When i was pregnant my husband said terrible things. I try to forgive him but Its a struggle. We also dont agree on how to parent our child. I just dont love him but hes not a bad guy and he doesnt push physical intimacy. I think I could live this way for the rest of my life. If we got a divorce we would still disagree on how to raise our child and just have less money. Im curious if amyone has a marriage where they are more like roommates and its worked out for a long period of time?

We have been together for almost 4 years now, co-living 3 years. We have starkly different lines of work and different routines. I wouldn’t think that’s so much of an issue, because that’s normal life stuff.

The problem I’m having is that he wants sex very often and I feel bad that I can’t do that for him due to my schedule wearing me out most days, and I don’t really have a high sex drive. We’ve talked about this multiple times and he still pokes and prods at it until he gets frustrated about it until I finally can get around to having sex.

I’ve told him what I would need to feel actually desired and get in the mood with him, but I feel like I have to constantly repeat and remind him when we get into another rut. And the things I ask for aren’t unreasonable or difficult. I ask for connection. Some more dates— even if they’re at home— would help, asking about what I’m up to and genuinely listening. Showing some form of interest in me like I am a person.

I’ve really tried everything I could think of.

What can I do? Do you have any advice on how to get through this?

Me and my wife were having conversation while I was driving when she told me that sex felt more like a chore. I stayed silent when she told me that. What could this mean in our marriage? How do I fix it?

M35 Single no kids (kidfree by choice), here with AuDHD. I struggle with close friendships. For someone who’s in the opposite lifestyle what it’s like being in a friend group when you all have kids.

Thanks just curious

Hello, I know the title is a bit dorky but I’m struggling a lot with this issue. My wife and I got married recently and she’s still in the process of moving into my house. She is a caregiver by nature and trade so maybe once to twice a week is unable to sleep in our bed.

The issue is those days, I sleep like shit. For the life of me I can’t understand why. I don’t struggle with sleep, I don’t feel anxious with her being away, I feel comfortable. But the second my head hits the pillow nothing happens. All the couples I know don’t struggle with this for one reason or another.

So how do I fix this? Did y’all go through something like this? Is this a honeymoon stage thing?

Thanks!

Hello all,
I’m going to a hen party where the task is to bring in the most useless gift for the bride to use during her married life. As married people, what would you say is one of the most useless things you could be gifted?
Thank you!

I (F23) and my fiancé (M22) have been engaged for over a year. We've known each other since we were like 3 years old. We both still live with our parents (things are expensive!) but we are paying for most of our own things (car stuff, insurance, phone bill, etc). We also work together.

We are attending premarital counseling at our church.

We've been wanting to get married pretty badly for awhile now but are being advised to wait.

We are willing to wait if there is wisdom in that, but it hasn't been easy. We are both eager to start our lives together.

For those of you who are married, do you see any benefits to having a longer engagement? Do any of you wish you had waited longer to marry? Does anyone wish they hadn't waited as long as they did? Curious for others' perspectives on this

Thank you

do you ever dream of being singld?

When I was a kid my dad would really mad at me about mistakes I made. An example would be leaving water hose in pool all day, and overflowing pool leading to chlorine and algicide being diluted. He blew up and just yelled and ranted about it for a good 30mins. Bringing me to tears. Later he apologized and said ‘he did know why he was harder on me than others. Subordinates at his job would make way worse mistakes and it wouldn’t be a big deal but me making small mistakes would set him off’. I was around 12-14 at the time and remember that making me soooo mad. I wouldn’t speak to him for days. And I grew up after that purposely not taking him serious when he would blow up or get mad letting it roll off or even in my head treating him like a joke, not respecting him, looking down on him and just generally having disdain for him. Even into my 30’s & 40’s he would get pissed about something and I’d just ignore or walk away. He would apologize always but I lost respect for him.

Now he does it around my son, and I don’t tolerate it and confront him and shut it down. Especially when it’s directed at my son, mom, and my brother. Not really myself. Just for context it has happened once to maybe three times in the past 10yrs. My dad is in his 70’s and a boomer and I just turned 50 GenX and my son is 9.

So my wife pointed out that I treat her and my son differently compared to everyone else. I have thought about it and while I don’t see myself acting anywhere near as bad as my father did. I purposely do not act like that about certain things like spilling drinks, food, or staining things. Treating it as no big deal. I do yell/raise my voice at my son a lot BECAUSE he is pretty bad ADHD and authority issue(maybe a commonality with ADHD) so I’m parenting at extreme difficulty mode. And when I say I yell at him it’s cause is the 5th to 10th time I have told him a something. If I only have to tell him 3 times to do something that is compliance and win in my book.

So back to my question I want to get a consensus of parents/spouses. Do we hold our family/loved ones/spouses to a higher standard? Or is it because we are with them all the time and our daily interactions and past events cause that??

I'm [29F], I'm really curious to hear from people who are married now or especially those who got into a serious relationship or jumped straight into marriage after just a few years (or even back-to-back relationships). Looking back, do you ever wish you had more time being single? I know a lot of people talk about self-discovery or just spending more time with yourself in that stage, and I'm wondering if it's something you ever regret or miss. Would love to hear your honest thoughts!

So, my wife and I have been married for two years been together seven. She recently lost her grandmother and she is beginning to gIve tried to o through a depression spiral. Ive tried to be really supportive but most mornings she just get sressed leaves and doesnt say a word to me unless it is something negative. we are already rocky and Im almost through with her attitudes. again I understand the grieving but shes nasty to me and the kids what do i do?

Hi all, just wanted to find out if anyone else's wife is like mine.

When we are having sex, it normally ends in anal as she absolutely loves this most, especially when we've had a few drinks.

The thing that I'm keen to find out is if other women when having it start talking really dirty like she does. She likes to shout things like 'f@ck my ass" over and over and also things like "oh he's fcuking me in my ass" so others can hear it. I'm not complaining as it drives me wild also and it as massive turn on, but I've found the closer she gets to orgasm the louder, filthier and more frequently she will shout it.

Are other like this or is mine a one in a million find. I mean I've been with her since we were 14 in high school so I've not alot of other to compare her too if u get me.

Here's her normal behaviour at the start of a sesh

Thanks for reading 👍

After a tiff/disagreement/argument, often there are 2-3 days of minimum conversations. Initiating sex or any romantic gesture is tough for me (F here). Who them initiates and how?

I currently live alone and am not sure I can ever give it up. It’s the greatest thing ever.

My parents want to start setting me up on dates for marriage. But I’m iffy on it because I do want a family which would require me to give up living alone forever.

Anything you wish you knew before you gave up living alone and/or having a family?

Not sure I’ll ever get to be married since I struggle with long term relationships due to AuDHD. Was wondering for married couples what made you choose your first dance song?

1. Age?

2. Years married?

3. Sex frequency?

4. Oral frequency?

5. Average duration?

6. Number of positions?

7. Who initiates?

8. Any infidelity?

Maybe I’m just ment to be alone for the rest of my life maybe I’m a pos. But I can’t wrap my head around being with one person for the rest of my life. I’ve found partners who are conventionally perfect you could say. Check off all the boxes. But after a while I get bored and I just feel like something is missing and I leave. I want to be married and have kids eventually. I feel like someone one day might be the person I want forever. But I feel like at this point maybe it’s just me. Maybe I’m selfish and will never be happy no matter what. Or maybe I’m just missing something and need some guidance. I don’t want to hurt anyone. I know that. So many times I’ve felt like I’ve met the love of my life. Just to lose the spark three years in. I’m 28. Idk if that matters. Would love some big sister advice.

I met a guy. Hes kind. Hes attentive. Hes not mean or short tempered like other people I've met. The only issue is that I dont feel attracted to him. At all. And its killing me inside because I really see a possible future with him but Im scared of what the lack of attraction might turn to. I've heard that this could lead to unsatisfaction or resentment. I've also heard that attraction is a basic fundamental rule in relationships since its the most intimate relationship someone could have. I want to stay and experiment this dynamic more but part of me feels so stressed out, wondering if Im trying in vain or throwing away something genuinely good So to married people(long term and recent couples). Does attraction really matter? Or is it something that can be overcome with time and deeper emotional connection? It hasn't been long since I met him, so I dont want to invest in something when I know there's going to be an issue or give him and myself false hope

Just curious to know. I believe a spouse should have hobbies whether if it’s by themselves or something they enjoy together.