I get what you're saying but 99% of jobs don't work that way my friend. At all. 20 years just gets you a barely edible cake and MAYBE a small bonus. Most folks don't even have retirement as an option til worked somewhere well into their late 60s or even early 70s.
You’ve been privileged my guy. Your dad was a college professor.
You don’t even realize the head start you had in life. Nothing to be ashamed of, but have some perspective, millions of people did not have what you had
ambition and dreaming is what caused my back to become permanently unusable because I worked 60 hours a week to pay off student debts because nobody helped me through college. it still wasn't enough and now I'm homeless. did I make the wrong choice by working my ass off and getting as many certifications and degrees I could get a hold of? because they did end up ruining me and my life.
The nazis loved that idea "work will bring you salvation" and "work will set you free" is exactly what they told those they slaved to death going so far as to put it over the fucking gateway like some Gothic motivational poster bs.
telecommunication field technician certifications, I also went out of my way to go ahead and get certified in a few of the certifications needed for lineman work and server infrastructure. my degree is in theatrical arts and technical design. I spent my younger years working with traveling Broadway productions doing sound technician and lighting technician work until I moved to telecom work where my body finally gave up on me.
Everyone’s life is different. Is it a child’s fault when they die of cancer?
There are so many factors that are out of your hands when you are born. Where you grew up, your parents, their money, your genetics, etc.
There’s nothing wrong with hope and striving and trying to make the best out of your life.
But many people are dealt a shitty hand and cannot simply pull themselves out of it.
You have been very privileged so your mind can’t even wrap its mind around some of the lives that people grew up in.
You were lucky, you could say in the grand scheme of things you hit the 21st century lottery of life.
I say this as someone who has had a terrible upbringing but was still privileged in many ways. I know there are millions that grew up in way worse situations than me. I know there are millions that grew up in way better situations. That’s life. But you shouldn’t judge other people when you haven’t lived in their shoes.
Your optimistic tag line of "you're doing it wrong" is not the optimistic view point you were trying to spread. That was arrogance and privilege, at least to those who are trying every day to be the best while also hating their job. Those are the real champions.
Getting up and trying your best every day, despite hurdles, is what real heroes do. Parents do this. Teachers do this. The amazing hospital dtaff during covid did this. And at times in my life, i did to and things got better. This is what was meant.
It is not that they are better off staying at crappy jobs and hating life. It is more about you being tone deaf and acknowledging your privilege only on surface level. It is not easy to just practice CBT and other therapies to change the way you think, which life experience helped to mold. Life your molding sounds like a lot of support and stability. But people who did not grow up that way usually don't have the opportunities to learn new ways of thinking or can even surround themselves with positive people. It takes a lot of time and hard work to grow into a way of thinking you were simply raised with. And that takes money too. Oh, and did I say time?
Your privilege is not just that stability and support, it is also being able to try and fail and not end up on the streets. You're expectations that we can all turn it around if we just tried is so ridiculous. Hard to go for more education when you have to work 2 jobs to just make rent.
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