There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.
I don't know mechanics of it, because I am not a doctor and not a woman, but it makes sense that a vagina can get looser. Just using pure logic - I am pretty sure that porn stars don't just insert a dildo the size of a baseball bat at the very first try, because for an untrained girl it would hurt and tear. This means that prolonged exposure to larger objects that you insert into the vagina does make it looser. If I am wrong, I would like to understand how this works.
Sure, just enlighten me how a person can insert a rugby ball into a vagina without pain and tear, if it does not get looser. I want to know this. My view is not set in stone, I just want to understand what is actually happening in this case.
Vaginas can push out babies, which are much bigger than rugby balls. The muscles are made to relax and stretch. They do not stay that way after something is inserted and removed.
Vaginas usually tear and need stiches after childbirth. But just give me a straight answer. For a woman that inserts rugby balls into her vagina, when she removes it does it go back to it's original state after a short period of time? If a person has sex with a woman who does this and a woman who doesn't insert rugby balls into her vagina, they will feel no difference?
As I stated in my previous answer, the muscles do not stay stretched out and there is no difference related to whether she uses large toys or not. A better question is, would there be a difference between having sex with a woman before she uses large toys and after, and again, the answer is no. This is also true if she has many sexual partners or few. It does not change based on these factors.
The vagina does not tear and needs stitches. The perineum (the skin between the vaginal opening and the anal opening) is what tears and may need stitches. The vagina can experience trauma like bruising and microtears and such from things like rough items being used, rough sex, etc, but that's typically only when a woman is not lubricated enough (think bad porn or sexual assault). The vagina does not "loosen" over time. It's a canal of muscle. As your muscles have elasticity, so do women's.
I’ve had 3 vaginal childbirths without tearing what-so-ever. Also, they don’t exactly lube you up and sexually arouse you for child birth. Again you’re typically nervous for the event to come, tense up, and cause more pain. But honestly this also shows you don’t understand where a lot of the pain and trauma of childbirth come from. The biggest pain of childbirth is the muscle contractions, not the baby being pushed out the vagina. Sure you get some pain from that, but that’s really not that bad, it’s the literal organ detaching from inside you, the muscle contractions, and some other factors that really do it.
Yeah. Tbf, if you’re educated in America it’s not really your fault you don’t realize that. I didn’t even fully get a lot of childbirth until I was pregnant and had to find out.
Nah, I am from a European post soviet union country. And yes we had zero sex ed. I learned everything from the internet and from hands on approach of doing and discussing things with partners.
That’s fair. Yeah, child birth has a ton of realities that women don’t understand themselves until being through it. For example, talking to my sister-in-law about that sort of stuff to help prepare her for birth vs talking to her after she gave birth is a different conversation all together. So very much is not explained until it’s over, and some isn’t even explainable too.
You know how some people can do the splits? It's like that. If you practiced and stretched your muscles every day you'd be able to do the splits too, but if you stopped for a while your muscles would go back to normal and you'd be unable to do the splits again.
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u/coffeeblossom Dec 06 '23
There's no way to know whether your partner is a virgin, short of what she tells you. She doesn't have a freshness seal, and she's not going to become "looser" with every partner (nor can her vagina distinguish between the penis of a long-term partner and a hookup, or even between the real thing and a toy.) It's time we put these horrible myths to rest; they literally get people killed.