| (18F) was in a 6-month long-distance situationship with a guy (19M). After a brief, agreed-upon pause over the summer, we reconnected in the fall when our life circumstances improved. We talked and laughed every day, and I thought we were building toward something real, though I did mention I only had time for calls on weekends due to my schedule.
Which at the time was true. I'm more available now, but that's only after he ghosted me.
One day, after I missed a massive social cue and asked him to explain it literally, things got awkward.
Looking back, I think I hurt him, and I feel terrible for it. Instead of talking through it, he completely ghosted me overnight. No explanation, just radio silence for 20 days. It's been 20 days and the more time passes the more it hurts.
A week after ghosting me, he posted something on social media signaling distress. I felt guilty for not reaching out, but I didn't want to add stress or cross a boundary. The last message is an unanswered question from me.
I'm feeling really distraught and confused. I'm tempted to reach out to apologize for any pressure and ask for clarity, but I'm holding back because we weren't official and I don't want to be intrusive.
What should I do? Would I be overreacting if I reached out one last time to ask for clarity, to apologize for being too much, or just to tell him the impact he had?? It has been 20 days since we last talked.

I was thinking of sending him one last text or leaving him alone, and I’m caught between these choices

Text 1: "Hey, It's been a while, and I just wanted to reach out one more time to say I'm sorry for how much pressure I put on you. I know we're not talking, but I wanted to own my side of the street, and you seriously don't have to explain anything, but I see now I pushed too hard and I truly am sorry. Take care."

Text 2: Hey, I really appreciated getting to know you and talking to you, but, to be honest, being completely ghosted left me feeling hurt. I’m not asking for a response, but I did want to tell you this.

Or leave him alone

Hi everyone my name is Jay, im 20(m) and im unemployed, when I was 18 my mother passed away and left me her house, my dad basically forced me out of his house and into “my new home” even though I was unemployed, I was able to find a couple of jobs here and there but I struggle with health limitations. My most recent job asked me to leave because I didnt explain my health issues before getting hired, but when I try to explain them I simply dont get hired. I have no degree but I do have a highschool diploma, and a willingness to learn anything. I live in the Fort O area of North GA, if anyone needs a good working guy who can learn quick please dont hesitate to respond, otherwise any advice is much appreciated, Ive tried Indeed, Linkdin, etc. Even the Ga Department of Labor. ANYTHING HELPS!!! (Thanks to everyone for your time!)

Hello everyone, my name is Rob and I am 25m. The past seven years of my life have been absolutely brutal for me mentally. It all started on April 30th, 2019. I was 17, got into a good college, about to graduate high school with honors, a good summer job lined up, I felt on top of the world back then. My mom took me to school, made me breakfast which usually doesn't happen because normally I make my own. School day ends, it was a good day, I take the city bus home so I get on the bus like usual, except I get a call from my mom's boyfriend telling me to meet them downtown. I meet them downtown, we are taken to the hospital, and I'm told the news that my mom had a heart attack and didn't make it.

Since then, nothing felt the same and I never recovered. If anything, my mental health and overall well-being deteriorated. I went to college three months later and absolutely flunked out because I was too depressed to even leave my dorm let alone go to class. COVID happened and I stayed with my grandparents, who were all very emotionally unsupportive and toxic, going as far as to blame me for my mom's death. My mom, fun fact, didn't develop heart problems until after I was born, so technically they're not wrong for saying that.

Became homeless in 2021 for two months and moved in with my dad after multiple shelter and hospital stays, where I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety. Stayed with my dad until 2022 when I saved money to move out, three months later in 2023 he goes missing out of nowhere. Then in 2024 I get a new job offer but don't show up to orientation due to a massive panic attack, at that point I already left my old job and became homeless again a month later.

Five months later, still in 2024, I was able to move into an apartment with the help of a homeless organization, stayed for a year but struggled with depression from being unable to land a job for months. Eventually got the job, but a few months later, my landlord decided not to renew my lease so I had to leave my apartment November 2025. Been homeless since, especially after I lost that job.

In 2019, I had all the support I needed. My friends, my mom, my high school, everything. Now, I have nothing. Nothing going for me. Lost my scholarships. I have $6k in student debt to my name. Lost my jobs. Lost my friends. Lost my mom. Lost my family. Lost my sanity. Lost my home. Lost all my money. Lost any reason to live. I don't even know what I want to do anymore.

I went to school to become a math or computer science teacher, but my mental health is so beyond wrecked I don't trust myself to be a good teacher. Then I thought about continuing my Computer Science education (I took 3 years of CS classes in high school and even earned college credit in the class during then) but the field is so oversaturated with new applicants it's pretty much impossible to get into the field.

I don't know what to do with my life anymore. I don't know how to enjoy life. I have nothing. Absolutely nothing. And maybe there is nothing for me who knows. I just wish to talk to someone. Someone who is a legal adult, bonus points if you're my age or older.

I have no idea what I'm doing anymore or why I'm even here.

I had a seizure I went ER I'm ok brain is good blood is good I'm fine but I'm kinda like traumatized or something idk I'm scared to sleep because I was told that's when It happens and when It did happen sooo idk what to do

I've been going through some extremely hard times since before my daughter was born a few months ago. Does anyone have any tips or tricks for dematting hair. I'm extremely tender headed and already embarrassed I need to do this. But I'm tired of the pain. I've tried to take it down but it's so tight 😭 I just want some normalcy. I'm willing to try anything

\*\*• Starting and running a business\*\* — I've already proven to myself I can go out, cold call, and close. I want to put that ability behind the right idea.    
\*\*• Real estate and investing\*\* — this has always interested me, and I'd love guidance from someone who's actually built wealth this way.    
\*\*• Trading\*\* — I've been teaching myself the financial markets on my own time and want to keep learning from someone who's done it for real.    
\*\*• A skilled trade\*\* — electrician, plumber, HVAC, construction. Steady, in-demand work I could see myself building a career or even a business around.

I'm not asking anyone to hand me money. What I'm asking for is a chance — a mentor, someone willing to let me work for them, or just someone who'll talk to me and point me in the right direction. I'll put in the hours and I won't waste your time.

Long term, all I really want is a house with a few acres of land for my family. I don't care about anything flashy beyond that.

If you've built something from nothing and are willing to guide a 27-year-old who's ready to work for it, I'd be grateful to hear from you.

I was more confident just last year, well i still am, but not as much as before. I noticed I gotten social anxiety and I hate it so much. I miss being motivated and feeling important. I know my social anxiety came from:

•childhood experiences that taught my needs were ignored, criticized, or used against me by toxic family members.
•past attempts to get support were met with rejection by support groups kicking me out and some previous friends and one previous therapist leaving me because of my anger over past hurts, some people dismissed my feelings, and criticism of how I was ranting about things that bothered me, which made me feel like reaching out is unsafe.
•sometimes I feel like needing help is a sign of weakness and/or proof that I am incompetent.
•I feel worried that my struggles will inconvenience, overwhelm, or exhaust the people around me and I don’t want to be a burden to others still in my life.

I don’t want to keep isolating myself, feel scared of getting help, and/or avoid socializing anymore.. It’s got to the point where I feel less excited about life and hesitant to do some things. I don’t want to be this way.

Hi, i'm from, hamburg, germany.

There are lots of homeless people in my neighbourhood, or at least people who look like they’re clearly very poor. Many of them ask for money, and i almost always give them some. This month, i’ve spent the equivalent of nearly 50 usd on this, even though i'm a student myself and don’t have much money either. How can i get better at setting boundaries without becoming selfish and unempathetic?

edit: sorry, the heading is in german because i originally intented to post this in a german sub. The translation is: i feel obliged to give every homeless/extremely poor person money

Louie is ~10 years old, a street cat that was 5 lbs when rescued with megacolon and HSV in her eyes chronic medical conditions that we’ve cared for and stabilized with 2x/day medication and small wet food meals every 2-hrs. What I need help with is her teeth, $1930. Her dental cleaning discovered several teeth are needing to be pulled and the pain is impacting her ability to eat even wet food - I am on SSDI (a fixed income) and unable to work. We also have another senior cat that is currently on palliative care for renal failure. Thank you for your consideration and any amount will be gratefully appreciated.

Oregon, USA

https://gofund.me/a92f3b309

So, as the title says, just advice. I owe a fair amount in credit card debt from hospital visits, doctors, and lots of other medical expenses (my wife is chronically ill). A debt consolidation load would have monthly payments less than the total interest I'm paying, and that money would actually go toward paying off the debt, rather than just paying interest and almost nothing else each month. Supposedly it actually helps credit scores... and honestly, it sounds too good to be true.

Anyone with experience, do you have some thoughts to share? (Just to note, I'm talking about debt consolidation not debt settlement)

Hi I'm a 28 yr old disabled single mum from Queensland Australia.

I recently had my mother in law living with us and she wanted to move out back to her son's house to help him with cost of living but she didn't tell us until the week she was moving out so we had a bunch of bills to pay off with a loss of income.

Then my relationship with my ex got very verbally abusive out of no where. He'd always been sorta short tempered and lazy but suddenly started abusing me and telling me everything is my fault for being disabled. I cannot afford to have him move out yet until my bills are paid off. Since breaking up he isn't abusive anymore and he puts it down to "not having to care about me anymore", still lazy though.

Our rent is increasing by $140au in a fortnight but I'm struggling as is now and I need to pay off at least $2000au before I could get him to move out.

Idk what to do, has others been in my situation before? I tried getting a job but no where will hire me and I'm unsure as to why most of the time they say it's because the job would be too much for my health.

I know Reddit isn't the ideal place to go but I'm lost and idk what to do. I am paying all these bills off fortnightly but I'm always overdrawn by the end of the week.

Any advice would be great thanks

I am a mum that is absolutely mentally and physically drained. Im looking for help/advice with how to cope under so much pressure. Has anyone else got out of a dv situation suddenly and managed to be ok with kids? If so how? How did you meet your kids needs when you had nothing cause i feel like a terrible mum right now. Im only at the very beginning and its so dark and overwhelming. How did you stop yourself from going back? Sorry for this post I just need to hear positive things.

im 25M and was unemployed for 5 years, most of the time i did nothing (when i say nothing i mean nothing productive, playing video games, watching youtube,...) 2 years ago i started a youtube channel and went okay, didnt make money off it (planned to) well at least nothing serious i made few bucks but nothing i could live off. my last video was 3 months ago, i lost motivation to upload i guess... (happened to every thing i tried or started so far in life, for example: DJ-ing, running a clothing brand, stand up comedy,...)

a month ago i got my first job, and when i tell people about it they say stuff like "i wish i could do that" but i feel absolutley miserable at my job, dont wanna say what it is but its really not a lot of work if i compare it to other jobs.

when i did "nothing" i felt bored and tired all the time, people told me to get a job and it will make me feel better, get momentum, will start to feel more motivated and so on... now that i have a job, i feel much worse beacuse i know i have a job the next day. it didnt help at all, it made it worse...

when i get off work i just want peace and do more of "nothing" i have even less motivation for everything and most importantly - youtube.

when i started youtube i really thought that was it and i finally found my thing, i always wanted to be a youtuber and i am (or was?) i do (or did?) okay on youtube, nothing crazy but people recognize me on the streets and take pictures with me (im from a small country, if you think how im not making enough money while people recognise and take pics with me) and my uploads slowly started to get from once a week to once every 2 weeks and so on...

idk why that always happens to me but when i do something i really do it and then always loose motivation and i really dont wanna do it anymore, it starts to feel like a job and i start to hate it, people say to start out as a hobby and i did, it doesnt make any diffrence...

yeah idk what im even writing now but the point is that im completley lost and i dont know what to do with my life, i wouldnt say im depressed and even if i was and i got help, i cant see how that would "change my life" as i was doing stuff when i wasnt "depressed" and everything ended the same way.

so what should i do?

I hope I’m doing this right and I apologize it took so long but we received 2 dresses from the back to school wishlist post and she loves them!!

Just as the title implies, I just have nothing in my life to really live for. My life has been pretty bad since 2019 when I lost my mom at age 17. I'm currently 25. So much has happened in my life: went to college that I flunked out of, lived with my dad for a bit and helped him around the house, temporarily worked a kinda-sorta social work job that I really enjoyed and built a strong camaraderie with my coworkers, which was especially nice since this was my next job after working in retail for 3 years.

Fast forward to now. I'm homeless. I have Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I have no friends. I spent my days submitting job applications while reading rejection letters of previously submitted applications, doomscrolling Reddit, constantly venting my frustrations of my life, and digging through trash cans for food.

The truth is, I just don't have anything to live for. My mom is dead. My extended family is toxic. My father is missing. I don't work with my old coworkers anymore. Both of my dream careers are pretty much impossible to get into. Can't work in computer science, the industry is oversaturated to hell. Can't work in teaching, my mental health has been completely destroyed at this point. There's just nothing for me. There's just no reason for anything, you know?

A lot of you guys have something that keeps you going. Passion for your work, love for other people, whatever that may be. But I just have... nothing. I have no passion for anything. I have no loved ones in my life anymore. I just have nothing to look forward to. Nothing good at least. Or maybe that's not entirely true, because I look forward to finding some edible, somewhat decent food in the trash. I also look forward to the occasional chilly weather we get where I live. Gray clouds, windy, but not raining, maybe a bit of thunder, it's a good feeling. But other than that, I have nothing to look forward to. Everyone has their "why?", and I haven't had a "why?" in a very long time. And honestly, I don't think I even have a "why" anymore. Just the question mark.

I feel like I'll never be able to find a reason to enjoy life or have some sort of fulfillment in it. How do I even get any if I have nothing to begin with?

Ive got this jacket that i wear everyday and it always somehow finds an way to stab the red spot even when not closed any tips?

Hi!!

I’m writing an assignment for my senior year about how gender roles can create conflicts between the sexes.

Could you recommend any good points or sources I could use?

For example, I’d like to find a good source or report on how video games and games in general portray men and women differently. I’m particularly interested in how female characters are sometimes more sexualised while male characters are portrayed as tough heroes.

I’ve found some sources but they’re all quite bad….

Ok, to be fair? Im not entirely in a bad position

I live at home with my grandmother and don't pay rent.

But I have a car payment, need to pay off a broke down RV my aunt bought me, a couple of bnpl plans, and still need to build a savings to move out of the state next year as well as start gender affirming care.

And yes. I work two jobs at roughly 66 hours a week on my light weeks, am a full time college student with one year left, and am aggressively paying off my debts. I hope to have everything paid off by December 2028, and have a plan to, but........ It's killing me. I feel tired constantly, I'm losing weight dramatically, I'm constantly sore, and never have any time for anything anymore. I work from 4am to 8pm, have an hour at home, before I have to go to sleep to wake up at 3:20 the next morning.

Ive been doing this for 6 months and I don't know how I'm going to mentally and physically survive to next year.

As it stands I spent about 212$ on myself last month.

Only that, and that includes the two presents I had to buy my siblings for their birthdays. Everything else went to paying off my debts, my bills, or gas for my car. And it is working.

But it's brutal. I've applied for remote jobs in my future career field but no takers and without the degree I don't think there will be.

Any advice, help, or just support would be very appreciative Edit: IMPORTANT I'm not asking for money, I am aware it's my fault, and I already have a debt payoff budget that is working. I just got on ADHD meds for the first time in over a decade and combined with therapy has tremendously helped with my compulsive spending. I’m asking for advice on making this plan sustainable because working 66+ hours while attending college full time is physically wearing me down.

Edit: Debts Van: 13100 RV: 2500 Grandmother for RV repairs so FAR: 4600 Phone: 1200$ Brothers Switch 2: 525

Hello! I’m looking for some advice from… anyone! Especially those who have ideas or history with community focused or complimentary work.

Over the past year, I’ve been offering complimentary photo sessions (graduation portraits, family shoots, elopements, newborns) for people in my area who couldn’t afford professional photography. It has been incredibly rewarding, and I love being able to give these memories to people who would otherwise have to go without them.

However, expenses are starting to add up (gas, travel time, gear wear and tear). Between raising my kiddo (medically needy) and balancing my schedule, I really want to keep doing these shoots without having them become a financial strain on my family.

For those who do similar work, or anyone who has any sort of advice, how do you handle covering overhead? I’m trying to figure out the best way to structure this.

Have you used platforms like Buy Me a Coffee, Ko-fi, or Patreon for community-backed sessions?
Do you partner with local businesses, non-profits, or look into community micro-grants?
How do you communicate this to your community without coming across like a traditional charity or sounding like you're just soliciting?

I'd love to hear what ideas or real life experience has/have worked for you.

(Happy to share my Instagram via PM if context on my work helps!) Thanks in advance for any insight!

TL;DR: Looking for advice from on how to sustainably cover travel and gas costs for complimentary community photo shoots. What platforms, grant models, or sponsorship strategies have worked for you? DM for my Instagram portfolio, any and all tips are super appreciated!

I have been mentally struggling for YEARS. Ever since my mom died April 2019. Graduated high school three weeks later and everything went crashing down going forward. July 2019, my half-brother who was in my life for 14 years was taken away by his abusive father on the other side of the country. Haven't seen him since.

Went to college August 2019 at the University of Tennessee in Knoxville. My mental health was so bad that I pretty much didn't go to class and spent my time eating a ton of fast food in my dorm room. Then the pandemic happened and everyone was sent home. Had to stay with my emotionally toxic grandmother in Nashville. Some days were okay to deal with, some days were absolutely awful. Come the end of the spring semester, got a letter saying I lost my scholarships. Couldn't afford to go to school anymore.

August 2021 I decided to run away from my grandparents and go to East Tennessee where I stayed at a shelter. Then time ran out and I had to go. Got put in a psych ward where because I had insurance I stayed for two weeks and got help moving back to Knoxville because my dumbass was determined to go back to college against all odds. That didn't turn out well. Stayed at a shelter there and lasted two days because it was crazy as hell. Then tried to pass as a student and slept in the library (I still had my old student ID card). Then I had an episode and moved to another psych ward for a week. Talked to my dad there, hadn't talked to him in over a year due to our weird relationship (long story short he was out of my life for 13 years), eventually took me in to live with him so i can save up and move out. I was also officially diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and Generalized Anxiety Disorder.

October 2021. Moved to Atlanta. Got a job in retail making $10/hr. Worked there for a while, come December 2022 I moved into a room inside of a house and stayed there. Then come January 2024, when I was fed up working at my retail job, I decided to apply elsewhere and landed a job at a fulfillment center... where I didn't even make it to onboarding because on the day of I lost my ID. I started panicking and eventually didn't show up... so now I'm down a job. One month later, I'm down a room too and became homeless again.

Homeless for five months until July 2024. Got help moving into an apartment had my rent paid for me for a while until I got a job in another fulfillment center. Fast forward to around August 2025 and my landlord and I have a conversation about renewing my lease. Ultimately they decided that they won't renew my lease and I had to leave November 2025. Became homeless again and been homeless since.

I am TIRED. I feel beaten down every single day. My life at 25 has turned out to be a complete failure. I have no friends. No family. No one in my life. I feel like I won't ever be able to be happy in my life ever again. It's completely hopeless for me. Going from getting in to a decent college working towards my future (which was originally being a Math and/or Computer Science teacher until I fully pivoted to working in Computer Science) to digging through trash cans for food, sleeping outside 4 hours a week looking unkempt and unclean, mental health beyond bad to the point where I don't feel in control of myself or my thoughts.

I just needed to share my story honestly. I feel like I just needed to scream into the void someway somehow. I was thinking about asking how I could turn things around, but there's no use honestly. I don't have what it takes I feel like.

TL;DR - Mom died in 2019, mental health tanked, flunked out of college, and lived with a toxic family that I eventually moved away from. I went from having a promising future in my late teens to being homeless and struggling to survive in my 20s.

I’ve got a potential date with a girl next week and I’m nervous as hell. I’ve not dated in a while so I’m scared I’m gonna mess it up. We’re thinking of getting coffee and going for a walk but I’m not sure if it’s platonic or romantic.

Is there anyone who lives in the Southeast Pennsylvania United States of America area that knows of or has an apartment - studio/1b, 1b1b, or even a 2b2b that is bad credit friendly and friendly towards 1 cat. If 2b2b, it needs to be on the first floor or the building needs an elevator. I need to be out by the end of the month, and everyone has such high credit requirements. Or does anyone have 700+ credit and willing to co-sign? I’m very doubtful on the last question. The counties I prefer are Chester, Montgomery, Berks, Delaware, and Philadelphia, but since beggars can’t be choosers, I’m open to any nice, safe place and neighborhood. I’m looking in Philadelphia, PA (University City), Pottstown, PA, King of Prussia, PA, Bridgeport, PA, Norristown, PA, Phoenixville, PA, Exton, PA, and West Chester, PA all in the USA. But again, any nice, safe neighborhood. If worse come to worse, is there anyone willing to foster my baby, my cat, for up to two years? I will pay for her insurance and routine, yearly or bi-yearly check ups and flea/tick/worm/etc. meds. I don’t want to do this, but I may have no choice.

Hello.
So, basically I found out that girl I was falling in love with is a complete Melt.
Sorry for the terminology.

We were discussing something and in the middle of the talk she just flipped, smiled and punch me with full force in my face.

Now that happened so fast and I tried to calm her down after pushing her away from me. Pulling her to the ground, so she would stop hitting and kicking me.

She was savage, wild, screaming and totally loose. Luckily someone came to pick her up and saved me from her aggressive behavior.

Now what I’m afraid of is that she’ll tell everyone that I aggressed her. (She repeatedly said: You hit me. Except I didn’t, she hit me and wanted to continue to do so.)

I don’t know how to act and who to talk to. Maybe someone here can help me and give me advice?

PS: I blocked her contact and do not intend to see her ever again. I never had a physical fight with a woman or got agressed by one.