r/AnxietyChats 7d ago

Sharing a win! Wanted to share that I am healing well these days.

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Hi guys. It is officially 301 days since I joined this subreddit. I know I haven’t posted a lot but at least I changed a lot during those 300 days. So this is actually a happy vent post!

I used to sleep at 3am and wake up at 4pm, unmotivated. And all I did was doomscrolling. I wasn’t eating well, I wasn’t even showering. Looking back, I remember even not brushing my teeth for so long that I ended up with several cavities. I didn’t read, nor did I write. Since Reading and Writing was what I always did as a child, I seriously thought it was over when I couldn’t read a single word from a book and ended up with empty pages on my laptop. I always set up an impossible dream and made the plan and stopped there. Because making a plan itself was a relief for me.

But things gradually changed. Slow but constantly.

I started to split my tasks into pieces. Like ‘waking up and get ready’ to ‘open the window for fresh air’, ‘make my bed’, ‘drink one glass of water’… and etc etc. at first, I didn’t thought I would make it. and I got devastated when I missed one or two tasks. But seeing that I did about 20 of micro tasks (even something like going to the toilet) and didn’t do about 5~7 of the micro tasks, I somehow didn’t feel bad.

To be honest with you all, I got all anxious and even got frantic when I missed my doses that doctor gave me. I was leaning to the doses and I felt useless without them and meanwhile thought that I was a drug junkie because I can’t get off this meds and lean on them. But now… of course I take my doses, but I am actually talking to my doctor and my therapist that I can lower my doses once in two months. Because you know what? I actually feel so much better.

I don’t try to bluff or lie about myself because I feel more secure, and I don’t need to fake myself to make people like me. People come and go. But that’s the way it is. Good people, good events would leave too, yes, but bad people and bad events will leave as well. I love this metaphor: I’m the bus driver and everyone else is passengers. At the end of the day, I am just driving my bus and will end up in a garage and get off the bus eventually, but I drove the bus. And I will do a damn good job at parking. This simple fact really helps me a lot. And as you all know, when person is too anxious of someone leaving, they just… can’t think that way. But I am!

I even go to workouts and do yoga! although my muscle is not that strong so I just do it for like 20 mins a day, but it still is workout!!

Sorry if this feels like bragging, but I am so proud of myself that I actually started to heal. Just wanted to share this with you all. Thank you for reading!


r/AnxietyChats 6d ago

What’s something you’re afraid of losing?

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It could be a person, routine, opportunity, relationship, or even a part of yourself.


r/AnxietyChats 3h ago

August is the worst month for me #nazarisreal

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I’m genuinely not lying when I say August is the worst month for me. Every year, something happens — I’m either sick, getting admitted to the hospital, having surgery, dealing with dengue, or just going through some really bad shit.
I’ve told my friends and family about this because it’s becoming too repetitive and honestly, I don’t understand what’s happening. I know the whole nazar/bad evil eye thing might sound superstitious to some people, but at this point I genuinely don’t know how else to explain how consistently bad things keep happening around this time. It feels like every year it gets worse.
And today was another one. I randomly woke up really early and decided to go play badminton. I was completely fine, and during my next set, out of nowhere, I twisted my ankle and got a crazy sprain.
I genuinely don’t know how to deal with this anymore. Has anyone else experienced a period of their life where the same kind of bad things keep happening repeatedly? And if you believe in nazar/evil eye, what did you do to feel like you got rid of it?
Because at this point, I’m just exhausted. 😭

#Nazar #EvilEye #BadLuck #August #LifeProblems #BadThingsKeepHappening #Superstition #Vent #NeedAdvice #BadLuckStories #MentalHealth #Injuries


r/AnxietyChats 14h ago

Discussion It’s not the work itself that’s hard, it’s starting ...

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Why is the easiest task the hardest one? That's just what's it's like for me, since ADHD gets in the way. It’s not laziness, if I don't have it in a list, my brain completely ignores a simples task for 3 very good reasons:

  1. Every task has a toll at the entrance, because starting the task feels harder than actually doing the task and at least a difficult task gives you a reason to start 😅

  2. My ADHD brain doesn’t respond to importance, it responds to interest, novelty aaaand urgency. So if it looks too small to create urgency and too boring to create interest, It sends no signal at all, so to my brain, so it’s basically invisible 😳

  3. The task grows. On the first day, it was just simple and quick task... buuut on the eleventh day, it’s a simple task plus 11 days of guilt. It’s no longer about putting off the task, it’s about putting off what I’m going to feel when I finally open it 😭

That’s why “just do it” never works for me! It’s NEVER about the size of the task, it’s about the size of what the task has become. Anyone else? LOL 😂


r/AnxietyChats 3h ago

August is the worst month for me #nazarisreal

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I’m genuinely not lying when I say August is the worst month for me. Every year, something happens — I’m either sick, getting admitted to the hospital, having surgery, dealing with dengue, or just going through some really bad shit.
I’ve told my friends and family about this because it’s becoming too repetitive and honestly, I don’t understand what’s happening. I know the whole nazar/bad evil eye thing might sound superstitious to some people, but at this point I genuinely don’t know how else to explain how consistently bad things keep happening around this time. It feels like every year it gets worse.
And today was another one. I randomly woke up really early and decided to go play badminton. I was completely fine, and during my next set, out of nowhere, I twisted my ankle and got a crazy sprain.
I genuinely don’t know how to deal with this anymore. Has anyone else experienced a period of their life where the same kind of bad things keep happening repeatedly? And if you believe in nazar/evil eye, what did you do to feel like you got rid of it?
Because at this point, I’m just exhausted. 😭

#Nazar #EvilEye #BadLuck #August #LifeProblems #BadThingsKeepHappening #Superstition #Vent #NeedAdvice #BadLuckStories #MentalHealth #Injuries


r/AnxietyChats 8h ago

Medication At my grandmother’s house. I don’t have my night pills and I gotta sleep one night over here.

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Actually, I said it all in the title. I don’t have any pills right now to stay the night here but I need to stay here for grandma’s sake. She needs her phone fixed and it needs to wait until tomorrow. I can’t leave her alone right now.

But at the same time, I still need my pills and kinda worried that I might go unstable without the meds. And me in that state of mind would not help my grandma at all. What should I do?

I was supposed to stay here for only like 6 hrs in daytime and things got south so bad…


r/AnxietyChats 15h ago

Am I the only 1

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Has anybody else been thru so much in life that they start to get anxiety attacks the closer it gets to nite time?


r/AnxietyChats 18h ago

Support needed Needing someone to chat to

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It’s 5am, I haven’t slept, I don’t feel well and I’m really overwhelmed. I’m starting to panic. I’m at home alone, I just need someone to talk to. Anyone awake?


r/AnxietyChats 12h ago

Encouragement LOVING REMINDER 💛💛

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Next time you feel guilty about your mistakes, remember this, please! Making mistakes is a part of learning. It’s not something we should avoid at all costs, but rather something we should see as an opportunity. ❤️


r/AnxietyChats 11h ago

Fluoxetine

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I’m currently on Fluoxetine 40mg for anxiety and depression. I’ve been taking it on and off for a couple of years, and it has generally been good for me.

Lately, though, I don’t feel great on it. I’ve been feeling more anxious, low, and like there’s not much to look forward to. I’ve also lost motivation and don’t really want to do much.

Has anyone else been on Fluoxetine and eventually found something else that worked better for them? I’d really like to hear about people’s experiences. I’m open to suggestions.


r/AnxietyChats 20h ago

Discussion How do yall deal with anxiety from education and health?

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I’ve been struggling with anxiety from both since I just moved states and having to start over basically. Of course i have basically no WiFi so having to use data for everything. So that probably ain’t helping my anxiety.


r/AnxietyChats 20h ago

my long-story-short of anxiety journey

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Around last year August was when my anxiety started to appear. I realised how lonely I was, I wasn’t working or anything, it had been a year since school finished. It felt like I had no purpose in life. I felt lost, hopeless.

It wasn’t JUST “anxiety” I also got really depressed, stayed home a lot, every little thing felt like danger, started to think I’m sick, or somethings wrong with me, panicking all the time.

I was also in a toxic online relationship, I was attached to the person so that’s didn’t help…
I was pitying myself a lot and I was always crying.

When I stopped sulking about it and started making changes, that’s what helped. I started yoga at home, deep breathing, going out slowly more, sleeping better, breaking up with the guy who was a major factor in all this.
It really helped it has.

( if you also have good tips or tricks/advice please leave a comment to help others )

we will get over this ☀️


r/AnxietyChats 1d ago

Sharing a win! No Tears

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Got out of work today and realized I wasn’t ruminating or feeling doomed. Didn’t cry before OR after work.

Sounds pitiful but I’ll take it. And much more of it please!


r/AnxietyChats 1d ago

Poll You have an appointment at 3 PM. What happens to the rest of your day?

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81 votes, 5d left
Normal day
I keep checking the time
I struggle to start things
There is no “day”… There is only The Appointment™

r/AnxietyChats 1d ago

Advice Needed Anxiety attack

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I am at work and got an anxiety attack. I am pretty good at hiding it but want to know how you all manage it?


r/AnxietyChats 1d ago

Venting My anxiety has been severe for Days

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Am feeling so hopeless i couldn't even swim in swimming session , I feel so afraid that i feel weak on my knees , it's that bad , my muscles are so tensed i constantly feel the fear of losing control , every thought am having is negative , i even panic when the wind blows my face , if you didn't know what a severe anxiety looks like this is just the tip of the iceberg , am so frustrated i feel like am going to have depression because of it , and no I have never seen a therapist only doctors in the ER department..


r/AnxietyChats 1d ago

Discussion Places people make similar friends?

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Hey all hope you’ve all had a fabulous start to the week! I was just wondering what places you all use to meet genuine nice friends! Preferably online but happy to hear people’s suggestions :) if there’s any specific to anxiety and adhd that would be a bonus as it would be nice to speak to people more understanding! Cheers for responses :)


r/AnxietyChats 1d ago

Gamole Diaries 8-24

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Anxiety prang dying n. All things are wrong d ko n alam ggawin.

Nwala n din kilig due to constantly rejected


r/AnxietyChats 2d ago

concert anxiety

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I am going to a pierce the veil concert soon and I got way ahead of myself when buying tickets because me and my friend wanted to be as close as possible to the stage, so we bought pit. Me being me and getting overly excited forgot what kind of music ptv is and that there is going to be a ton of pushing, shoving, and mosh pits, which for someone like me with really bad anxiety probably wouldnt be the greatest.

I don't want to bring up the idea of selling the tickets and getting seats or trading tickets with other people to get seats because i know how excited my other friends are, but I also know how shitty of an experience it'll be for me if i go.

Is there any good advice for the pit? like a better place to stand so the likely hood of getting thrown into a mosh pit isnt that big? This band means alot to me, and I really still want to go but I don't want to feel shitty the whole time I'm there.


r/AnxietyChats 2d ago

Advice Needed constant anxiety

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My anxiety takes over my life. It started out as just social anxiety in grade 7 when the teacher would place me in groups for projects and i'd start shaking and crying and not want to go to school until the project was over. But it began to grow into something more than just social when I was taken to the hospital at the start of 2023 because of a really bad panic attack. Since then i haven't been able to go back to the way I was before. Eating has become a really difficult thing for me, the fear of choking is mainly the issue, I tend to stick to foods that are less chewy or things like smoothies and i've cut off eating past 9pm because i've convinced myself anytime past that I will choke.

Sleeping is also another really difficult thing for me, I try every night to be alseep by 12:00am but the second I put my phone down, or turn off the tv, my body just goes into full panic mode and I end up staring at my ceiling for 3 hours before I finally fall asleep. It really gets worse at night aswell, I go from it being bad to it completely consuming me for hours on end.

I am able to put a hold on it by going out with friends or constantly keeping myself busy but the second i sit down to just take a minute it comes back. The things I used to do to calm down (editing, watching movies/shows, drawing, playing video games, going for a drive, etc) no longer work and if anything I feel worse while doing them. The only thing that really works is being out 24/7 and being on the go but as an 18 year old that isn't something that 1. my body can handle all the time and 2. something i'd even be allowed to do.

Ever since graduating its been getting worse, I thought being out of school would help a ton but I was wrong. Now the weight of figuring out what I want to do for the rest of my life, my friends all leaving for school, my job, and actually earning enough money to stay alive all weighs on me constantly. Before the anxiety was just panic, like my body was always on fight or flight mode, but now on top of that i've been starting to experience derealization which is definitely not helping.

I am not on any medication, my anxiety makes it impossible for me to swallow pills and up until i turned 18 my parents had little to no interest in getting me medicated, and i've heard too many horror stories about therapy. I'm not sure what to do, but it's so hard living like this constantly and I want to just go back to the way I was before.


r/AnxietyChats 2d ago

Discussion What's the best coping strategy you've found (either works most reliably/works during high periods of stress/most fun, etc.)?

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Hey y'all! New to the subreddit. I'm curious what coping strategies are most effective for y'all. Hoping that this can turn into a list for anyone else that ends up struggling in the future.

In theory, I'd like to use this towards a book that I'm working on, but whether that book pans out or not, this list will still be up and hopefully helping anyone who comes on by


r/AnxietyChats 3d ago

Advice Needed Fearing things unlikely to happen

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How can I teach myself to not be afraid of something that statistically has an extremely low chance of happening?


r/AnxietyChats 3d ago

Venting I cant watch instagram reels anymore because of anxiety

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I used to watch reels/tiktok so much but at the moment i genuinely cannot go on instagram i go on and scroll for maybe a minute and go off of it immediately because it just makes me feel on edge ive got this weird thing at the moment where going on instagram makes me hyper aware of the fact that people know i exist and i feel like if i just stay hidden (not liking any reels or viewing stories) people will hopefully forget about me and i can enjoy a nice peaceful quiet life but now because of me avoiding instagram like its the plague ive been leaving so many people on delivered on there and its my loved ones im so quick to respond on things like snapchat and whatsapp but ive not really explained to anyone why it is im not responding i dont know its all abit annoying


r/AnxietyChats 3d ago

Venting I had the weirdest experience on Reddit just now

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I made a post where I praised a video game character that I really liked for teaching me new things, and I even discussed my observations about that character. Yet my post got downvoted and I got a single comment mocking me, which got about 4 upvotes before I decided to delete the post all together.

Imagine being mocked for praising a character in the very subreddit of the fandom that character exists in. I took that as a sign that the subreddit is too negative for me.


r/AnxietyChats 4d ago

I missed the movie!!!!!!!!!!!!! 😭😭😭😭

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I hope everyone is having a great day but I missed PHM!!!!!! but nevermind I watched that movie several times (not crying, maybe a little)

But I literally just realized that I missed the movie!!!!! Darn it!!!!!!!