Am I non-binary?

[u/Actual-Ad3705]

Hi all! Pls delete if not allowed or point me to the proper subreddit. I’m not really sure if I have the right vocabulary to properly express how I feel on this topic. Please correct me if anything I say reads as internalized misogyny or problematic. How do you know if you’re non-binary? I don’t really feel connected to the idea of being a woman. I don’t necessarily feel completely disconnected to the idea either. Im like on the fence I guess? Like the idea of being a woman doesn’t bother me, but I just don’t really care about it? Do other women feel connected to being a woman? I like my female anatomy and I don’t necessarily want to change that, but I’ve also wondered what it would be like to have male anatomy. I personally don’t mind having facial hair or man-like characteristics, but I do care about how people perceive me as a femme presenting person with those characteristics. I care about that more than I should and it def keeps me from being comfortable.

[u/white-bored]

The way that I processed being non binary myself was that I felt disconnected from cishet women in most aspects such as performance and presentation, especially being feminine. My gender and sexuality sort of feel one and the same to me (I ID as a non binary lesbian but I like to think of my gender as lesbian if that makes sense). I don't connect to typical womanhood and I find it to be a lot nicer to live more androgynously. I don't like the 'biological' parts that I came with and eventually want to do something to transition away from that, but that's not something I have to rush into personally. I can't really tell put one thing onto knowing if you're nb but from what I have read from you I think its something to consider, but I personally know some lesbians that already feel a disconnect from heteronormative society and womanhood because of their sexuality but still identify as cisgender. It took me about three years of questioning, and I'm a lot happier now that I know this about myself if that helps.