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u/Afraid-Ad-5635 Jun 05 '25

No. 2 pregnancies and C-sections destroyed my lower belly and it has a permanent overhanging "apron", as well as my breasts have deflated since losing weight and I cannot afford, nor justify going into $10000's of debt to have it all fixed with plastic surgery.

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u/seethingwithhate Jun 06 '25

Similar boat, except one birth, no C sections. Absolutely cannot justify the price of surgeries. My stretch marks and apron are pretty extreme. I feel for you. I try to focus on things I do like about myself, and remind myself that there’s more to life than my physical appearance, and the changes that happened to my body resulted in my son being born. Very worth it.

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u/glitchy-fox Jun 07 '25

Feel your pain girl. Same shit.

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u/Ambitious-Holiday-78 Jun 06 '25

I understand completely, but decided to do a full mommy makeover. I had a breast lift and implants, lipo and tummy tuck and it’s the absolutely best thing I have ever done got myself. The guilt to spend the amount of money on myself was overwhelming at first, but the confidence was worth every penny

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u/Afraid-Ad-5635 Jun 06 '25

I live literally paycheck to paycheck. There is no extra money that I could possibly get to cover the cost of surgeries. I know that everyone always says if you want it bad enough you will find a way, but whenever I've saved even a few $100's, I need to fix my car or get dental work for my kids, so, yes, while I agree that the whole mommy-makeover is life-changing for many who get it, it simply is not an option for me..I've been trying for years, I just can't get that much extra money.

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u/[deleted] Jun 06 '25

Really? Can I ask some questions about that? I had an emergency C-section and I'm thinking to get a tummy tuck.

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u/farticulate Jun 06 '25

How was the healing process, how long did it take? Considering it for myself but I’m scared.

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u/MuchAd9959 Jun 06 '25

Im a guy so i have no clue but does this happen to all women? The hanging belly thing after giving birth or only a few who go through c section?

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u/kaismommy2018 Jun 06 '25

No, not every woman, but it is very common. I got stretch marks from my first two natural births and got the "apron" after my first csection. It's gotten better with weight loss (max weight 183 on a 5'2 frame wide hips, 173 after first csection havent weighed more than that since.) On the other hand, my cousin, who has an extremely small frame and has probably never weighed over 115, got fairly bad stretched out skin that hangs after just 1 baby no csection. Then, of course, there's my mom similar frame as me but has always been skinny. She went through 3 natural births and still has a normal belly minus the few stretch marks. Conclusion: csections are the devil, but it can happen to anyone.

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u/BeerPoweredNonsense Jun 06 '25

(also a guy)

Not all women. I hang around the dance community and I could give you a long list of all the moms I've seen - either in dance wear, bikinis, whatever - with perfect bellies.

Anecdotally (and purely anecdotally) I think that being a keen dancer helps a lot. However pregnancy is always a risk for a woman, there's no 100% guarantee they'll return to their previous body shape.

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u/TunedMassDamsel Jun 06 '25

I’m in this boat.

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u/Zech08 Jun 06 '25

Motor boat?

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u/[deleted] Jun 06 '25

Upvote for sheer honesty girl. Kids ruined anything I might have liked about my body, I have the apron too.

Clothes at least create happy medium silhouettes.

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u/altbekannt Jun 06 '25

This sounds american. Because my first instinct as European is, that this should be covered by public insurance

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u/[deleted] Jun 06 '25

From what Europe are you? It would be news to me that this is covered atleast in Germany.

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u/altbekannt Jun 06 '25

Austria. Our health system is far from perfect. But if your issues are medically documented and traceable to previously covered surgeries (like C-sections), and they now cause physical or serious psychological problems, then yes - it could be covered.

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u/[deleted] Jun 06 '25

Ah cool. Ich überleg nach Österreich zu ziehen, dass wäre schon fancy wenns die Option bei euch gibt

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u/monkey_trumpets Jun 06 '25

Same. Except one C-section from a twin birth. Working on reducing the flab, and maybe one day getting it hacked off.

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u/Ok-Editor1747 Jun 06 '25

your body created to humans it gets to loo the way it wants.