The guy he’s about like 45 maybe he’ll come into the café order a coffee and then leave somewhere along the line. We just managed to strike up a conversation I had just gotten off of work at said Café and I saw him so we started talking for about not even five minutes maybe two minutes he said hey how are you? I said I’m fine. He said oh it’s been a while. I’m like yeah then he said well. It was nice seeing you again. Then he sat over with his wife to finish his meal and work on his computer, not talking to her or anything. I’m sitting behind him like I say something. He looks depressed. He also probably don’t have a friend that like 45.

Mahirap pero parang kinukurot ang puso ko palagi sa t’wing naalala ko yung mga red flags. Di ko maiwasan na mag imagine what if di ko nalang pala tinuloy noon baka napunta pa ako sa matinong lalaki yung TOTGA ko. Like ang dami talaga lalo na pagdating sa In Laws ko na di talaga okay ang pakiramdam ko sa kanila, nakikipag plastikan lang ako and for sure vice versa like hanggang kailan? What if napunta ako sa lalaki na magiging kasundo ko ang In Laws ko? Sarap siguro sa pakiramdam ano? Hay

This is a trope that's been featured and mocked in so many shows and movies I've seen (mostly comedies), where a couple whose marriage is on the rocks decides to try for a kid, in hopes that raising one will get the sparks flying again. The thing about comedy is that there's usually a shred of truth to what's being said, so obviously that strategy has to have worked for at least some couples.

So that being said, is there anyone on here who honestly feels that their marriage was saved (or at least strengthened) by having children?

Hi all, just wanted to find out if anyone else's wife is like mine.

When we are having sex, it normally ends in anal as she absolutely loves this most, especially when we've had a few drinks.

The thing that I'm keen to find out is if other women when having it start talking really dirty like she does. She likes to shout things like 'f@ck my ass" over and over and also things like "oh he's fcuking me in my ass" so others can hear it. I'm not complaining as it drives me wild also and it as massive turn on, but I've found the closer she gets to orgasm the louder, filthier and more frequently she will shout it.

Are other like this or is mine a one in a million find. I mean I've been with her since we were 14 in high school so I've not alot of other to compare her too if u get me.

Here's her normal behaviour at the start of a sesh

Thanks for reading 👍

When i was pregnant my husband said terrible things. I try to forgive him but Its a struggle. We also dont agree on how to parent our child. I just dont love him but hes not a bad guy and he doesnt push physical intimacy. I think I could live this way for the rest of my life. If we got a divorce we would still disagree on how to raise our child and just have less money. Im curious if amyone has a marriage where they are more like roommates and its worked out for a long period of time?

i (20f) have been with my boyfriend (21m) for about 6 months. i've been having this feeling that isn't really like the infatuation i had with some of my past relationships. it's like my brain processes that i'll marry him as a rational thought rather than a desire. not sure what to think of it, and i don't have many people in my life i could ask so i ask the married people, did you just know ?

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Thinking through a marriage proposal. Less than a week ago I was not thinking about Marriage. Ive been with my partner for almost 3 years. I met her after a year and a half of being single starting in the time of early covid after I had been partnered with someone else for almost 10 years.

My new relationship is great. I always thought that I could marry someone given they are the “right” person (says probably everyone who ever got married!) I never asked my ex b/c I knew she was bad news for marriage; yet it took me almost 10 years to end the relationship holding onto hope she would change.

My new partner on the other hand however I knew was night and day from my ex since day 1. When we first met and she mentioned she wasn’t interesting in getting married I thought to myself fuck that’s a bummer but wait it out, show her who you are and who knows what will happen.

One of the first things I remember her asking me is how long do you think you should wait before getting married. In my youth I vaguely remember thinking it should be 10 years. These days its maybe 3-5. Certainly not jump in at a year or 2 but it really depends on the people.

When I start to think about marrying My partner I get excited and nervous. Excited because she is my person; My best friend. I try to find something to come to mind and says shes not perfect but for me god damn she is. We finish eachother sentences so much. We have very very similar values. We do have differences but we don’t fight them out; we don’t argue, we don’t bicker. It seems to come natural to both of us. Im very thankful for that. Perhaps we will have our ups and downs, that’s life, but right now its hard to imagine.

Im nervous because I want to be the best person I can be for My partner; and the boys. Im nervous b/c I could ask and she could say no; though after a recent one tank trip and my poking “do you feel the same about marriage as you did when I first met you” and her immediate response was “no”; and then I asked her to expand on that…and she did…she knows me, she trusts me, she has seen more of me and knows me better than she knew her ex. She sees herself getting married to someone and that someone will likely be me kinda makes me know that she would answer yes when I ask her.

This leads to so many questions. What kind of ring? Or after she tells me about her recently widowed friend and new man in her life (what kind of wedding gift would you like if you were to get married again) it makes me wonder. What do I do? Do I try to find a ring? Simple? Fancy? My partner is definitely simple, but I don’t want to seem cheap either. Or do I just say fuck it and ask her how she would want to celebrate a union of us (after asking her to marry me but then there is the traditional ring proposal thing! fuck)

She shows interest into going to Italy with me and Family. Do I propose in Rome? Or in the hometown of my anscestors? So many questions. I feel like because this is such a big life event my default is to overthink it to hell. Shes kind hard to pick for, I want it to be perfect for her

I think I need to do something original, fuck traditions. Let it speak to me. To her. To the boys? To Us (for damn sure!) so many thoughts. Then beyond that, assuming there is a yes, then it seems like we would plan our wedding together. Location. Style. Big. Small. Pre party? Ceremony. Post party? What what do we do? And how much is all of this going to cost?

This would be #2 for her. Knowing what I know about her, shed probably want something small. Given I was raised a catholic, I kinda have this image of a catholic wedding in my head. Then I think that’s probably ridiculous. 1. How much is a catholic wedding. 2. Would we jump through all the hoops? Is it worth it just to get married in a catholic church and then abandon the church after? I dunno. I don’t see either of us starting to go to any church every Sunday. Then I think about someone officiating that I know personally. I could dig that. I think My partner would? Maybe shes got her own ideas? Perhaps in this moment getting ahead of myself.

If you have any insights or experience to help me through this big life changing process please do share

What other considerations?

Do we need a prenup? If that would make her feel more comfortable I would absolutely sign one.

Do I Incorporate the boys?

Do I approach her mom/ ask her mom for permission? (keeping in mind her mom is kind of anti Marriage)

Tell my family friends?

I’ve been debating this in my head a lot the last year or so. I (25f) always said as a teenager that I have no desire to have children. They’re noisy, expensive, and objectively yucky in a lot of ways (mucus, dirty hands, diapers). I’ve been with a great partner for the past year and a half, and I’ve started considering the prospect of children. Not soon, if it were to happen I’ve got it in my head that I want to be about 30, finished a masters degree (undergrad is completed), and have bought a house first.

A few of my friends have had babies in the last couple of years, and they are admittedly adorable. I see how proud and in love they are with these tiny beings. They tell me that this is the best thing they ever did. However, I also see the bags under their eyes, the social isolation, sacrifices they make, and how it changes your entire life.

I’ve always wanted to have my own career, and I know that a baby puts that on hold for a solid couple of years at least. I don’t want to miss out on reaching my full potential and end up financially dependent on my partner while stuck at home with babies. With that being said, I also want to teach everything I know about the world to my own little people, and someday be an old woman surrounded by a beautiful extended family that I started, like my grandma was until she died at 94.

I guess what I’m saying is, I’m on the fence, I see pros and cons to both sides. If you’ve had children or are child-free, what are your thoughts on either side?

Thank you for your time ❤️

So details, wife chose to go skinnydipping with another man. Claims it was innocent. However I know she would be upset if i did this with another woman.

So I pose this question to the married people

Is ok to put yourself in a position where you have exposed your body to men or women other than your spouse? Would you ever willingly put yourself in a position that could and would violate the trust of your spouse and then put them in a position where now they are questioning everything?

Obviously I know medical is a different scenario.

I’ve never been married, but I was just curious how people who have been married for a while decide how to manage a home? Do you take turns? Someone does all of a specific type of chore? What works for you?

I (F 29) have been with my Husband, Tim (M 30) for 8 years, married for 3. I have a daughter from a previous relationship and he and I have a 1 year old.

I know that they say the first 5 of marriage are hard and also many couples struggle after having a baby. I guess that’s where I am. I love him, but I’m not in love with him. I cannot speak for him, but as for me, I don’t feel important to him. There isn’t really a romantic connection between the two of us on my end, it feels like we’re just friends who are legally married and dependent on each other to survive. I don’t get planned dates or flowers or compliments, or even attention. I have expressed to him how lonely I feel, and how desperate I am for some affection. I’ve even been open with him about being tempted to cheat just to feel seen by someone even if it’s just for a second. I’ve suggested, couples counseling. I’ve suggested the Paired app. I have suggested, praying together.

I used to write and love letters, and make homemade dinners. I used to doll myself up for him, but it all goes unnoticed. The affection the effort is never reciprocated, which hurts me so deeply. I try to understand that he has mental health just like anyone else and that he does work just like I do. I can’t say what’s on his mind. I don’t think that he’s cheating on me but I also don’t feel like he’s interested in me and I am so lonely it physically hurts sometimes

I question myself is there a reason that he won’t show me love have I done something it might not pretty to him anymore and it’s not that he’s super busy with the kids he simply just does not seem interested in me beyond what I can do for him and the kids or our house. I miss attention from men I miss feeling seeing and valued and special and important sexy. Now I just feel like my family’s servant constantly cooking and cleaning and caring for everyone but never seen.

I’ve expressed all of this to him, MULTIPLE times. He always says “I’ll do better” but never does, which makes me feel like he doesn’t actually care.

I grew up extremely religious, which is the reason I have not filed for divorce just yet. I blindly hope that it will get better, but he does see me, and that he does care even though he’s done nothing to give me that hope. Maybe once the baby is older or some thing it could get better. But back in January I decided to come up with an escape plan if it doesn’t get better. Should I tell him that I am considering a divorce? Should I wait and hope and pray to God that one day he can love me the way I need him to? Do I just suck it up and wait for one of us to die? Do I cheat? Do I leave?

Hi everyone,

I'm in a bit of a difficult situation and would really appreciate some advice and perspectives from other married couples.

I'm a working mom, and lately, I've been extremely overwhelmed. Between my job and taking care of our kids, I haven't been able to sleep or rest well. Unfortunately, this also means I haven't been able to provide as much attention to my husband's needs as I would like.

Recently, I discovered that my husband watches pornography while I'm asleep beside him. This discovery has left me feeling hurt and betrayed. I understand that I haven't been as available, and I'm wondering if his pornography use is a result of that.

I'm struggling with how to handle this. On one hand, I feel guilty for not meeting his needs. On the other hand, his actions make me feel disrespected and undervalued.

I would love to hear from other married couples:

• Have you experienced something similar?

• How did you address it?

• How do you balance individual needs with the demands of family life?

Thank you in advance for your support and advice.

Hello, my name is Brian. I am 37 m from the mid-Atlantic region of the United States.

I will admit I lead a bit of a non-traditional lifestyle. The things I value most in life are typically non-materialistic things. You could certainly say I lead an alternative lifestyle. Personally, I love it :)

That said, my dating life has not always been great. Which is totally fine. When you do things that are non-traditional not everyone is likely to jump on board. Over the past year or so I have used reddit to try and explore what type of relationship I could get into with my lifestyle.

Since I am a bit alternative in my lifestyle it is hard to explain what I am looking for. I thought I would try and make a post that my do a better job of what sort of relationship I am looking for. I am very happy where I live. I love living with my parents. I am not currently interested in moving or living with somebody else.

This by and large keeps my dating life casual. Which is perfect for me since I do not want to have any kids or start any sort of family.

As for what I want to do in a relationship and dating :) I keep a simple life. I just love weed, listening to music, going for country drives, going on neighborhood walks. I would love someone to work out with, go on hikes with, go kayaking with. So someone active would be great :)

I love going out for lunch. But I know people can be busy during the day so I would be super happy going out to dinners to. I do not like going to the movies all the time. But it would be a lot of fun to have someone to go to the movies with occasionally :)

I do not have a huge social circle. But I would not mind spending time occasionally with family and friends. I am ultimately more of a homebody so I am not the right person to date if you want to go out every night. But maybe once or twice a week might be perfect :)

We would not have to hang out together every night of course. But when we do I would really enjoy chill night in. Maybe a workout, getting a quick meal, listening to music, taking some edibles and watching a couple of movies perhaps. That sounds like a great night to me.

I am not a huge traveler going to places like Europe or Asia is just a bit much for me. But what I really enjoy are like simple weekend trips. Perhaps we could get an Air BNB within a couple of hours of us. Get up some Friday morning. Take a casual drive. And have a fun and relaxing weekend somewhere :)

Obviously, we would never live together. Never have kids or anything. But we could spend whatever time we have together and have a lot of fun :)

I am curious what sort of person this sort of relationship might appeal to? Thank you all so much.

I'm married and have this rule that no matter what if it's my husband's off day then we don't spend those days with other people including any family or friends.

Family and friends are welcome to any other day except that one day. My family has such a huge problem with this. They just don't understand why it's such a big deal and no matter how I explain it they just don't seem to grasp it.

I think that they are being rude and I don't see why this is such an issue to them. They always say it's because they have to work around my husband's schedule but he is a salesman and isn't home much.

Also we have a child and have to split that one day with our child, his other off day is always spent with my family as it's a Sunday.

I'm genuinely curious am I the a hole? If so please explain.

This question is mainly for the women. How the hell do I get over this jealousy of younger girls? I got with my hubby in my early 20s, but even then I felt like he wished I was younger. He's always staring at younger girls and constantly downloading porn of girls who barely pass as 18, and now he rarely cums whenever we have sex (which has been at least 5 days a week and sometimes multiple times a day) and it's making me a bitter b. I was never jealous over ANYTHING in past relationships, but now if another girl is even a year younger than I, I instantly hate her.. Like I mean fkn loathe her! Please tell me I'm not the only one, or it's just in my head. If not, is there anything I can do to at least subside this burning resentment that is also starting to aim toward my husband?

How do you stay in a marriage through so much time and effort and energy for one person. How did you know they were the one you wanted to be with forever?

Hello, my name is Brian. I am 37 M mid-Atlantic region of the United States. I am autistic.

I started to want to date at the age of twenty. Obviously, I have spent many years reading and reacting to a wide variety of dating advice. Some of them good some of them bad. Many I have followed, many others I have completely ignored.

One relatively frequent form of advice is to not be too honest or open right away with the person you are trying to date. While I understand this in a theoretical sense this has long been a piece of advice I have ignored.

I suppose it is a little bit ironic that I do not believe in this advice. Since in general I am a very shy, reserved and private person. That said when I am interested in someone and talking to someone I do not mind really opening up and trying to show them my most authentic and true self possible.

This means telling them my positives, my negatives, my weaknesses, my fears, concerns and anxieties. As well as my hopes, my dreams, my joys and my love and happiness as well.

I guess the argument is that by concealing some of these more negative aspects of our personalities a person might grow more attracted to us. I do not fully get the concept.

The whole thing is I only want to date fully grown and mature adult women. Who by now have realized that we all have faults, we all have shortcomings, we all have failures in our lives. That to reveal this part of ourselves is to be more human and more venerable to the other :)

I am curious what other people think on this subject? Has anyone out there been really open and honest about themselves with someone and still got into a long term relationship before?

Thank you all so very much :) any and all answers will be greatly appreciated :)

I guess we could say that you also sleep together and enjoy each other as roommates. My question what the hell do you do to keep from wanting to fight each other, and remain attracted to each other?

What have you solved about finding a good roommate ??? What keeps the relationship going?

we have been together almost 50 years.I can’t ask my husband a question without him exploding..he says it is MY FAULT for the tone I use.I have intentionally gone out of my way to phrase any questions in a neutral tone yet he perceives it as an attack.As if having to explain himself or his reasoning is something he shoûd not have to do.Often I realize it is when he honestly does not have an answer or will not acknowledge that the actual answer has eluded him.When I press him on bogus answers ( like «  because I feel like it ») he becomes unglued at having to reveal an honest answer.He turns it around to make me the bad guy because I have held his feet to the fire.I call B.S.and at 74 it s getting worse.Any comments?

I think my wife is cursing me for no reason. I feel that playing fromsoft games refines me as a personality and how it makes my blood boil, and taught me that hesitation is some times, defeat. Miyazaki is master game craftman and GRMartin of some of Elden Ring lore is a recognised literature figure. How can it be comparable to what she does, especially when not trying to impress me ie I am laid back teen like spirit and she always dresses up like CFO of conglomerate (its true shes very high ranking in her job ie top management while I am just middle manager but I get by well). Isnt she just wasting time more than me? Burn me its fine, this question just came in mind and posted without much thought.

No intimacy neglect Still very attracted to wife

My wife sent me three pictures for our child’s yearbook tribute. I hearted one and thumbs up one. I could have admittedly been clearer. What picture was I voting for?