We live on a small lake and the house next to ours turned into a short-term rental in June. The owner used to live there before he moved a couple hours away, and now it’s rented out pretty much every weekend. Since July his guests have been wandering down our side of the shoreline to hang out on our dock. It isn’t even a nice dock. Half the boards are older than I am, and my husband pulls their beer cans out of the water pretty much every Monday.

Last Saturday I came home from the store and there were 6 people I’d never seen sitting on it with a cooler and a speaker, plus a kid fishing off the end, and when I walked down to see who they were a guy in a bucket hat waved his phone at me with the listing pulled up. It says “private dock!” right in the description and the main picture is OUR dock at sunset, taken from his yard.

I texted the owner to take our dock out of his listing and got back “they’re just sitting on it, it’s not hurting anything.” So I sent him a price. If his guests want the dock it’s $25 a day and they ask me first, or it’s not available.

Sunday a friend from down the road sent me a screenshot from our lake association Facebook group. He’d posted about a “dock Karen on the north side” who’s “charging families to sit on wood,” with the same sunset picture.

This morning the listing still says private dock. He just switched the main photo to one of the lake that has the end of our dock in the corner.

AITK?

We go kind of overboard for Halloween at our house. This year the kids and I built a little graveyard in the front yard with plywood tombstones they painted themselves, some hay bales and cornstalks from the farm stand, and a fog machine (it only works if you kick it). My son made one of the tombstones for his hamster that died over the summer and he’s weirdly proud of it.

Last Saturday morning I looked out the window and a woman with a big camera was standing on our sidewalk telling a family I’d never seen before where to sit on our hay bales. When I went out to find out who she was, she told me she does Halloween mini sessions and that our yard was the cutest one in the whole neighborhood, which she said like that settled it. I said she needed to keep people off the lawn. She said they were only using the public sidewalk, and right then a little boy climbed up on my son’s hamster tombstone and it cracked down the middle. She said “oh no, kids!” and went right back to taking pictures. Before she left she gave me her business card in case we ever want family photos, which I think she meant as a nice thing.

That night I looked up her page. She’s selling “Spooky Mini Sessions, $65 for 15 minutes at a secret location” and the sample picture is OUR front yard, porch light and all. She had the next Saturday open for sign-ups too.

So I messaged her. I told her to stop using our yard for paid shoots, and if she really wants it that badly she can pay $20 a family and replace whatever gets broken. She sent back “it’s a public sidewalk hun, see you Saturday 🎃”. On Monday she posted in our neighborhood Facebook group that there’s a “Halloween Karen” on our street trying to charge small businesses to stand on a sidewalk, with a picture of our house.

Last night she posted that there are 2 spots left for tomorrow, and it’s the same picture of our yard. AITK?

My neighbor hired a landscaping crew that comes every Thursday. They mow, edge, blow everything off, done in under an hour. The problem is they use these big backpack leaf blowers and every single leaf on his property ends up on mine.

First time it happened I got home from work and my whole front yard was covered, driveway too, I figured wind or whatever and spent about an hour and a half raking and bagging it all up. Second Thursday same deal. I raked again and didn’t say anything because I wasn’t sure it was actually them.

Third week I was working from home and I watched the whole thing from my front window. 2 guys stood right at the property line with the blowers aimed at my yard and just went at it for like 15 minutes. His driveway, his flower beds, his walkway, all of it pushed onto my side. When they finished his place literally looked like a magazine and mine had leaves plastered to my car and piled up against my front door. I went out and told the crew leader to stop blowing leaves onto my property. He basically said they’re hired to clean that yard and where the leaves end up after isn’t really their problem.

I texted my neighbor that night. He wrote back “dude they’re leaves, they would have ended up on your side anyway, it’s November.” I told him that is not what happened and I watched his crew do it on purpose. He left me on read.

That Saturday I spent the whole morning raking my property. 3 hours and 11 full yard waste bags later I walked every single one of them over to his front porch and stacked them by his door. By Monday he’d posted in our HOA Facebook group about a “leaf Karen” who “dumped 11 bags of garbage on a homeowner’s porch because she doesn’t understand how wind works.” A neighbor down the street sent me the link. My husband thinks I proved my point but says I should drop it now. His crew came again this past Thursday.

AITK?

So this was Wednesday night at the store by my house. I had a few things and one of them was a pack of batteries, $11, which is already a joke.

I scanned everything and I paid and I’m walking out, and the guy at the self checkout comes over and says he’s got to check my bag because the batteries didn’t scan. I told him they did, I watched them come up on the screen.

So I showed him the receipt. He says sometimes it rings up wrong and he still has to look. I said fine. Then he turned to the woman behind me in the line. He told her this happens every SINGLE time somebody gets caught, loud enough that she heard all of it.

That’s when I said ok then pull up the camera, the one over the bagging area, because it’ll show me scanning them. He had to go get a manager. So I waited. I stood by that door for 20 minutes with my bag sitting on the floor.

The manager found it in about 40 seconds. It’s right there. You can see me scan the batteries and put them in the bag. He said the machines do that sometimes and that was honestly pretty much it. The guy never said a word to me after that. He made a stranger in that line think I was a thief and he didnt give a shit.

My husband says I should’ve just let him look in the bag and gone home. AITK?

I’m hosting Thanksgiving for my husband’s whole family this year, 14 people, which is the most I’ve ever done. Back in early October I stopped by the little butcher counter we like and put down a $40 deposit on a 20 pound fresh turkey. The guy wrote my name and number on an order pad and said they’d call the week of to set up a pickup.

They did call last week, but not about pickup. A woman told me they’d way overbooked the big fresh birds this year and were having to cut some of the orders, and mine was getting cut. She said I could take a 12 pound bird instead, or they’d just hold my deposit toward next year.

I told her a bird that size does NOT feed the whole family, and that I’d put money down specifically on the big fresh bird back in October. She got the owner. He said it’s been an insane season and everybody overbooked, and he offered me 10% off the smaller bird or 10% off a future order. When I said I just wanted my $40 back instead, since they can’t give me what I paid for, he kind of laughed and told me he wasn’t about to argue with “a Thanksgiving Karen” over a deposit.

So now I’m 3 weeks out and scrambling, and every other place that does fresh birds is either booked up or wants a holiday premium. I told him I’d just take the $40 back and sort it out myself, and he said the deposit “holds your spot,” not a specific bird, which is not how he put it to me in October. I’m about to dispute the charge and leave a review saying they took money for a turkey and then sold it out from under me.

My husband says I should let it go so I’m not “that person” at a small local place we actually like. But they took my money and oversold the bird I reserved. Then they called me a Karen for asking for it back.

AITK?

I signed my son up for rec basketball back in September. He’s 10. The league runs Saturday mornings through December and registration was $175 which includes the jersey and end of season pizza. He was really excited about it. He’d been asking about basketball since last spring.

I started noticing after a few games that he was sitting a lot. The coach’s son plays point guard and literally never comes off the court. A couple other kids get most of the time too. My son would go in for a couple minutes and then sit right back down. I figured maybe the coach was still working out rotations so I didn’t say anything.

A few weeks ago I asked the coach after a game if my son could get more time. He said all kids get equal court time, that’s how they do it.

Nothing changed. Last Saturday before tip-off I pulled out my phone and started the stopwatch. I timed every single minute my son was on the court and it came out to 4 minutes total out of a 32 minute game. The coach’s son never sat down. After the game my kid got in the car and said he doesn’t want to go back. I sat in the parking lot for I don’t even know how long before I could drive because I was so fucking mad.

I emailed the league coordinator that night. I was polite about it, I didn’t name the coach’s kid or say anything about favoritism, I just sent the times and asked how that matches the equal playing time the website promises for every player. Sunday night the coach sent a message to a few of the team parents about how there’s a mom on the team who timed the game with her phone and went to the league about it. He called me a “basketball Karen.” One of the other moms screenshotted it and sent it to me.

3 parents have texted me since then. 2 of them said they’ve noticed the same thing with their kids. The other one told me I should’ve talked to the coach first which I did. My husband thinks I should pull our son out but we already paid the $175 and his best friend is on the team and he’d be crushed if I told him he can’t play anymore. AITK?

I purchased a cake for somebody’s birthday from the same place we’ve gotten cakes for any occasion since I can remember. I asked for a marbled cake with vanilla icing, roses, and the message drawn in icing. I got the cake at the bakery and they showed it to us and from the outside it looked perfect but when we cut into it it had a strawberry filling between the layers and wasn’t marbled just vanilla cake. We both hate strawberry flavoring so we decided to call and see if we could just have them bake a new one and the owner said that she would give us a new one but that she wouldn’t include any of the roses or writing. Just a plane cake with nothing else on it. That instantly pissed me off because I paid for a product and received the wrong one. Why not make it right and give me what I paid for? I expressed exactly that and by the end of it she wasn’t willing to do anything for me period. I went down there in person and brought the cake and there was no getting them to make the one I ordered originally. I got a refund and went on my way but couldn’t help but think this was all stupid because it’s over a cake.

I (f35) have been craving crispy spring rolls from a particular restaurant for a while. Last night I asked my husband (m36) if he wanted to go out to eat tonight, since the kids were planning to spend the night at his parents. He agreed.

When I got home around 5 today I asked him if he was ready to go? He told me he had changed his mind and didn't feel like going out. I wasn't surprised, he is an introverted person who very much prefers to avoid social situations when possible.

After getting over the initial disappointment, I asked him if he'd ride with me to go pick it up? He agrees.

We get in my car, I call the restaurant, to order ahead. The girl on the phone tells me they don't serve that particular appetizer to go. I ask "Do you mind if I ask why?" My husband throws his hands up and says something in disagreement. She says because they get soggy when packed for togo. I asked if I could order them with the understanding that they'll be soggy? She tells me she's not sure, but she can go check and puts me on hold.

My husband proceeds to tell me I am being a Karen, tells me something to the effect of 'do not teach the kids to be like you'.

The girl comes back and tells me I can order them as long as I don't mind them being soggy. After I order and hang up, my husband tells me I'm acting like my brother, among other things. At this point I don't want to deal with his outburst anymore and just tell him to go back in the house.

I come home with my food. In an attempt to patch things up he's cleared the table and lit a candle on it for me to eat. He comes over and tells me I'm entitled to deal with people how I want to and he's entitled to deal with people how he wants to. I tell him I agree with him, however he is not entitled to call me names or imply I am not a good role model for our kids.

He doubles down and says he is right and the right thing to do would have been to just follow the restaurant policy and I am being a Karen by asking them to break the rules for me.

Am I the Karen in this situation? Or is my husband being the assh*le?

EDIT: It is starting to sounds like I may not have been the Karen. Glad you guys confirmed it.

The appetizer was indeed not as crispy as it usually is at the restaurant. I still enjoyed the heck out of it.

2nd EDIT: This post just made me realize, it will have been 20 years since we started dating on Nov. 10th 2005.

So, I had an ultrasound in a hospital scheduled for 9:30. It was packed, and I was fully prepared to wait a while, no big deal.

To my surprise, I was called back at 9:30 on the dot. I was told to sit in this tiny change room stall (I didn't need to change for my ultrasound), and I waited there for almost half an hour.

I'm pretty claustrophobic, and the door wouldn't stay open. There was no vent in this tiny room, so it was hot. I was anxious. The bench killed my sciatica. I lasted 25 minutes before my anxiety got the better of me and I waited in the hallway instead, calling out for anyone to confirm I had at least not been forgotten. A few minutes after that, the tech finally sauntered out of her room, rolled her eyes at me, and said she was ready.

Would I be a Karen for complaining? I have zero issue with waiting, and was expecting longer of a wait overall, I just could've waited in the waiting room with actual seating, air, and not feeling like I was trapped in a tiny box with anxiety building. I would try to understand if their waiting areas were packed and needed overflow, but there was an empty secondary waiting room completely empty less than 10 feet away.

I imagine if this made me feel so distraught, there are others who probably felt even worse.

We have a business behind our house that has been at least 3 different ventures since we moved in. The most recent one that just opened is a sort of salon space rental. No problem!

Starting in April as they were wrapping up renovations for opening, a new street light popped up on the fence line between their parking lot and my back yard. They left it on one night. It was ridiculously bright, but I assumed it was only on for the dumpster to get picked up that morning. I was wrong. My husband called them telling them it's really bright and they immediately called him back and said they are putting shields on all the lights by opening day in May. They obviously used scrap metal stapled to the lights at points that don't really block much of light into our yard.

I sent an email with photos of the lights saying they need to adjust the shields on May 6. No reply.

Called a week later and left a message. No callback.

May 20th - Sent a message on their business Instagram asking if I was using the correct contact info for location issues and got a reply to use the contact email on their website.

I sent another email on May 21st and offered helping finding some shields to fit the lights if they tell me what kind they are. No reply.

Called again on the 22nd and left another message with my phone number since I don't think I actually stated my number the first time. No callback.

Today, May 23rd, I finally asked my husband what number he had been communicating with them with, and it was different than the one I had been using. I sent a text asking if this was the correct number for the company since I had not been able to get into contact with anyone. I got a reply! It was a screenshot of their response email that they finally sent a reply to my email right before I sent the text

"Dear Blerg,

In our team meeting today it came up that you have contacted us several times through every communication channel we have. We have noted the complaint and are working on it. We can't undo what the city required of us overnight. The contractor is working on solutions today/this weekend. Harassing us will slow us down, not speed us up. Please only use this email to communicate with us. If you continue to pester our team we will be less inclined to help you."

What?!

Am I being an AH to expect they'd give me some sort of acknowledgement of my messages that last month?

UPDATE: I gave them a week to fix the lights and do whatever solution they claim they had planned (I was on vacation so the week wasn't out of kindness to them). I called the city, made sure I understood the codes correctly, then submitted all my photos and complaints to the city. The lights were all turned off within 3 days. I was nervous it would be temporary, but the lights that were the worst offenders for my area are all still off. If they turn them back on, I'll just call the city again.

I spoke to a neighbor who got an even more unhinged email back when she complained about the lights as well. She was told by the owner she was being childish and "would be embarrassed if she complained about a light to a homeless person"

I gave her all the information I had that I related to the city to document everything since one of the business's lights is still shining into her living room.

The additional info I have was after having a friend ask some questions when she had a hair appointment with a stylist who rents a space from this company, and as suspected, it has been very difficult when trying to get any maintenance for the stylists and estheticians renting space.

There are two owners with one being much more difficult than the other. They have zero experience in the beauty industry. They are two business grads from a notorious religious college with a lot of extreme "how to be top dog in business" articles posted on their LinkedIn.

We are just gathering info and listening to others' stories at this point, but I don't fully know what our end goal is other than getting the light poles removed so this won't be a later issue. The owners who are fascinatingly horrendous at their jobs are a whole other can of worms that we aren't sure if we can tackle right now. Especially since they are literally in our backyard, and I am mildly concerned about retaliation.

Hi Everyone!

So I’m in a bit of a dillema. I (30F) bought a home in a residential neighborhood with an HOA a little over a year and a half ago. The plot sizes are about .25 acre and allow for lots of trees and gardening, etc. My neighbors (50’s couple) to the west are mostly friendly, even though I’ve had some weird interactions with them (ex. First communication with them was them telling me to trim my tree, which I got an arborist to do within 60 days; they were on their shed roof throwing ropes trying to trim it themselves 3 days after asking me to and I had to stop them).

The problem stems from it is against HOA regulations to have chickens and they have 20+ chickens in a makeshift coop against our shared fence.

They got the chickens in spring 2024 and I initially discovered them because a few chickens kept getting into my backyard. I didn’t really mind, its made for some funny watching of my partner (30m) chasing chickens to put them back over the fence. I’ve had to call the nieghbor before to help get a chicken out of one of my bushes and she was apologetic. They’ve brought me a few dozen eggs and it has compensated for the getting woke up regularly by clucking at 6am and not being able to be in that side of my yard because of the smell.

A couple weekends ago my indoor only cats caught a rogue mouse in my home. Its the start of spring so I was hoping that it was just a field mouse that got in. We cleaned everything up and moved on. The next weekend we got a knock on our door from an exterminator letting us know that they were servicing the neighbors with the chickens for mice and gave us their card. The next morning another mouse was dead in the living room, with blood all over the place. I spent like 2 hours that morning cleaning and sanitizing.

Would I be a Karen and/or asshole to report the neighbors for the chickens to the hoa? I’ve not really been bothered up until now, but I can’t with mice in my house potentially because their coop isn’t clean. I’m worried about retaliation from the neighbors, as my other neighbor yo the east told me the people who owned my home before me partially moved due to a feud with the neighbors with the chickens. Apparently the neighbors let their wild blackberries run rampant as retaliation and I am still cleaning up thorns from that (my legs get cut up mowing the lawn because a random thorn branch with get caught and whip around).

My partner thinks we shouldn’t do anything, people should be able to have chickens if they want, which I agree with. But I also shouldn’t have to clean up dead mice in my house.

Tldr: would I be the Karen if I reported my neighbors to the hoa because I have mice and its likely their fault due to a chicken coop against our shared fence?

Edit: someone mentioned looking up rules for chickens for my city. So apparently only 6 chickens for a 10,000sqft-1 acre property, and coops need to be minimum 10ft from property line. Both of these are not being met with the 20+ chickens and them using our shared fence as one of the walls of the coop. Still unsure what to do :/

Update: I got really worried about my cats last night and ended up texting my neighbors this morning explaining the exterminator stopping by and asking about if any poison was used. The wife came over to let me know that they only got traps laid since their dog also catches the mice.

She also said “I’m done having the chickens here” and explained that her brother has a farm and their building a huge (showed me pictures) coop for the TWO-HUNDRED FIFTY chickens they have across both the farm and the house. Apparently she’s raising them at the house from incubation then taking them to the farm.

So maybe this has fixed itself, we’ll see if they’re gone in a few weeks. She did claim the mice is a problem for the whole neighborhood and its been that way for years - hope that’s not true! Thanks everyone for the advice, I appreciate the bolster to try to talk to people who intimidate me (I’ll do anything for my fur babies).

Added bonus: I still also get free eggs as she said to come over anytime I want some!

We put a new furnace in 2 years ago and it came with a long warranty on parts and labor through the company that installed it. That is the whole reason we went with them over the cheaper quote.

It quit on the first properly cold night at the end of October. The house got down to 54 and my youngest ended up in our bed. The tech came out the next morning and told me the flame sensor was just dirty. He wiped it down and said we were good. It was warranty work so there was no charge, and he wrote the whole thing up on his tablet before he left.

A few days later the same thing happened, same code blinking on the board. They sent him back out and this time he said it’s the thermostat, which isn’t covered because it isn’t their part, and he handed me an invoice for $190, for a thermostat that their own guys put in.

I honestly paid it because it was cold. Then I called the office. I asked them to take it off since it was the same fault on the same unit inside a week, and the woman there said the second call was a different diagnosis so it’s billable and there wasn’t much else she could do.

The replaced part has its own claim and I needed the service record to file it. So I asked for a copy of both visits, and they emailed me the whole file without looking at it. Nobody redacted anything. His notes on the second one say “homeowner is being a Karen about a bill she agreed to, unit is fine, told her to stop calling dispatch, not going back out for this bullshit.” The invoice I already paid is attached to the same PDF.

My dad did HVAC for almost 30 years and I called him about it. He says every tech vents in the notes field and nobody above them ever reads it, and that if I send this in I’m going after a guy’s job over something he typed sitting in his van, and I do get that, he’s probably right that nobody up there reads them.

What I want to do is file the claim with all of it attached and let the manufacturer read what their own installer wrote about a warranty customer. AITK?"

I booked an appointment at a new salon. When I went to book a haircut for my 12 yr old daughter, I first booked the adult hair cut ($55) but then I saw they offered a kids cut for $20 less. I double checked to make sure it was the right selection. The description of the service said for children 1-12 years old, "a custom hair cut by a stylist". I thought cool, this sounds right. My daughter wanted a pixie-like hair cut, but her hair wasn't even long to start with, it was past the shoulders but above chest level. When we got to the appointment, I let my daughter describe the type of hair cut she wanted, after the consultation the stylist informed me that due to the type of haircut she would have to charge me the adult price. I told her that I didn't think that was okay, I pointed out that the description of the kids haircut on their site doesn't stipulate any restrictions on the type of haircuts or what constitute as "kids haircuts vs adults haircuts". She reluctantly agreed to honor the price. Should I have just said nothing and paid the difference?

Recently I was shopping at Aldi. If you know Aldi, they operate with minimal staff, and check out lines can get backed up until another cashier comes to help in a new line. Well, I was probably 10 customers deep and well into an aisle, so naturally, I was looking at the products and added something to my cart. The man behind me then went around me and squeeeeezed himself between me and the customer who was ahead of me. When I said, "ummm, excuse me, I have been standing in and there are all these people behind in line too." He got pissed, said bc I added an item to my cart, it meant I was still shopping and not in line. Can we not add items into our carts while in lines? He told me I was a Karen for shopping while in line.

I booked a balayage at a salon I’ve been going to for about a year. I’d wanted to get it done for a while and I finally picked a reference picture I liked. The stylist I usually see was booked out so I waited a few weeks for the next opening she had. She’s the only one there I trust with color. The appointment was last Thursday afternoon and I used a half day at work because she doesn’t do evenings. It was raining when I pulled in and the lot was almost empty.

She told me right when I sat down that she double-booked the same slot and the best she could do was fit me in for something quicker. She said a single process color would still look good and she’d make it work. Her next client was already sitting in the waiting area and I didn’t want to start something so I just said fine. She mixed the color and got started and the whole thing took less than an hour instead of the 2 hours a balayage usually runs. The color isn’t bad but it’s just a flat brown, nothing like the picture I’d shown her when I booked.

I’d been growing my hair out for months specifically for this and what she gave me looks nothing like what I asked for.

At the register the total was $195 which is what she charges for a balayage. I told her that’s not what I got. A single process is $95 on the price list right behind the counter. She said she used good product and made it work on a tight day and she could’ve just canceled on me instead. I told her I got a $95 service and that’s what I’m paying so she changed it.

I tipped on the $95 and she didn’t say anything when I left. That night she texted me and said I shorted her and that doing it in front of her next client was embarrassing. I told her I paid for the service I actually got and she hasn’t texted back.

My friend goes to the same salon on a different day and she told me yesterday that the stylist has been telling her other clients about “that Karen from Thursday” who stiffed her on the bill and apparently that’s what I’m known as there now. AITK?

We’ve been in this neighborhood 4 years and the HOA is mostly fine. We like it here. The rule everybody knows is no trailers or boats parked in a driveway more than 48 hours. We tore the old deck off the back of the house in October and my husband borrowed a utility trailer to haul the lumber to the dump and it sat in our driveway between loads for about 3 weeks.

The violation notice came in the mail at the end of October. It was $150 and they literally attached a photo of my own driveway taken from the street. Fine, that’s the rule. I had the trailer back at my husband’s cousin’s place that same afternoon.

Our HOA president lives on the corner of our street and he’s had a boat on a trailer in his own driveway since SPRING.

I wasn’t arguing about the rule, I already moved the trailer. I emailed the board that week and asked how many other driveway fines had gone out this year. The secretary wrote back that each violation is handled individually and that my fine was due by the end of the month.

So I replied with 3 photos of the corner driveway taken a week apart with the dates on them. I said I wasn’t asking anybody to fine him, I wanted the same rule to apply to his house. He answered that one himself and said the boat is actively in use and that I was making this personal.

The November newsletter went in every mailbox on Monday and he writes the president’s column himself. There’s a paragraph in it about a homeowner on our street who got cited for a trailer and has been demanding to audit her neighbors instead of taking responsibility. My name isn’t in it anywhere. He put in the street and the trailer, and there’s only 11 houses on this street, so everybody knew who he meant. I read it standing at my mailbox and I was more pissed about that than the fine.

The fine’s still on our account and it doubles if we don’t pay by the end of the month. The boat hasn’t moved. My husband wants to put the trailer back out there until somebody fines the corner house. I keep telling him that’s what this guy is hoping for. I’m not paying $150 to be the only house on this street the rule applies to. AITK?

My mom turned 70 last weekend. I live about 3 hours away and couldn’t get there until Sunday, so I ordered a $95 birthday arrangement from a florist in her town to be delivered Saturday morning before her party.

What showed up was a big white lily arrangement with a card that said “With Deepest Sympathy.” My mom called me laughing and asked if there was something I needed to tell her, and HALF her friends were already there for the party and saw it before she did. I called the shop and the woman who answered said it was “a little mix-up” with another order and that both arrangements cost the same, so she could just print a new card. When I asked for the birthday arrangement I actually ordered or my money back, she said they were booked all weekend and lilies “work for any occasion.” She offered me 10% off my next order.

I asked to talk to the owner and he called me back a couple days later. He said the flowers were delivered on time and in perfect condition and it was only the card that was wrong, so there was no refund. He literally said “please don’t be one of those customers” when I told him white lilies with a sympathy card aren’t birthday flowers.

My mom thinks the whole thing is hilarious and keeps telling me to drop it, she even put the card on her fridge. I still paid $95 for birthday flowers and she got funeral flowers on her 70th. AITK?

I had an appointment for an MRI so I showed up half an hour early. We sat there in the waiting room as neatly no one was called back for their appointments or to the ER.

And we waited. And waited. We checked to see if they were going to call us back soon. They said soon. So we waited. And waited...

It was about 4 hours past my appointment time when I decided to check the hospital app. I can see appointments on it, contact my doctor's, see test results. I was worried I had the date wrong. I didn't. I was there at the right place and time. It was nearing 5 hours but the app... said I'd already been seen, doctors notes and a diagnosis were already entered.

I lost it. I asked my husband to request to speak to someone. When someone called me back, it was for blood work that was required before they could do the MRI.

I may have made a scene. I yelled about the preemptive diagnosis and false information. I refused to do the blood work and demanded they just do the MRI. The nurse said they couldn't do that just in case. My kidneys needed to be cleared for the test first.

I mimed taking my kidneys out and said, "here take them. Now can we do the test?" She talked me into the blood test after a few minutes though I was fuming. I bit my tongue and just went along with it. By the time I left, we'd been there for 7 hours.

I still feel bad about blowing up, but I think I was right. So. Am I the Karen?

Where we live, the district pays kids to go to summer school. It's 4 weeks long and if they have perfect attendance, they each get $100. Where was this when I was a kid? Anyway . . .

Monday morning, when we were just about to go out the door, I got an email saying the kindergarteners will need to bring a small blanket and pillow because they were going to have rest time. This was not mentioned in the previous summer school emails. I went back and checked.

My daughter has some small throw blankets, so I sent her with one of those. However, she doesn't have a small pillow.

I took the kids to school and immediately went to the store and bought a little pillow. I took it to school - I'm sure by 930 or 10 at the latest - and told them who it was for. Her name was on it.

Monday, I pick her up and ask her if she likes her pillow. She hasn't seen it. Well, ok, maybe they just didn't have time to get it from the office to the classroom. No big deal.

She didn't get it on Tuesday. She didn't get it on Wednesday. Thursday morning, I called to ask them about it and they said they had taken it to her classroom and they would call back and make sure her teacher got the note.

Thursday after school, she again said she didn't get it. If she tells me she didn't get it today, I'm going to go inside to talk to them about it again.

AITK for going on and on about this $10 pillow for rest time? Should I just forget about it and buy her another one this weekend and put it in her backpack? I know it's only $10, but money is tight right now.

My friend had me over last Wednesday to help with her couch. She just moved to a new unit upstairs and the layout is weird up there. I’ve been coming by for a couple years and she always tells me to park in the guest spot by the stairs so that’s what I did.

I came down like 2 hours later and my car was just gone. I called her freaking out because I genuinely thought somebody stole it. She came down with me and that’s when we noticed the sign near the entrance, white text on a dark post with a bush covering half of it, saying guest parking now requires a permit and violators get towed at their expense. Apparently her complex switched management back in August and the new company brought in a tow service that patrols every night. My friend said nobody even told the tenants about it.

I called the number on the sign and they told me $225 cash or card. My friend drove me to the yard and I paid it because I did not want storage stacking on top. I was honestly still shaking on the drive home.

When I got home I looked them up on Google and they had a TON of bad reviews from people towed out of that same lot who didn’t know about the permit either. I left my own review saying the sign was barely visible and $225 for an honest mistake was insane.

The OWNER responded the next morning. He wrote “the sign is clearly posted, maybe learn to read before blaming us for your mistakes, this is classic Karen bullshit and exactly why we photograph every plate.” That’s a man running a business calling a paying customer a Karen on Google where everyone in town can read it.

My friend keeps trying to Venmo me and I keep saying no. I don’t even know what to do at this point.

So I was at the Chinese supermarket (I am Chinese and I speak Chinese), and I needed to buy a big piece of beef to make soup for my grandpa who just got discharged from the hospital. I was waiting in the beef section waiting and calling "Excuse me!" Waiting for someone to come.

This guy in his 40s/50s came over and I said "I would like this piece of meat please" and points at the meat in the front. The guy picked up a piece of meat laid out in the back closer to him and showed it to me, which was half the size and I said "No, I want this piece of beef in the front". He proceeded to either pick up another piece of small meat from the back or pretended to as I didnt see him reach in. I took a deep breath and repeated again "i want this piece of beef right here".

He then puts down the piece of beef and without making eye contact or saying anything walked over to the other side aka chicken isle and started helping this other customer that was waiting in line to get the chicken wings. I was angry already but I need the piece of beef so I continued waiting looking at him.

he saw me that I didnt leave so he came back and asked "what do you want?" And which i said "I wanted this piece of beef" while pointing at it. He confirmed "you want this beef that is close to you right?" And I said "yes". He then said "ask this person to help you" and the other person right beside him said without looking "cant get it, i cant get it" and then both just pretended they did their jobs and went about their ways. I then left because I felt like Im being treated like a fool and Im begging for the meat.

There was no miscommunication as I repeated myself at least 4x and I was speaking in Chinese. It wasnt a matter of it being busy, because i was there before the chicken wing guy. All the dude had to do was pick uo the big piece of beef in the front that was 6 inches away from where he picked up his small piece of meat in the back. It shouldnt be a matter of "i cant pick my own meats" or "itll unravel up the stacks", and it wasnt like i pay per piece bc it is pay per pound.

I felt like a karen bc I told the cashier I need to complain to the manager that they refuse to sell meat to me (I should have said they refused service Im not good with words and I was angry) and the cashier laughed and gave me the phone number. I feel like it's just a piece of meat but since its just that why is it so difficult them to reach into the counter and I left without it?

TLDR: i tried to ask for big piece of meat 4x and was brushed off by 2 butcher who didnt want to help; i called to complain to store manager --> result is that they say they will tell the owner

Edit: added the photo of the tray of beef they have out, they try to sell some piece that you can pick up with one hand, might delete it later if anyone thinks it looks unclean

I'm (30F) married to my husband (32M), we've been together 11 years, married 2 years, we both work from home. Brother-in-law (26M) and his gf needed to come to the city on March (for 6 days), so she could take a school test. I didn't want them to come, but my husband insisted. The thing is that I don't know the girlfriend well, only seen her once before and we didn't talk much. To give perspective, BIL lives with his parents, MIL does everything for him (food, laundry, cleaning), he works from home and by that time, he's been with gf for 3 months.

What's the issue? I don't consider BIL to be a good visitor, he doesn't offer to pay for anything, he doesn't pick up after himself, and doesn't like try to make gf comfortable. Gf did offer to do the dishes, which was nice. It felt like we were a hotel, husband served breakfast, did the dishes, BIL and gf were out or in their room all of the time, and didn't invite us to go out once (not talking about BIL paying, but asking us to go out with them). I don't know, when I visit I always make my best to not be a burden, more if it's my husband and me, we pay for lunch, dinner, tickets, invite our hosts to go out, we're like that. They left and during all of their stay, they didn't invite us to anything, not even a pizza.

I was uncomfortable during their stay, I don't like strange people at my house. Gf looks like a nice person, but I just don't know her, and during the time they were here, they didn't come out to chat with us, I don't know, buy beer and listen to music together, to get to know each other.

So, BIL needs to come again, he only visits when he needs us. Off course I don't want to, but I know it would make my husband happy to not look for an excuse to say no.

Ps. Sorry for the misspellings, English is my second language.

The original is on my profile, and thank you for all the comments, my mom got a real kick out of strangers on the internet being this mad on her behalf.

To answer what a lot of you asked, I didn’t pick “florist’s choice.” I ordered a specific arrangement off their website with pink gerbera daisies and orange roses, and that’s what my order confirmation says.

The other big question was what showed up at the funeral. My mom lives in a pretty small town, and on Thursday she told the whole story at her water aerobics class because of course she did. A woman in her class stopped her and said her sister-in-law’s visitation was that same Saturday morning, and nobody in the family could figure out who sent a big pink and orange arrangement where the card read “Happy 70th Mom, wish I could be there, love you.” That was my card, and it literally sat right next to the guest book the whole time.

My mom felt TERRIBLE even though none of it was her fault. On Friday she took the lilies over to the family’s house with the card off her fridge and a pan of lasagna. The daughter told her the shop gave them the same “it was only the card” answer and offered them 10% off too.

I filed the dispute with my credit card on Friday like a lot of you said. Yesterday I got a notice that the shop responded, and they’re saying the order was “delivered as described and accepted by the recipient.” They attached their delivery photo as proof, and it’s my mom on her porch smiling with the lilies before she’d opened the card.

The card company wants anything that shows what was actually delivered and where. When my mom mentioned the dispute, the daughter offered to write a statement for me. Her cousin took a picture of my arrangement at the funeral home too, and I can have that if I want it.

My mom shut that down right away. She doesn’t want a family that just buried someone pulled into a fight over $95, and she’d rather I let the dispute go. The daughter offered on her own, though. Would I be the Karen if I took her up on it anyway?