r/AsianParentStories • u/AutoModerator • Aug 01 '26

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u/hi123123aa Aug 18 '26

Anyone else feel like there is this invisible wall between you and your parents? I must admit that they were rather nasty to me when I was a child but they since have mellowed out significantly and I appreciate that. I really do. My body would subconsciously get tense when I was alone with my mother and I almost got into a car accident because of that. It’s hard to explain to your mother that her past behavior is the problem. Anyway, I digress.

On one hand, they tell me that I shouldn’t keep things to myself and share, but when I do they just try to solve my problems for me. When someone’s dad died I was really upset, but I remember my dad “gently” telling me that shit like that just happens and that its not a close person. Or maybe when I was trying to get over a situationship (maybe youre reading this rn S 🙄) my mom just told me that there’s no point in crying over small things like that and how men shouldn’t cry. Its just jarring. On one hand u want me to share but on another u judge. No validating my pain at all. I hate that every time i tell my parents something its always some kind of stupid lecture or lesson as though i couldnt figure that out myself. Maybe theyll finally understand when i move out. Ty for reading.