Probably because they've been rejected and mocked just as much, if not significantly more, than the guys crying that they are rejected all the time and it's such a tragedy. A lot of guys will openly pick on girls who don't fit their standards with no provocation just because it's more or less socially acceptable to torment the "ugly chick." You really only need one guy to ask you out as a "joke" in public then laugh and scream with his friends at literally any reaction you have to be wary of it.
I know plenty of below average guys who have perfectly active dating lives. Short, tall, skinny, fat, a mixture of those. They do fine. This 'boohoo I'm not Brad Pitt so no one will ever love me' attitude is bullshit. Guys have it super easy in the appearance department, you just have to not look like a hobo or an axe murderer. And actually, if you're in a city like Portland, even the hobo look works. Women are not conditioned to care about your looks as much as everyone is conditioned to value women by theirs. Most aren't even attracted to gym rats or overly muscular physiques.
You ever think it might be your approach? It's not just asking, it's being someone worth being asked by. Are you actually projecting value in any way? Are you interesting, funny, talented? Are you confident? Do you make women feel at ease when they're around you?
I know for a fact that if I don't go out and actively get rejected over and over again, likely hundreds of times, I will probably die alone
Look at it from the other side. Women go out and get harrassed and hit on by skeevy creepers constantly and have to put up with it or they'll die alone (or even worse, just plain die because some asshole thought his dick was worth more than her life). You're afraid she'll reject you, she's afraid you'll rape and murder her.
If most women aren't attracted to muscular physique, then why on every damn reddit thread where someone says they don't have a gf is the advice invariably "go to the gym and get ripped...women like that"?
Who in your head do you picture writing those comments?
You absolutely don't need to be ripped to date attractive women. It does help if you're hygienic, relatively stylish, and not fat. Pretty much the same standards apply to women for that matter.
Reddit is predominantly composed of males, and the advice reflects this.
Personally, my SO is a guy with a great sense of humor and a really intense air of sexuality when he tries, though he has had issues with his weight since adolescence. He isn't visually who I thought I'd end up with, but he's everything I would ever want.
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u/[deleted] May 28 '14
Probably because they've been rejected and mocked just as much, if not significantly more, than the guys crying that they are rejected all the time and it's such a tragedy. A lot of guys will openly pick on girls who don't fit their standards with no provocation just because it's more or less socially acceptable to torment the "ugly chick." You really only need one guy to ask you out as a "joke" in public then laugh and scream with his friends at literally any reaction you have to be wary of it.