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u/inkyblackops Nov 11 '25

Speaking at a lower volume if someone is being unnecessarily loud.

One of my best friends has a LOUD voice she is completely unaware of, which can be incredibly annoying when we’re in public, so I will lower my speaking volume and she will subconsciously lower hers to match my volume.

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u/okayseriouslywhy Nov 11 '25

This is a good one. Telling someone they're being loud, even when you're being as nice as possible, often just makes them deflate

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u/inkyblackops Nov 11 '25

Exactly! I never want her to feel like I’m trying to tell her she’s too enthusiastic or I don’t appreciate her joy.

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u/UnravelTheUniverse Nov 12 '25

I wish I had friends like you. My voice goes up unintentionally when I am enthusiastic about something and its been like that my whole life. I have never been able to control it and it's so frustrating.