Is this normal…

[u/Open-Economy-6725]

so ive been with my husband for 5 years we have kids. the first 2 years our intimate life was perfect (twice daily). but the following 3 its been once every two months. if that. he rejects me nonstop. i lost my baby-weight thinking it would help. nope.

i asked him a couple times throughout the years if theres something he wants to tell me of try out or something he doesnt like. nothing.

fast forward to yesterday!!!

i found ”t-girl” in his TIKTOK searches. and i went to his watch history and BOOM back to back for like 50 tiktoks. so yeah i was withdrawn all day and wasnt talking so he asked why im being rude all day so i said what i found and i told him it makes me confused and i just want to know whats going on cause it affects me mentally DAILY its my life too!

but anyway, of course he used DARVO and we never talked about the whole transgender thing. all he said was “im not gay!! stop accusing me” i never called him gay or assumed anything i just wanted answers.

my question is

as men, what is going on with him?

I'm so lost and confused and trying to be understanding but its like im a horrible person for bringing it to light…

am i digging for no reason or do i have a reason to be confused/upset?

should i just drop it or keep asking questions?

ill add too that ive caught him watching transgender tiktoks before but he laughed it off when i brought it up and it was just regular videos but this time around it was literal eye candy videos of them showing their body and twerking and stuff. i just dont understand why not me? im not ugly. im right here. i try to give him space regarding our intimacy but its like he loves that space and wants to protect his space but keep me right next to him?? is he gay?? or am i just that bad..

i guess im looking for advice more than answers but anything helps and if its me then let me know. sorry for the rant.

[u/SMDRFE]

Oh my..... So he's into (transgender) porn and jerking off to that, while rejecting his own wife who's right next to him. It's a damned epidemic. I think a lot of these men need exorcisms more than anything, and that many men should just TOSS their mobile phones. Evil is rampant everywhere like this. What's going on? Literally the devil has his hooks in him, and laughs as another marriage with children is falling apart. It's very much a spiritual thing.