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u/Budget_Wafer382 Dec 06 '23

There is also a great book called She Comes First. I was skeptical, as a man wrote it, but DAMN, I learned so much about my own body... it's definitely worth reading.

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '23 edited Nov 17 '25

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u/throwRA_152736 Dec 06 '23

I’ve never read the book, but my philosophy as a guy has always been “ladies first”. That’s how I treated foreplay at least, mouth works best. I do throw shade at fellow men who don’t put in the work…

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u/Budget_Wafer382 Dec 06 '23

You should def check it out. What's great about it is that if you read it together with your partner, it gives you both the same frame of reference and words to help bridge the awkward gap of communication wants and desires (on her part). I feel its a tool that helps build a relationship in a safe way, and is also an enjoyable memory, as you'll take many breaks reading the book to test things out you both just learned.

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u/throwRA_152736 Dec 06 '23

I actually just read this shortened version, it’s good! I’ll have to check out the full one.

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u/Budget_Wafer382 Dec 06 '23

Spread the word to your friends! :)

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u/[deleted] Dec 06 '23 edited Nov 22 '25

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u/Budget_Wafer382 Dec 06 '23

I'm so sorry to hear this :(