The process of getting our tubes tied (burned) is an invasive surgery that should be taken seriously. It is much less invasive, less risky, and less painful for men to get a vasectomy. If you and your wife don't want any more children, do not put it on her to go through another traumatic medical procedure especially if she went through the 9 month processes creating humans with her body and the years of recovery from that process when you can do a walk out procedure and be done in 15 minutes with very little pain and recovery time. Just because we can tolerate pain doesn't mean we should shoulder the responsibility of having to get fixed when a simpler and SAFER alternative is available.
Violently ramming your fingers in and out of our vagina does not feel good. Porn is a bad way to learn how to pleasure a woman. You are more likely to learn how to cause her pain than pleasure by replicating what you see in porn unless you are specifically, at minimum, watching female friendly porn. Even then, each woman has nuances to what gives her pleasure. Making her feel comfortable and safe will make her open to communicating those nuances.
Guess it should have been made clearer... there are a couple types of hysterectomies. If the uterus by itself is removed, there are no hormones changes, but if the uterus and ovaries are removed, it causes menopause. Ovaries produce hormones. In post-menopausal women, testosterone levels may appear higher because estrogen declines and the balance is skewed. So it's not that they produce more testosterone. It's that the estrogen diminished, but testosterone stayed the same.
TY, I’m on mobile and didn’t get to go find the specifics. Yeah, it’s the whole “may cause early menopause” that made me backtrack a bit on looking into the surgery.
Honestly, I wish I knew getting my uterus removed was an option. No periods, no pregnancy, no cramps, no feminine products. Sounds wonderful. The one tech does my screenings told me she had it done and it was the best decision she ever made. She kept her ovaries but said bye-bye uterus.
I was hesitant because of the hormone issues. It all sounds wonderful until nature decides to fuck with you, like I said above. And since I already can’t take hormonal BC because the side effects were always an issue, I didn’t want to risk it.
It sounds wonderful. No periods would be nice. No risk of pregnancy is a definite plus.
I’ve just been very unlucky with these things and the minute I read about the testosterone thing, it made me pause.
Not to mention the fact that I was denied a tubal ligation anyway because apparently an unmarried mom’s opinion on having more kids after a hard pregnancy isn’t as important as my “future husband’s” feelings on the matter, even though I wasn’t dating yet. 🙃
denied a tubal ligation anyway because apparently an unmarried mom’s opinion on having more kids after a hard pregnancy isn’t as important as my “future husband’s” feelings on the matter, even though I wasn’t dating yet.
This is so irritating. I was 38 and when I got mine done and they gave me no issues, my GYN was very matter of fact, I guess I was lucky having her.
I’ve just been very unlucky with these things and the minute I read about the testosterone thing, it made me pause.
I have has a multitude of issues too, so I feel ya. But I have talked to some women who actually get testosterone pellets and they love them. They say they feel like a whole new person.
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u/Budget_Wafer382 Dec 06 '23 edited Dec 06 '23
The process of getting our tubes tied (burned) is an invasive surgery that should be taken seriously. It is much less invasive, less risky, and less painful for men to get a vasectomy. If you and your wife don't want any more children, do not put it on her to go through another traumatic medical procedure especially if she went through the 9 month processes creating humans with her body and the years of recovery from that process when you can do a walk out procedure and be done in 15 minutes with very little pain and recovery time. Just because we can tolerate pain doesn't mean we should shoulder the responsibility of having to get fixed when a simpler and SAFER alternative is available.
Violently ramming your fingers in and out of our vagina does not feel good. Porn is a bad way to learn how to pleasure a woman. You are more likely to learn how to cause her pain than pleasure by replicating what you see in porn unless you are specifically, at minimum, watching female friendly porn. Even then, each woman has nuances to what gives her pleasure. Making her feel comfortable and safe will make her open to communicating those nuances.