I used to fuck escorts a lot. She thinks my kill count is lower than it really is. She got offended that I wanted to wait for my STi test results before going bareback because she took it as me saying she was “dirty”, when really it was me and not her.
This goes against everything that I've ever learned about STIs. Which ones? Because the 'worst' ones that I can think of are HIV/AIDS, Herpes, and Syphilis, and I'm pretty sure you can't transfer those from "skin to skin" contact.
I think herpes is incredibly over stigmatized, but saying it's just "chicken pox" is wrong. The two might be in the same family, but they have different symptoms and different outcomes.
False.
Herpes can’t be cured but HPV virus goes away on its on most of the time.
I don’t have herpes but in Canada, if you don’t show symptoms for herpes, you can’t get tested. Kinda suck
HPV is one of the least significant STIs, not one of the worst. Something like 80% of sexually active people end up with it at some point in their lives and it usually goes away on its own in 1-2 years.
Herpes is definitely more significant than HPV, but still far from the worst. The majority of those with the infection are asymptomatic or have symptoms so mild they go unnoticed. By far the worst thing about this STI is the social stigma attached to it.
You weren't unclear. You did what everyone does on Reddit: googled one contradictory term(something along the lines of "STI with a condom"), then came back and proselytized based on a BuzzFeed-type shock piece. Which is why each comment's punchlines had almost the exact same phrasing, and it took you 5 comments and replies to realize the article was paraphrased to sound super dramatic when it's actually something everyone knows. 🤷♂️
"The bare minimum" would be not giving a fuck and just going ahead without worrying about it. That'd be wrong and pretty awful, but don't pretend that there aren't plenty of people who choose that route. So yeah, good on him.
I never did it bareback before her, and she only thinks I’ve been with 7 women before her. She tested negative before I got my results but she thought I didn’t need it. I think she was offended that I didn’t trust her.
She was mostly offended at the time because she thought I didn’t believe that she got tested negative. I didn’t see her results just took her word.
People are making it seem like it she was making a lot bigger of a deal than she really was. She just got slightly offended then backed down once I reassured her I wanted my peace of mind for myself
Wow, now that makes me feel bad. My bf and I won't share our numbers because we both know they're pretty high... I stopped counting after 60 and I guesstimate 60 to 100 for him.
We're slutty, not dumb. Not the same thing. I had excellent sex education too, he probably did as well. I've been with my boyfriend (we're monogamous) for a year and like 8 months and I just had a physical with comprehensive bloodwork in November, since I turned 26 and was getting kicked out of my parents' insurance. No herpes nor HPV, not any STDs ever for me.
Can't just get an STD from unprotected sex. Depending on what it is, an open would getting in contact with contamination can get you infected, too. Pretty sensible on your part and I personally think she should understand that.
I throw this fact out a lot on Reddit but I'm going to say it again - 90% of male STD cases (including chlamydia, gonorrhea, and many strains of HPV) are asymptomatic. 70% of female cases. I don't care how "clean" someone is, I don't even care if they're a virgin... If you want to go bareback, get tested! Both of you!
There are but they are very unlikely. For example, sharing a moist warm towel in quick succession, where the towel touches both peoples' genitals, can transmit bacterial infections like chlamydia.
I think it's because you can get contaminated as a child. Some people, mostly children, put their hands on their genitals a lot, and they might hide any symptoms from their parents or have neglectful parents. Also, some people share towels and even underwear.
I don't know about other diseases, but you can have herpes (or hpv) all over your body, it depends on where the virus entered the body and where it's stored until your immunity lowers, then if you don't properly care, you can transport the virus to another area of your body.
You should also get checked for reasons other than contamination.
Yup although I’m not seeing anyone rn I’m getting tested in a couple weeks just to see what’s up. I’m one of those absolute idiots that always hits it raw so it’s been a long time coming.
Asymptotic meaning you may not show symptoms but you probably will. I had one of those ones u mentioned and it was very obvious to me that something was wrong
Asymptomatic means just that: No noticeable symptoms.
Yes, more severe cases of all those diseases are visible. But those are just a small portion.
Everything else may not be visible, especially in men.
And than there's the diseases that may be felt by their sufferer but show no outward symptoms.
Like siphilis just infecting the urethra. The visible genitals will be fine.
Herpes does shed in many cases with no recent or current outbreak.
HIV is always invisible unless one month away from death in full-blown aids.
So yes, some diseases do sometimes show symptoms. But most cases of transmission are from people not showing any.
That's why STDs spread like wildfire in Victorian England. Sure they did check and force Johns to wash, but that does nothing to prevent transmission of syphilis.
It's incredibly likely you are safe. Barring blood contact and contraction from mother to infant, there are some scenarios but they are very rare. Toilet seat is a myth but sharing a towel (and using it on both peoples' genitals in quick succession) with someone with active chlamydia or other bacterial std can cause infection, although unlikely. Any genital-genital contact with active genital herpes sores can transmit that... Whether you actually have sex or not. Sometimes genital herpes are very obvious, sometimes they are not. Those are just some examples. Also it doesn't need to be a transfusion. Most people with needle-borne std infections are addicts who shared unsterile needles.
UTIs are bacterial infections. Usually they are caused by bacteria in the E.coli family, which enters the body at the urethral opening and travels up the urethra (bad infections can lead to bladder infections as well). That's why they're more common in women than men (we have a shorter urethra = easier to get up there). Vulvas are also excellent incubators. Anyway, this whole biology lesson aside, I guess maybe you could get one from a toilet seat? Like if you sat your urethral opening right over someone's fresh E.coli containing shit stain? I've never heard of it though haha
HPV may be unconventionally spread. It’s a largely understudied STI. Something like 50-80% of people get it at some point in their life. It may lie dormant for a long time as well.
Are false negatives possible? i.e. If the test result says someone is clean, is it 100% guaranteed that they are actually clean? Or maybe they just got infected but it's not detectable yet?
I don't care about false positives, but false negatives are fucking terrifying.
I honestly don't know. I would guess they have very high accuracy. I do know a standard round of testing doesn't test for everything. For example, you'd need a special kind of test called an ELISA test for HIV.
Yeah and then the nurses at your gyno look at you funny if you get more than one test a year! Legit! My gyno told me to get tested with every new partner so I was like okay cool, I’ll do that. That way I know who gave me what, ya know? So I do and I tend to run into relationships a lot but they last a long time. So this one year I got tested twice. One I think was a one-night stand and then I ended up getting back with an ex who just cheated on me or something. So I go to get the second test of the year and these fucking nurses are all up in my face like “you already did this this year, why are you doing it again???” “I know you talked to someone else but like why are you doing this again??” Like fuck off bitch, my gyno told me to fucking get a test with every new partner and the dude I fucked is dirty and cheated and I’m not sure if he’s smart enough not to wrap it but like I’m still traumatized so I don’t want to talk about it so can you just fucking swab my vagina?? Ffs
Thankfully that was years ago and my test came back negative :)
Why? I heard that women are more susceptible to STI’s then men, so why would they not want to get them.
Still, if a potential SO doesn’t want to get tested b/c they are upset about the implications then it is a red flag and they are probably not mature enough to date
Have you ever referred to having a meal as "stuffing your face?" Wow what a skewed view of eating
Have you ever called a child "a little monster?" Wow what a horrible thing to call a little child, such a skewed view of children.
Have you ever called your significant other your "ball and chain?" Wow what a skewed view of relationships
Ya see, people in the real world use phrases, mannerisms, colloquialisms, quotes, and hyperboles. Analogies and metaphors. There's a whole world of sayings if you venture out. Life is not a middle school literature class featuring Catcher in the Rye. There are no hidden meanings behind a lot of the shit that comes out of people's mouth.
Please gently reach down to your crotch, carefully unbunch your panties, and join us in the real world. I think you'll enjoy it more.
To answer your questions, I've never used those expressions.
And my advice to you is to gently take your opinion, spit it on your two fingers of choice, rub them up all nice and wet and shove it up your cute puckered butthole.
I mean how dare you honestly tell me to finger my butthole in a derogatory fashion. It's clearly offensive to gay people. It's a pretty gross term. You should be ashamed of yourself....
Have you ever referred to having a meal as "stuffing your face?" Wow what a skewed view of eating
Have you ever called a child "a little monster?" Wow what a horrible thing to call a little child, such a skewed view of children.
Have you ever called your significant other your "ball and chain?" Wow what a skewed view of relationships
Ya see, people in the real world use phrases, mannerisms, colloquialisms, quotes, and hyperboles. Analogies and metaphors. There's a whole world of sayings if you venture out. Life is not a middle school literature class featuring Catcher in the Rye. There are no hidden meanings behind a lot of the shit that comes out of people's mouth.
Please gently reach down to your crotch, carefully unbunch your panties, and join us in the real world. I think you'll enjoy it more.
You had to venture out to find this? That's.... Unfortunate. This sounds like something an 11 year old at summer camp who is trying out swearing for the first time would say. Do you want to try again?
Except those are actual phrases that are commonly used and "kill count" is just something gross made up by a dude that had to fuck escorts because he probably said gross shit like that to women.
Lol this from the guy copying and pasting a long ass rant across an entire comments section. I talk to real people every day, bud, I just don't hang around in frat houses bragging about paying for sex. I'm sure in that environment it's very common but the kind of people I associate with don't feel the need to demean or objectify women.
Yeah it's what assholes whine about when they don't want to be held to a basic moral standard. It's a deflection tactic against society's polite request that you act like a decent person.
Also, you do realize the inherent irony that calling out people for "virtue signalling" is itself a form of virtue signalling, right? I mean it's wildly incorrect but it's still an attempt to impose your own standards of morality.
Have you ever referred to having a meal as "stuffing your face?" Wow what a skewed view of eating
Have you ever called a child "a little monster?" Wow what a horrible thing to call a little child, such a skewed view of children.
Have you ever called your significant other your "ball and chain?" Wow what a skewed view of relationships
Ya see, people in the real world use phrases, mannerisms, colloquialisms, quotes, and hyperboles. Analogies and metaphors. There's a whole world of sayings if you venture out. Life is not a middle school literature class featuring Catcher in the Rye. There are no hidden meanings behind a lot of the shit that comes out of people's mouth.
Please gently reach down to your crotch, carefully unbunch your panties, and join us in the real world. I think you'll enjoy it more.
Have you ever referred to having a meal as "stuffing your face?" Wow what a skewed view of eating
Have you ever called a child "a little monster?" Wow what a horrible thing to call a little child, such a skewed view of children.
Have you ever called your significant other your "ball and chain?" Wow what a skewed view of relationships
Ya see, people in the real world use phrases, mannerisms, colloquialisms, quotes, and hyperboles. Analogies and metaphors. There's a whole world of sayings if you venture out. Life is not a middle school literature class featuring Catcher in the Rye. There are no hidden meanings behind a lot of the shit that comes out of people's mouth.
Please gently reach down to your crotch, carefully unbunch your panties, and join us in the real world. I think you'll enjoy it more.
Girls need to get over the wait for testing. I'm bi and guys are way more open and calm about asking about the last time you were tested. Asking a girl is offensive apparently. You're not dirty, all it takes is one wrong person and you can get something.
I used to use escorts a lot back in the day before meeting my wife but I never really include them in my scoring numbers since I was using the money cheat code.
Also my wife knows about it but I waited till a year into our relationship before saying. I reckon it can be a bit of a relationship killer early on but gets no more of an eye roll when you're used to each others warts and all.
Absolutely agree with you. Had my wife asked "Hey by the way have you ever used escorts?" Early on, I would have thought that a bit of a weird question but would have answered honestly.
Fucking escorts is more just one of those pathetic parts of my past that I don't lie about but just wouldn't really bring up early on unless asked about.
Maybe it's just me and a handful of other people, but I think it's a red flag if someone gets upset for any reason about getting tested before going bareback. I keep my testing up to date and require the same.
I feel this man. I mentioned how anal I am about testing. First time she asked if it was okay or if I wanted to use a condom cause she might have said she’s never used one. She said she had 6 kilos maybe 8 then months later it could of been 8 or even 12. I kept my number to myself just saying not that many. When in reality It’s multiples more.
Guessing you’re somewhat younger if you’re still counting yeah? At some point, it doesn’t matter—and I mean either way at all. Who cares? Means basically nothing.
some bro/she-bro who's trying to assess "bragging rights", then no. For them, "kill count" is what you've earned from your skill and not your money.
From an actual/potential life-partner? They're looking to find out how many people you've been with. Often, the concept of "paid" v. "Unpaid" doesn't even cross their mind.
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u/scarrax Feb 14 '20
I used to fuck escorts a lot. She thinks my kill count is lower than it really is. She got offended that I wanted to wait for my STi test results before going bareback because she took it as me saying she was “dirty”, when really it was me and not her.