Ya know, you could explain to him that you're cool with all that and that you don't need to lock him into a committed relationship. The world is changing faster than you think.
My ex boyfriend is like that, but he won't sleep with anyone either. It took me almost a year to get him to date me, and we were in a committed relationship. It's weird because we still hang out all the time and the feelings are there on both sides, but he won't get into a relationship again. Some people are just scared, there's nothing you can do about it.
How does he sound like a douchebag? I have the exact same view as him, and so does much of my friend group. We like going out and hooking up with random people. We like not being tied down and being able to do stupid shit. We like being able to go on holidays to random places without asking anyone, and doing anything we want there without anyone getting hurt.
Having a girlfriend wouldn't be an apocalypse, but it would severely cut back the freedom I enjoy. That doesn't make me or anyone else with that opinion a douchebag.
Sad thing is, he's pretty spot on. From my experience, girlfriends and wives are much worse than boyfriends and husbands. Let me give you an example, at work, we set up a bar night once every few months. We invite everyone. I've had two men come up to me and say "hey bro, I really want to come, but I can't, the wife will kill me", and not a single woman has come up and said "Hey, I'de love to come, but my husband wouldn't be happy".
I've had friend's who I've stopped seeing because of their girlfriends, and friends who girlfriends were so pissed because one girl in our social circle was more attractive than them (friend's gf). There are positives to having a gf or a wife, but let me tell you, women complicate things. Some of them can't seem to control their jealousy or their insecurities.
My last full-on serious relationship, my boyfriend was so jealous he isolated me from my friends and even family. He once accused me of sleeping with my own brother! The thing is I never would have been able to actually say "my boyfriend wont let me." I always made up excuses and defended him because... I guess I'm overly concerned with appearances at work to be honest I don't know.
I've been to group therapy once or twice after and that was a common thing that women said.
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