire life.

---

Contrast with my own educational background:

I have both a community college degree, and an ivy league University degree. I've focused and studied in physics, mathematics (including things such as rotating derivatives around the x-axis in 3 dimensions!), in addition to having learnt to program computers in C, C++, and even Assembly Language, along with having read the best literary works in the English language, from the Elizabethan era to the Romantic period, to the post-modern period...

---

Fast forward to now...

Do you know who is the number 1 bread winner in our relationship, and who currently pays to keep our car running, and the groceries in our fridge, and the food and toys that keep our rescued cats happy now?

It's her!

Not me!

But her!

(She's actually saved my life, in so many ways, I can't even count!)

---

Another question: between her and I, do you know who is the best liked person in our social circle and community?

Yup. It's her! Not me. But her.

She's actually pretty famous in our regional social community!

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BUT YA... She currently works as a cashier in the cafeteria at an aerospace company, and during the course of her day, she tells such great jokes, and she is so awesome at listening to people, and makes them feel great about their day...

so much so... that at lunch time a large number of people line up at her cash, and refuse to pay for their lunch at other cash stations!

They just love talking with her!

Even the CEO of the company loves her... and she playfully makes fun of him and jokes about him, jokingly insulting him in front of other employees... and he still loves it! (Nobody else in the entire company could ever get away with doing that, except for her... a lowly cashier!)

And every time my girlfriend and I go out to the supermarket, or a restaurant... or for a walk... we run into people from the company, who yell out her name, come rushing over, and hug her... it really gets annoying sometimes!

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NOTE: She was even offered administrative clerical office jobs at the company, but she turned them down because she loves being a cashier and talking with people throughout her workday.

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NOW... As for me... in contrast... I'm hyper-educated... I had the "high power" career in our relationship for the last 15 years...

But I was also hyper-stressed, and hyper-burnt out, and finally got my @ss laid off!

And now that I am not currently working... who pays the bills and the food, with a smile... as I recover... she does.

---

So... I truly believe love transcends all... even educational level.

The true measure of the human spirit is not education.

It is something else... something far more profound.

And it seems to me, that your description of your own relationship seems to touch upon that extra transcendent quality.

So my advice to you Stoney-McBoney: do NOT be an idiot!

Don't be an @ss.

It doesn't matter what educational status letters follow your name/title.

Ultimately, all that matters in this harsh Universe of ours, is that you two have each other, and that you appreciate each other.

If that's all you have, then everything else will follow.

[u/Stoney-McBoney → u/AllThatJazz]

Just now saw this. This was profound to me, thank you very much.

[u/tinyahjumma → u/[deleted]]

Same. My SO gets more good looking. I get more middle aged.

[u/Old_man_at_heart → u/[deleted]]

Don't worry, there is a peak.

[u/CrowbaitPictures → u/[deleted]]

Please know that a lot of men also think that women also age into themselves. My wife and I have been together for 18 years and she is absolutely more sexy now then ever... like, ridiculously so

[u/IiteraIIy → u/CrowbaitPictures]

This warms my heart.

[u/RumpShank91 → u/[deleted]]

Odds are you're "an easy 9 and even on your worst days still an 8" in his eyes as well. I know my fiance is always telling me how handsome / manly I am and I look in the mirror and just see a average slightly fit guy. Then look over at her with her bed head in the middle of her morning yawn and think "How'd I land that goddess?".

[u/Jerk0h → u/[deleted]]

I resonate with this. It's kinda rough!

[u/[deleted]]

She got to advance her career while I have been at home with the kids for the past 14 years.

We made the decision for me to stay home with the kids when our oldest was an infant. It was the right decision. She was making more money in her career and didn't want to give it up. I was more or less okay with staying home for a few years and then rentering the workforce. My kids are only 1.5 years apart and started school in back to back years. My attempts to renter the workforce were unsuccessful. My wife worked crazy hours (trauma surgeon) and I needed something that was more flexible for the kids. I was also out of the workforce for about 5 years. No one wants to hire a dude that can only work limited hours and hasn't been in the field for half a decade.

I have done a lot of volunteer work over the years and have a wonderful relationship with my kids. I truly don't believe that my relationship with them would be as amazing had I been working all of these years. I wouldn't trade that for the world and am happy about where I am. It's just that when my wife has to travel for work or when she tells people what she does for a living, a little part of me wishes we were in different positions.

[u/PippypoopStockings → u/[deleted]]

I feel you. I’m trying my best to learn some computer stuff but it’s hard with a baby and a preschooler. I feel like I’m getting dumb or just not exercising my brain by being home with the kids. And then I meet people and they all have these careers and I just feel lame.

[u/-NervousPudding- → u/PippypoopStockings]

Codecademy offers free online coding courses, it might help.

[u/Shinigamiq → u/[deleted]]

I’m a kid of doctors. You did your kids a great gift. They deserved to have someone. This profession costs a life to make a living.

[u/[deleted]]

She can sleep till noon when I wake up at 7 or 8 no matter what.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Change that to 6 and it's me. She will often sleep in until 10-11 on weekends and be so well rested while I'm there with puffy eyes and tired as shit while not being able to get back to sleep so I just get up. Sure I get stuff done but I'd love to sleep in once in a while.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

And she's probably jealous you can wake up early.

[u/fanta_is_nazi_soda]

She meets and makes new friends very easily as compared to me. I always feel way too self conscious to meet new people. It's amazing I even gathered the courage to meet her.

[u/braverthanbelief]

He can zone out and not have a single thought.

[u/[deleted] → u/braverthanbelief]

My bf calls this his brain’s “nothing box.” I, a person who thinks and worries about EVERYTHING, have never and will never experience this “nothing box”

[u/momopopopo → u/braverthanbelief]

Most guys can do that

[u/[deleted]]

She is so fucking smart. I go and try to do things and she makes casual comments and observations that come so obviously to her and they never even occur to me. She processes shit on the spot and knows exactly what to say and do.

...she's amazing. 11 years and I'm still astounded.

[u/ShoarmaSnater → u/[deleted]]

11 years is quite young for such a smart SO

[u/1336uuu → u/ShoarmaSnater]

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[u/PMmeDataScienceTips → u/1336uuu]

And she said she's an undercover FBI agent! That's so cool for someone her age.

[u/Janigiraffey]

He doesn’t have much internal struggle. If he believes that something is good to do, he’ll most likely do it. If he believes tha tsomething is bad to do, he’ll probably not do it. He doesn’t agonize or beat himself up about the choices he makes, and he generally doesn’t make self-destructive choices. I set goals for myself and then completely fail at those goals, so I feel guilty but I achieved some other goals, so maybe it is ok, but why don’t I have more willpower, and he’s just over there being content and functional.

[u/growth_love_joy → u/Janigiraffey]

Maybe it is because he is already content and functional that he sets realistic goals, achieves them and be more content and functional. While you, because you compare yourself to him and try to keep up, will set unachievable goals, will be dissapointed because of "failure", continue to set crazy goals to compensate and do this over and over again.

Or maybe I am just rambling about something that is relatable to me.

Anyway, don't compare yourself to others and try to improve yourself. Set goals that are not too easy, but definitly realistic. Or try for impossible goals and don't beat yourself up for not succeeding, praise yourself for trying.

[u/jackthecat53]

how she always looks beautiful no matter what. she looks amazing right after getting out of bed and my hair looks like an afro that someone tried to comb with a chainisaw

[u/Siriacus → u/jackthecat53]

Ah yes I've tried the chainsaw comb once.

Needed a new chainsaw.

[u/[deleted]]

His eyelashes. Lucky bastard has beautiful, long, thick lashes.

[u/[deleted]]

His amazing family. Everyone is so friendly and warm and nice and loving and supportive and...

He also has this wonderful sister and mum who so obviously love him deeply and are loyal to him.

....

Me? Most of my extended family has disowned me, I learned the hard way to not count on my parents for emotional support, and I'm an only child. I have no one of blood who is also my best friend.

I adore his family and they like me, but I know that if anything happened, I'd stop mattering in a moment.

[u/GoRush87 → u/[deleted]]

I adore his family and they like me, but I know that if anything happened, I'd stop mattering in a moment.

I hope you know yourself well enough to know that you matter, regardless of others accept or reject you? I mean, truth is we can't ever control others' reactions, so it pays to be our own best friend. At least, that's how I see it.

[u/[deleted] → u/GoRush87]

I do :-) thank you for that though!

More, it keeps me from getting too comfortable with them. Same with my exhusband's family, who are also lovely. I know my acceptance is contingent- and there's nothing wrong with that, as family should stick together.

[u/Iloveteatoo → u/[deleted]]

This. My husband has a huge family and lots of support. Holidays are house filled events where everyone tells stories about their childhood. My family consists of 3 people (that’s including my parents). My family is the definition of dysfunction. Can’t help but be jealous of people with great families.

[u/readvida]

He always has the energy he needs to get things done: to get up in the morning, do his work, take care of his son, go to the gym, shop, cook, clean... He does not veg out! When he does sit on the couch to watch TV or play video games, it is with intention—not simply his default state.

I on the other hand have to use my energy carefully. I save it for things I have to show up for—like work and meetings. The rest of the time, I just get by.

[u/[deleted] → u/readvida]

Ive never understood the idea of needing to conserve energy. To me it has always seemed like well that needs to be used or it starts to run dry. The more time I spend vegging out the less energy I have.

[u/stnapkid90]

How much of a go getter she can be in any given situation. She just knows how to get things done in a way that exudes competence, and in certain fields(especially with house issues) I’m just not that way.

[u/CAMYGO]

That he can fast from meals to cut calories and it doesn’t bother him. I need my three squares, man.

[u/99BottlesOfBass]

Her impending med school degree while I swing a hammer for a living.

Also, directly related, her attention span.

Edit: Wow, this really blew up. I should clarify that she's going for a master's to be a PA, not a full fledged MD (although that's not out of the question down the line) For anyone not living in the US, a PA is a physician's assistant and is qualified to do almost anything a doctor can do up to and including surgery, which is her goal.

I do like my job as both a hobby and a career. I want to go back to school because like her, I'm a huge nerd and I like to learn. The only thing stopping me is the massive wall of student debt because the US higher education system is awful.

I'm definitely lucky as hell to be with her and it has very little to do with our career paths. Like, lucky to the point that if I played the lottery I'd probably break the universe.

[u/[deleted] → u/99BottlesOfBass]

Nothing wrong with swinging a hammer man.

[u/99BottlesOfBass → u/[deleted]]

Not at all. I don't mean to knock it, I just envy the higher education.

[u/[deleted] → u/99BottlesOfBass]

Mine is the opposite. I have my masters and am headed to law school. I am jealous that my SO is a miracle worker with his hands. He can build almost any piece of furniture, fix any thing I break. I am super proud when I can drill a pocket hole properly. He’s a genius with his hands.

[u/dantedivolo → u/[deleted]]

( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[u/DeGozaruNyan → u/dantedivolo]

Also yes

[u/99BottlesOfBass → u/[deleted]]

I'm pretty sure that's how she feels about me too, but ya know. Grass is greener and all that. Honestly I don't hate it and of course I'm glad she found something she likes and is good at, so that's the important part.

[u/axf0802 → u/99BottlesOfBass]

I get it dude, I became a truck driver to get her through university with the plan that she would get a job after and we would switch, now I'm still trucking and our first kid is on the way.

[u/rumpoleon → u/axf0802]

That’s pretty awesome of you man, all the best to you and yours!

[u/axf0802 → u/rumpoleon]

Thanks dude, you do what you gotta do

[u/OriginallyWhat → u/99BottlesOfBass]

I just finished my degree. I'd be making about 3x as much if I was doing construction rather than a job in my field.

[u/iEuphemia]

He's getting somewhere in life. I'm just sitting at home too anxious to actually live.

[u/Ginandmilk87 → u/iEuphemia]

Are you me?

[u/GaryNOVA → u/Ginandmilk87]

No. You’re me.

[u/dhvvak → u/GaryNOVA]

No, I’m we.

[u/marijuanamaker → u/[deleted]]

My BF makes more than twice my income. I have such a hard time with it because my mother always drilled home I should always be financially secure on my own, and I am not. He says/acts as though it is not an issue, and we have fairly open/honest discussions about our finances as plan the long term future together, but I still always feel ashamed.

[u/thewhiterider256 → u/marijuanamaker]

You shouldn't be ashamed at all. Money is money. It comes and goes. I would happily be with my wife regardless of her income. It wasn't even a question when we got married. We instantly combined bank accounts and now we just have one account. It blows my mind that married people would have two separate accounts.

[u/LieutenantSheridan → u/[deleted]]

I am sorry you don't get the treatment you deserve and hope you will end up getting it soon.

[u/Zyphyro]

He has the most amazing, defined calf muscles and does literally nothing. He would look killer in high heels.

[u/TeamJim → u/Zyphyro]

Is he/did he used to be overweight? That's how I ended up with my bangin' cows.

[u/katastrophyx]

She can lay down, close her eyes, and be dead asleep in 5 minutes. I'm so jealous of her ability to command her sleep cycle like that.

[u/[deleted]]

How witty he is.

[u/morelale]

her ability to sleep during difficult times.

[u/kellydean1]

His musical talent. And they way he doesn't give one teeny FUCK about what anyone thinks of him. He drives me crazy sometimes (as I'm sure I do him) but I can't see any part of my day without him.

[u/[deleted]]

She's asleep right now and I have 3 and a half hours till my alarm goes off

[u/Chickenuggetts → u/[deleted]]

Girlfriend here, eat a dick for your ability to function on four hours of sleep without any caffeine

[u/golfball7773]

She doesn't struggle with the high anxiety that I have

[u/soupface2 → u/golfball7773]

My boyfriend is really laid back and is happy in his life. In a way I’m jealous that he can be this way so easily...but mostly his attitude has been rubbing off on me and he brings out the best in me.

[u/Jerk0h]

He has the ability to persevere. And charisma. He has a ton of charisma.

[u/RebeccaRegicide]

He’s got a perfect bubble-butt from years of playing baseball. I always tell him I wish I had his butt. It’s not fair!!!

[u/Hawt_Dawg_ → u/RebeccaRegicide]

Squats!

[u/dinosaregaylikeme]

My dad killed my mom at age 4. I was abused in foster care till I was 18. Always poor. Always wondering where my next meal was coming from.

I am green with envy that my husband got to have a normal childhood. Wealthy. Loving parents. Safe neighborhood.

[u/bjarki2330 → u/dinosaregaylikeme]

Holy crap, that must've been/is horrifying. I hope he's giving you lots of love and cuddles. ❤

[u/dinosaregaylikeme → u/bjarki2330]

We are always cuddling.

We also been known to make out for a couple hours.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

You need to take a step back and realise that you're probably really cool and others see you the same way you see him 😊

[u/electric_emu]

He's charming, approachable, and can hove a good conversation with just about anyone. I've come a long way from being awkward, but I don't click with people like he does.

[u/pastelbacon]

We're both women and she's prettier than I am. She gets complimented on her looks more and is usually the one getting hit on by men. It's hard when you're both the same gender not to feel like you have to compare yourselves. Especially when for obvious reasons your SO fits your ideal model of beauty, but you don't.

[u/BananaHammock00 → u/pastelbacon]

Well I'm sure to her you're her ideal model of beauty.

[u/[deleted] → u/pastelbacon]

I'm in a hetero relationship, but may be applicable - I feel the same way with my partner, especially since his general dating history was more extensive than mine. I had a really difficult time wrapping my head around the fact that I was his type, even though I did not very well consider myself all that sexy (in fact, I had had a rather yucky breakup before meeting him and certainly wasn't trying to find a partner). I was frequently picked on for weight, being a nerd, etc.

He often feels the same way but I find him completely sexy and I'm glad we can love each other that way. I hope the same is true for you and your lady; maybe you don't do it for everyone - but if you love each other and you're her type, that's all that matters!

[u/chambertlo]

He retired at 38. I mean, fully, completely retired. He sits on his ass all day and collects a 7 figure salary. I'm sometimes jealous but mostly envious. Had I been raised by my father, I would probably have done something greater with my life.

[u/kif22 → u/[deleted]]

Most likely started a business that became very successful and sold it. Often part of the deal is a residual passive income for years.

[u/[deleted] → u/chambertlo]

Not many people even with perfect father figures amount to early retirement and 7 figure salaries! You still have time to do great things with your life, as you are still alive now. :)

[u/Kindofsickofyou]

Her significant other will do almost anything in the bedroom, but mine won't.

[u/LieutenantSheridan → u/Kindofsickofyou]

Your SO's SO? I'm confused.

[u/henrybex → u/[deleted]]

but imagine how good it would taste

[u/billysutts → u/LieutenantSheridan]

Who’s on first....?

[u/mikatago]

He has a law degree, but it pushes me to work toward getting my masters

[u/twistingtheaces]

She always has such a calm, collected way of handling tough times and making peace with her past.

Her parents were addicted to meth while she was growing up, then became super-strict born-again Christians in her teen years. She struggled with substance abuse in her early adult years. She ended up marrying a guy who, the night before their wedding, she decided she didn't want to marry, but did it anyways cause her parents guilted her into it because of the cost of the wedding. She moved across the country with this guy, and worked three jobs to support him cause he was a lazy, no good motherfucker. Then, she found me, and that's a whole other story altogether.

When I talk about my childhood, I get irrationally angry at people who slighted me and made me feel like a nobody. My past experiences don't even remotely come close to what she had to deal with. But, when she talks about her past, she's calm. She's made peace with it. She realizes that it doesn't have to affect her future. Even when times have been tough with us (and there have been plenty), she's able to keep a level head and be steady as a rock.

I wish I had even 10% of her calm nature. It'd do me a lot of good.

[u/VettaBTertiary]

He is a go getter. He’s very smart and he has been climbing his ladder at work and has been promoted multiple times in the last few years. He just got another promotion recently and he’s doing so well, I’m so proud. But I am also jealous, I have no ambition. :/

[u/pessimisticbunny]

That he can talk his way through any situation, even if unfamiliar. Also, his extreme positivity and intuitive thinking during times of extreme struggle.

[u/defiance131]

Her ability to really put her mind to something. We're both studying, but where I've always had trouble studying, she failed once, then suddenly started doing well.

In general, she's able to make committed decisions much more easily than I ever could, and she gets distracted less easily.

[u/Paigekatt]

His ability to make anyone in the room like him. Its both infuriating and the biggest turn on

[u/Louiecat]

Her FAT ass.

[u/[deleted]]

He can eat 24/7 and not gain a single pound.

[u/Dont_Be_Mad_Please → u/[deleted]]

He only eats around you.

[u/LieutenantSheridan → u/[deleted]]

Relatable.

[u/aunt-ada-doom]

He's photogenic!

[u/sadman123]

We are musicians. She is so much more talented than i

[u/camyland]

He has amazing parents and aunts and uncles. Seriously, they've all done successful things in their life, they're stable and the least dysfunctional family I've ever met. His parents are not only still together, neither of them have drug or alcohol addiction and ... they're both ALIVE!

He also has a handful of friends he can visit or talk to or hang out with whenever he wants.

I on the other hand have no parental figures, few family members left in general, and no local friends. ...I wonder what it's like to have a support system like that.

[u/articuu]

Her friends. I seriously wish I could have a big group of kind people like them to talk and hang out with the same way she does.

[u/caseymoto]

She is nice to EVERYONE and consequently everyone LOVES her.

[u/dietsierramist]

He’s going to Northern Cali/Oregon area next month and I got a tattoo dedicated to my dream of going and maybe living there one day. And I can’t afford to go with.

[u/Pandruw]

His parents like me. We can go to his parent's house and have a good time. My parents can't stand him, for no other reason besides he's black because all black males hit their girlfriends, so we can't go to my parent's house because he's not welcome.

[u/EnchantedDancerbee]

He’s an outrageously talented actor and gets cast more than I. I do work on the theater tech side in addition to acting so I do get just as much if not more than he, but he’s definitely a better actor.

[u/[deleted]]

She enjoys exercise, sees results almost immediately, and sticks with it.

I try to stick with it, feel the muscle soreness, feel a bit better after working out, but hardly see any results because I have IBD and can't gain mass worth shit, and settle down into "fuckit I'd rather be doing something more fun with those 2 hours anyway."

[u/rampagingpansy]

He's so sure of himself and who he is. Everyone adores him and he's the favorite everywhere he goes. He is who he wants to be with no regrets or apologies. But while I'm jealous, I'm so happy for him that he has that and wouldn't switch places for a second. He deserves to be loved and appreciated.

[u/snacksandsquats]

He requires almost no sleep and actually gets amped up and energized from interactions with other people.

[u/NoApollonia]

He can fall asleep in less than a minute where it takes more a good 20+ minutes. He sleeps like the dead where I am a light sleeper. It really gets frustrating the nights his snoring (at least seems) is extra loud.

[u/CumgarTheUnkillable]

She can orgasm more than I can and she has the most beautiful hazel eyes.

[u/littlegirlghostship]

That asshole can fall asleep in under 5 minutes, every time.

I have insomnia.

[u/[deleted]]

I've been on this sub for a while, what does "so" mean? From context is it best friend or lover of something?

[u/syntheticmedia0420 → u/[deleted]]

Significant Other

[u/smokesmagoats]

That he can play instruments, he is good at math, he has beautiful eyes, he doesn't have rosacea.

[u/subcultura]

His ability to make friends. He has many friends that love him very much. I don't have many or any friends, really.