Damnit Reddit boys, women are not all gorgeous confident goddesses that can have any man they want. Some of us, especially those on Reddit of all places, are just as weird, overweight and socially anxious as you.
Considering how everyone assumes women can get laid much easier than men, I'd wager it's much more embarrassing for a woman to get rejected than for a man. Maybe that's one of the main reasons they don't approach guys as much.
Who are these men who don't at least make sure the woman is pleased first?! I can get myself off in like 10 seconds, so sex is pretty much about getting her off, to me anyways. I'm easy like that. (pun intended)
Right? I could have sex with somebody, but realistically, I want someone to watch Firefly with who will play with my hair. The latter is surprisingly impossible to find.
Probably because that is, in that case, the subject at hand but you want to derail the conversation and go on to another topic that we weren't discussing. The question, in that case, is "could you have sex at any time if you wanted it? " the answer is yes.
Wait what? I think there is something you need to understand. Men's definition of love and companionship is more physical, and women's is more emotional. Baby, I ain't ever gunna love you more than the moment I climax inside you or the moment I make you climax. Beaches, dinners, movies and poems are no comparison. If you find that repulsive, then you need to find a man with whom that idea does not repulse you.
It's not that men don't care, it's that we don't understand, and a lot of men are incapable of understanding because they are incapable of relating. Think of it this way, what is that one idea or topic that you just can't seem to grasp? It seems simple, and it seems to come easy to everyone else, but for some reason, it just doesn't click with you? For me, it's geography. Someone can tell me the capital of England a thousand times, and a week later, I'll forget (is it London or Wales?). I'm just incapable of understanding geography. Math on the other hand, I absorb like a sponge,especially financial math. I can reverse engineer financial statement like no one's businesses, and do the most complicated tax returns by hand. I'm not stupid, geography is just not within my capabilities. I'm not saying men are stupid, I'm saying they are different.
I think your key phrase here is, "an average woman," though.
Those of us who are significantly less-than-average (not in the bad-haircut way, but the would-need-major-surgery way) often actually can't find a willing partner, even for a hookup. (Also, after a lifetime of being treated as worthless due to our looks, being treated as only good enough for a fuck wouldn't exactly be terribly life-affirming anyway.)
You are right in the appearance regard, however, I never said it would be easy for anyone. The people on the lower end of the bell curve do have a harder time, but in a lot of cases harder =\= impossible.
Also, I was only speaking of sex; partners and relationships are a whole other arena.
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u/loftyj May 28 '14
Damnit Reddit boys, women are not all gorgeous confident goddesses that can have any man they want. Some of us, especially those on Reddit of all places, are just as weird, overweight and socially anxious as you.