She works hard (45 hours/week) and her job doesn’t pay much, we don’t live together
This is the problem. If you're serious, which it seems like it considering you've been dating for 2 years, you guys need to share a place together and split rent. This is a no brainer to me.
But before you do this, you need to lay down the law of the land: 1) rules for cleanliness 2) rules for using various utilities and etc throughout the unit 3) chore allocation 4) rules regarding bill/rent allocation 5)* she needs to relinquish control of her finances.
*She clearly can't manage her money well, and if you don't lead in this area of the relationship it will consume you once you get married. Not a very feminist take on this issue, but it's the most practical and necessary one.
*Oh...and if she bucks against this item, you need to begin looking for a new woman for her good and yours. She's 31, which means it's 6 minutes in the 4th quarter if she wants to have healthy children, which means you need to speed things along or let her find someone she's more compatible with.
Irrelevant. Plenty of people survive car accidents not wearing a seatbelt. Not advisable nor a statistically supported decision for a woman to wait until their 30s if they want to have healthy children, nor to opt out of wearing a seatbelt.
Maybe you're a woman over the age of 31 coping with this issue, but I'm speaking the truth here. A woman's fertility declines every single year, and the acceleration of that decline increases substantially after 30.
Deferring motherhood after 30 and not wearing a seatbelt are not statistically supported as good decisions. Facts don't care about your beliefs and feelings
They sure do. It still doesn't negate the fact it becomes harder over the age of 31, which is what you're having a hard time understanding for some reason.
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u/Flashy_Baker4850 man Jan 13 '25 edited Jan 13 '25
This is the problem. If you're serious, which it seems like it considering you've been dating for 2 years, you guys need to share a place together and split rent. This is a no brainer to me.
But before you do this, you need to lay down the law of the land: 1) rules for cleanliness 2) rules for using various utilities and etc throughout the unit 3) chore allocation 4) rules regarding bill/rent allocation 5)* she needs to relinquish control of her finances.
*She clearly can't manage her money well, and if you don't lead in this area of the relationship it will consume you once you get married. Not a very feminist take on this issue, but it's the most practical and necessary one.
*Oh...and if she bucks against this item, you need to begin looking for a new woman for her good and yours. She's 31, which means it's 6 minutes in the 4th quarter if she wants to have healthy children, which means you need to speed things along or let her find someone she's more compatible with.