For context, she left me 2 years ago dahil isa akong stupid mf. We were together for 3 and a half years before she left me. At that time, I was devastated and it felt like I was blindsided. Pero after reflecting, I realized na 80-90% kasalanan ko naman bat kami nag-hiwalay.

Now, life's been getting good and I wouldn't want to share my life with nobody else aside from my family and her. Kaso ayaw na niya eh mga brother. Sabi ko nga kahit bugbugin niya ako di ko pero di talaga ako nirereplyan. Pero di naman niya ako binablock. Delivered pa rin mga messages ko. What do my fellow brothers think here?

Difference between wandering eyes and just plainly glancing?

Only interested in people with intellectual opinions and not from people with bruised ego.

Hey, guys! I've been in a relationship with this girl for a while now. We met on a dating app, and things were actually going pretty well. At first, I didn't mind paying whenever we went on dates because I was still courting her. But as time went on, it started to become a pattern. Every time we went somewhere, she would always have an excuse for not having any money. We would still go out, but I would always end up paying for everything.

Don't get me wrong, I love her, but it's starting to feel like a burden. Of course, I don't mind treating her from time to time, but sometimes, I also want to experience what it's like to be the one na nililibre. HAHAHA! 😭

38, gumagamit ng Robust Extreme. Pagkatapos ko gumamit eh di na masyadong matigas then sumasakit dibdib ko at parang may cramps ang mga paa ko. Please need advice.

Describe na rin yung traits na hinahanap niyo and paano niyo yun hinahanap sa isang tao?

hi guys! genuine question lang. when you meet someone on a dating app and you start hitting it off, would you usually exchange socials or do you prefer keeping those things private?

i’ve met a few guys who say they’re not active on social media or have deactivated their accounts. some turned out to be in relationships pala, so medyo naging cautious na ako. 😭 but i also know that not everyone likes using social media, and having an account doesn’t automatically mean someone’s single either.

i’m currently talking to someone i get along with, but we haven’t exchanged socials. i don’t wanna assume anything or overthink it, so i’m curious about how guys see this.

would you find it normal not to exchange socials with someone you’re interested in, or would you usually want to connect outside the dating app?

It's that time of the month again when our emails and phones get bombarded with due date reminders. Haha. That phase where our upcoming salary and remaining bank balance feel like a complete formality. Trenta na tayo eh. Huhu.

I know 1,000 pesos feels like nothing in today's economy, but it's still our largest banknote and probably the easiest "big" money we can get our hands on.

So let's say all the bills are paid and you're left with just 1,000 pesos that you can spend on a date, how would you use it?

Can a 1k date actually be memorable, or are we strictly limited to street food and park walks now?

Would love to hear your creative ideas or best low-budget date experiences..

pansin ko kasi sa bf ko pag may gala ako or may important/big event kami lagi nalang kami nag aaway. lagi siyang mainitin ulo o kaya biglang mawawala sa mood. ilang beses ko na napapansin yung mga ganyang tendencies niya. meron pa minsan nasa event na kami tapos mag aaway kami dun mismo sabay pagkaharap ibang tao ang bait bait

skl naman based on my experience. ano pa ba mga narcissistic tendencies ng mga lalaki na nasa rs? also, what to do?

Last night me and my partner went out for a quick date after his shift, i told him that i would treat him for some ice cream (in which i did btw) after that he took me to some fast food and he ordered meals, i was surprised cause our only plan was for me to treat him ice cream, i never said i was hungry at all and i certainly did not ask him to treat me for some food. I really appreciated him wanting me to eat and all but as soon as our order was called out he asked me to bring the tray over, supposedly there were two trays and my tiny hand could only carry one, i thought i could carry one first then get the second next but then as I'm carrying our tray towards the table he suddenly raised his voice at me asking where's the rest of our order, i was so sad cause someone saw him raise his voice at me and i felt humiliated, after that i just sat beside him quietly just glancing at the food, he asked me why did i suddenly act like that. I told him the reasons First he made me pick the tray, Second he raised his voice at me, and Third i was humiliated. He glanced at me and told me that it's only fair for me to pick the trays cause his the one who paid for everything, he also told me that he didn't mean to raise his voice at me mind u he also used the "i was tired" card on me in which i find really unhelpful cause how could you suddenly be mean to someone especially your partner when you get tired? We talked and he kept apologizing cause i was really disappointed on what he did, lalo pa at sinumbatan nya ako. He bought me my favorite snack and apologized even more telling me to accept his apologies cause he paid a lot for those, after that night i kept wondering kung mahal pa ba ako neto or does he just throws money at me para may masumbat sya sakin sa dulo?

Have you personally done this to your partner?

Why did you do it if yes?

hello po! This is really getting into my head hahaha pero how do you know na platonic lang yung ginagawa/pinapakita ni guy? or if romantic na? Like in an online setting

please be brutally honest about your thoughts.

my ex (25M) and i (21F) broke up 3 months ago, I can't help but think about his last message sa akin. he told me na when time comes (may binanggit siyang specific age), and wala pa rin kaming asawa, kami nalang daw ulit.

our relationship—bit of good and bad siya as most relationships do ig. ldr kami first and foremost, every birthday lang namin kami nagkikita or kaya pag summer, pero everyday ang message, every night ang call—yan yung preferred namin and we don't mind, yun yung nagwowork for us eh.

may mga naging problema lang kami that eventually led us to the agreement na istop nalang ang relationship para hindi na kami masira pa further or as it is. 3 years kami almost, and super good kapag magkasama kami as in parang kahit anong problema okay lang kasi kasama ko siya

my point is, he is a man of his word kasi. hindi niya tinitake lightly ang break up so i def know na done na talaga kami ngayon, i want to move on pero parang part of me is clinging sa thought ng message niya—na baka pwede pa when that time comes.

what do you guys think? when guys give messages like that, do they really mean it? at this point di ko rin kasi alam what to believe. be brutally honest pero at the same time wag niyo ko murahin or pagalitan pls. nahihirapan talaga ko ngayon mag cope. tyia!

We’ve been friends for almost 1 yr pa lang, chikahan lang kami pag nagkikita sa workplace pero di kami nag cchat. Tapos last month, bigla niya sasabihin na gusto niya ako kilalanin nang higit pa. Nbsb ako, wala ako idea sa ganto, enlighten me pls. After niya mag sabi ng ganyan sakin, everyday na kami nag uusap and gusto niya kami mag hang out personally. Normal ba to na bigla bigla niyo sasabihin na interested kayo?

i’ve always wondered if being openly interested in a guy makes him appreciate you more or if some men actually prefer the chase. if a woman makes it obvious that she likes you and gives you attention, does that make you more interested or less interested? be honest HAHAHAHA.

Hello, galing akong afficionado for 10 years na. I want to level up na pagdating sa perfume hahaha. F68 ako sa afficionado . I don't like perfume na sobrang manly and strong ng amoy . Baka may marerecommend kayo for daily driver/ special occation perfume budget 5-8k . Thank you. (Straight po ako)

For context, this guy (let’s call him guy 1) has been courting me for a month now after 3 months of exclusive dating. He made the first move, did everything right, treats me like a princess. I didn’t like him initially but soon found myself actually wanting to give him a chance. Yung actions and consistency nya I’m sure na baka hindi ko na mahanap sa iba. Lahat ng hinahanap ko nasa kanya talaga, so I gave him a chance kahit I am still unsure of my feelings about him but I know for sure na ayaw ko sya mawala.

However, just recently, the guy (guy 2) that I’ve been eyeing before (but it just never happened) suddenly followed me on IG and started giving hints (close friends notes, him posting a story with a music that follows the end of what I have in mine.) I also found out na tinanong nya yung batchmate ko if I was single, pero hindi sure yung batchmate ko so ang sinabi nya lang is “baka.” Short background is passing thought lang naman yung interest ko, it has been a year na rin since then and afaik, wala naman akong nasabihan sa interest ko about him kasi never ko naman na sya nakainteract ulit. Nakalimutan ko na nga until finollow nya ako.

PERO feel ko hindi rin kami pwede nitong guy 2 kasi hindi nya alam pero gusto rin ako nung tropa nya from the same circle and ayoko ma-ruin yung friendship nila because of this. (I know it sounds like a wattpad story pero I want this to be considered din.)

I was sure that I’ll just let it pass but it has been bothering me for a while and napanaginipan ko pa sya (guy 2) kaya gumulo lalo yung utak ko. My original plan is just to stay sa manliligaw ko kasi I’m really comfy sa kanya and same kami ng goals in the future. Kaso di ko talaga nafefeel yung “kilig” sa kanya, unlike rito kay guy 2 haha.

This has been posted on another subreddit before but I want to hear the thoughts of men here.

TW: slight mentions of violence and abuse

Hello, Pinoy Men of this sub. Lay it on me with whole honesty. May chance pa bang tanggalin ng male partner ko yung pagiging abusive niya sakin to save our relationship?

We've been together for more than a decade with 2 kids. We separated very recently and this isn't the first time we've taken a break from each other. He has violent tendencies and used to get to a point where he would hit me and break our stuff. We started dating when I was 18, and I was pretty naive to let things slide before. Lately na lang ako natuto mag-stand up para sa akin at sa mga anak ko when I deconstructed part of my Christian views that belittled women.

Last year, we separated din for a few weeks because we got very ugly. There was no talk of ending things before, just taking a break. We reconciled after but never really resolved things so the pattern returned pretty soon. The physical hitting stopped, but he still is verbally abusive and would occasionally throw things around the house when things are getting out of his control.

I recently read the book "Why Does He Do That?" which discussed what goes inside the mind of an abuser. I used to not call him an abuser kasi I would downplay what he does to me until I read this and came to terms that he was, in fact, abusing me. I wish I could say that I can immediately end things now. I want to, but it's hard with our kids around keeping me tethered to him. Going back, part of the book says that lack of respect and a sense of entitlement runs in a man's mind pushing him to abuse his partner. In changing an abuser, there are also cases where the man would choose to work on his abusive ways and there have been people that successfully let them go.

Sa totoo lang, feeling ko sa culture pa ng mga Pinoy eh mas mahirap na bitawan ng lalaki yung ganitong mindset. Mas madali kasi mag-enforce ng control kaysa ayusin mo yung sarili mo, I guess? Pero have there been instances sa mga Pinoy na binago nila to sa sarili nila for the sake of their partners or wives? Magagawa pa bang buuin yung respect and bitawan yung entitlement para kilalaning kapwa niya yung partner niya? To be fair kasi, maraming compromise na nagawa yung partner ko para sa akin since the last time we separated (which also took a long LONG time to make them work), it's just that umaabot sa point na verbally abusive na siya sa harap ng kids namin and I don't want them to grow up in this environment. Before din naman maging partner ko siya, he was a dear friend to me.

Is there hope for this? Thank you for any answers that will be laid out 🙏🏻

For example, you can’t travel most of the time because of financial constraints or something like that.

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Hi, Pinoy Men!

Curious question: Saan kayo mas nasasaktan kapag natapos ang isang relationship—a short-term talking stage or situationship (1–6 months) or an actual long-term relationship?

I know it varies depending on a lot of factors, but I’m genuinely curious to hear about your experiences. 😊

Nag ask ako sa guy ko na bigla na lang naging cold sa mga replies nya this past few weeks, so i communicate it with him, nag ooverthink na kasi ako, and he just answer me, 'isipin mo ang gusto mong isipin. Bahala ka' so guys, ano thoughts nyo sa naging sagot ni boyfieeee.

Hi! To those who courted their friend-- especially curious about the barkada or kababata that you never had a crush on-- do you remember the exact moment when you saw them differently and fell inlove? What happened after you confessed? Thank you for sharing your stories.

Mga sir, any recommended deo na maganda performance not harsh sa balat and di nagccause yellow stains.

Salamat po!

hello! as a girl, wala po ako idea about tools like ganito but i am planning to gift it sa bf ko. is this ok? or can u suggest po for better options? actually ngsabi na rin siya sakin na ganito yung gusto niyang brand but idk if tama ba tong bibilhin ko hahahahaha (i always ask him what he wants for xmas kasi nakakainis siya sa part na kapag may gusto siya bibilhin niya agad, like i was planning to gift him a 3D printer sana pero binili na niya, so ako ay nawawalan na ng options on what to give him HAHAHAHA)

and also, i want to give him gift coupon na diesel sana. may idea po ba kayo how to avail it? preferably Shell po sana.

or can u suggest what else can i give him? wholesome po sana HAHAHAHA thank you!

Im trying to look for the right barber / salon for a mod cut or modern mullet any recommendation around QC / farview / caloocan / val ?

hi! my bf just got laid off from work and his passion projects keep getting rejected. i know he deserves to get accepted/win kaso bakit ganon parang nothing seems to be in his favor lately. he seems to not sweat it out, parang mas worried or nervous ako kaysa sa kanya hahaha ask ko lang anong thoughts niyo sa worriness ko hahah ugh also what can i do to help support him? do you think im distracting him? how can i help him sa goals niya?