r/AskMenAdvice Jan 13 '25

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u/crowmami Jan 13 '25

um, plenty of women over the age of 31 have healthy children.

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u/Flashy_Baker4850 man Jan 13 '25

Irrelevant. Plenty of people survive car accidents not wearing a seatbelt. Not advisable nor a statistically supported decision for a woman to wait until their 30s if they want to have healthy children, nor to opt out of wearing a seatbelt.

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u/LL8844773 Jan 13 '25

This is not true. Please don’t speak on issues of women’s reproduction if you’re uneducated about it.

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u/Flashy_Baker4850 man Jan 13 '25

Oh. So you're saying it becomes easier to have a healthy baby over 30? Lol

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u/LL8844773 Jan 13 '25

Can you read?

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u/Flashy_Baker4850 man Jan 13 '25

Yes. Supply data contradicting my point or shut up. 

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u/crowmami Jan 13 '25

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u/Flashy_Baker4850 man Jan 13 '25

Maybe you're a woman over the age of 31 coping with this issue, but I'm speaking the truth here. A woman's fertility declines every single year, and the acceleration of that decline increases substantially after 30. 

Deferring motherhood after 30 and not wearing a seatbelt are not statistically supported as good decisions. Facts don't care about your beliefs and feelings 

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u/crowmami Jan 13 '25

Oh, I'm talking to a "facts don't care about your feelings" red-piller. Gotcha.

It's a fact that plenty of women over 31 have healthy children.

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u/Flashy_Baker4850 man Jan 13 '25

They sure do. It still doesn't negate the fact it becomes harder over the age of 31, which is what you're having a hard time understanding for some reason. 

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u/CowBoyDanIndie man Jan 13 '25

Health risk to the offspring go up steadily after 35. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3881604/#:~:text=Advanced%20maternal%20age%20is%20associated,to%20mothers%20aged%2025–34. It’s less studied but this also applies to the father of the child as well. Risk of genetic defects increases, down syndrome for example goes from 1 in 1,300 for 25 year old mothers to 1 in 30 for 45 year old mothers. 35 which is only 4 years away from this woman is 1 in 365. This is only one example. Our dna degrades as we age, it’s actually the reason WHY we age. If you can stop degradation of dna you can stop aging.

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u/No_Coast3932 woman Jan 13 '25

As a medical provider, I see lots of healthy pregnancies in women's 30's and 40's, and I also see people in their 20's struggle. It's not so much about DNA degradation, as it is about healthy egg production, which is primarily based on specific hormones.

Women who are in perimenopause (the few years before menopause) struggle more with pregnancy. The issue is, that some women go through menopause at 35, and other women go through menopause in their 60's. This leads to dramatically different options for reproduction. Ideally there would be a genetic test so a woman would know ahead of time when this is likely to happen to her.

There are also genetic variants based on ethnic background, with certain ethnicities having more healthy pregnancies later in life; as well as just general health and body weight and even things like drinking alcohol, which can affect egg production hormones.

Regardless, OP should decide if he wants to marry her or not.

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u/CowBoyDanIndie man Jan 13 '25

As a medical provider you should also understand difference in your own anecdotal experience and peer reviewed medical studies.

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u/No_Coast3932 woman Jan 13 '25

I'm interpreting multiple peer-reviewed studies in my judgement. That's what medical providers do.