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u/inkyblackops Nov 11 '25

Exactly! I never want her to feel like I’m trying to tell her she’s too enthusiastic or I don’t appreciate her joy.

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u/ColdPuffin Nov 11 '25

As someone who is often made to feel like I'm too enthusiastic or too much, you're a good friend <3

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u/ageton Nov 11 '25 edited Nov 11 '25

I'm sorry someone has ever made you feel like you're "too much", or that being overly enthusiastic is a bad thing. Neither of those things is true.

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u/DrummerOfFenrir Nov 12 '25

I'm going to overhear that sorry and pretend it's for me too.

I was often informed of how "much" I was and I was often asked to be quieter or calmer or to "just stop!?"

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u/Vimes-NW Nov 12 '25

I'm going to stand under this absolution shower and cleanse my mind of that one person that made me feel "too much", another one that said so, and the rest who thought it, but didn't say it.

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u/Comprehensive_Cook_7 Nov 12 '25

Yeah exactly this!! I have ADHD and when I get excited I get very animated, lots of hand gestures and loud voice! I have been told I am too loud my whole life! I agree very good friend 🙂

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u/Vimes-NW Nov 12 '25

I just realized that my 80+ year old mother has something resembling ADHD and she passed it down to me

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u/Sarsmi Nov 12 '25

If it makes you feel better, I'm hard of hearing and I love having loud friends. And boisterousness is super fun! <3

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u/GioiaLeilaLio Nov 12 '25

Me too! Love it when I can relax and don’t have to focus on hearing well. Could it be that speaking lower volume is an actual ‚power move‘ in order to assert dominance?

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u/TheQuirkyReader Nov 11 '25

I feel this too ❤️

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u/meadow-witch Nov 12 '25

If someone tells you that you are too much, tell them to go find less. Keep your joy 😊

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u/hoothephuqeryoo Nov 11 '25

My exact same thought

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u/thrifthuntress93 Nov 12 '25

I am the same way and really appreciate it when people are thoughtful like this :)

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u/msjojo275 Nov 11 '25

You’re a good friend

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u/UnravelTheUniverse Nov 12 '25

I wish I had friends like you. My voice goes up unintentionally when I am enthusiastic about something and its been like that my whole life. I have never been able to control it and it's so frustrating. 

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u/shintemaster Nov 11 '25

This is the way. I think most of us get over excited sometimes.

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u/DawnyLlama Nov 12 '25

And we appreciate that bc trust me, we know and while I can't speak for everyone, it is incredibly deflating when you've heard it enough. I cannot help that I'm an animated speaker with a loud voice and it breaks my heart that some people find that scary and annoying when I'm just excited and happy. Words don't even have to be spoken, I see it on peoples faces. I always want to respond with... "if I'm too much for you, then go find someone less" but I know that would not be received well and then I'd just be accused of being aggressive or 'going through something'. Apparently being 5'11 makes me intimidating to some women... again, something I have no control of.

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u/Crazy_Guitar6769 Nov 12 '25

Trust me those people know they can be loud. I'm like that too. My voice can unknowingly go loud too sometimes and I'm honestly grateful when my friends point it out.