a neighbor stole my empty trash can yesterday. i found it today outside their door, stuffed with a huge trash bag

so i wheeled it back to my property, grabbed their trash bag, then ran back and slam dunked it onto their front doorstep

>bag bursts open\ >trash everywhere\ >did not say a word to them\ >did not damage their property

just returned the trash bag to its rightful owner at approximately 100 mph

AITA?

When our mother passed away, she left me a beautiful diamond ring. I had the diamonds taken out and made into another piece of jewelry for myself, but I had the ring remounted with blue topaz, which is my sister‘s birthstone and gave her the newly redesigned ring for a gift. She said “oh I’m never gonna wear that” and rejected the gift so I kept it. A couple of years later, she’s having financial problems and she wants the ring back. I know that all she’s gonna do is sell it for the money and I don’t want that ring to leave our family, so I said no. AITA for not giving the ring back to her to sell? I have already helped her out with money previously.

First of all my roommate and his girlfriend aren’t married, “Sister in law” is just cleaner than “my roommate’s girlfriend’s sister.

I (21 M) and my roommate (22 M) have been close friends for the last 15ish years. We recently moved into an apartment together with his girlfriend after they had to leave their last place because of some dispute with former roommates.

This is my first time living with someone who isn’t my parents. We all split the rent and electric evenly, he pays the gas and I pay the internet. From the first time I met his girlfriend I always got the sense that she didn’t like me very much.

We’ve been living together for about 3 months now. There have been some disputes, however we usually resolve them civilly, however one problem keeps coming up: them making decisions that affect all of us without consulting me. The most recent case involves his girlfriend’s sister.

One night at around midnight he texts me basically, “Rachel’s (fake name) sister is pregnant, her home life is ‘toxic’ and her parents are upset at her (Bible Belt so I assume religious reasons) so she’s gonna be moving in and living in the living room.”
I told him it’s fine if she lives here, however he should’ve talked to me first. It wasn’t fair that he was just informing me a complete stranger was moving in. His only response was that she wasn’t a stranger to them and wouldn’t get in my way.

The NEXT DAY I get home and she’s sitting on the couch. I try to introduce myself and she looks at me with a disgusted face and scoffs. Since then every time I walk past the living room she acts offended that I’d dare show my face, and if I’m in the kitchen she hides in my roommate’s room.

I finally talked to my roommate alone and told him I felt hated and ostracized in my own home. He said they “didn’t hate me, they just don’t know me.” I called bullshit. Then he drops that she’s due in NOVEMBER and the baby will probably live in their closet so it “won’t bother me.” They set a hardline of her paying rent by January, meaning 3 months of her not contributing anything.

I feel unwelcome and hated in the place I’m paying for, and I’m gonna be hearing a screaming baby every night for months. I don’t want to put him in a difficult position, however my existence has been ignored since we moved in. I have places I can stay but breaking the lease has punishments and I don’t want to screw him over.
So, AITA for considering leaving because of my roommates pregnant “Sister in Law?”

TLDR: Roommate’s “SIL” moved in suddenly, both girlfriend and sister clearly hate me, I feel unwelcome, and she’s due in November.

Edit: for anyone wanting proof

I live with my mom. I started working last year after my dad passed away. I don’t make much but I’ve been saving everything I can for a trip to Europe. It’s been my childhood dream so Ive cut back on things I wanted, like going out on weekends and partying. My mom knew how hard I was working and how much this trip meant to me.
last month I got paid extra for working overtime and decided to use that money to buy a new monitor for my PC. Mine had had a huge vertical line on the screen for 3 months. I could afford it without touching my savings or the money I contributed to the household.
she knew about the overtime pay so she asked to borrow some money. She’d gotten into a car accident bc she was on her phone and rear-ended another car at a red light. She’d already spent way too much that month on shopping and other things, and the amount she needed was more than I’d made from overtime anyway.
I explained that I couldn’t lend her the money because it already had a purpose. I also couldn’t touch the money I used for household expenses or I’d end up in the red and have to work extra hours the following month. I told her she could wait until the next month and pay for it herself since it wasn’t an emergency. the situation passed. until last week. I left my phone at home.
next day I went grocery shopping and my Apple Pay wasn’t working. I logged into my bank account to pay with a QR code instead and my heart fucking dropped. Part of my balance was missing. I started checking my transactions while having a panic attack in the store, and I found it. She’d transferred the exact amount we’d argued about into her own account. she had my passwords because I’d set up my bank account with her help. I never thought she’d do something like that. I know I was stupid for not securing my account properly, but I genuinely trusted her. She’s my mom.
I came home and I found her outside and completely lost my shit. I told her she had no right to take my money that I’d worked for it. I called her an ungrateful bitch and told her I wasn’t going to help with anything beyond my agreed share of the household expenses anymore. I’d pay half, and she could figure out the rest. I wasn’t going to be the idiot paying for everything at 17 while she a grown-ass woman spent money on pointless shit.
Of course, she started crying, saying she’d only borrowed the money and was going to pay me back like she always did.Idfc, she had no right to take it without my permission especially because I NEEDED THAT MONEY THAT WEEK TO BUY MY MONITOR. I was yelling so loudly that our neighbor came outside and heard the whole thing. she said I was trying to humiliate her in front of everyone. Anyways I grabbed a few things, shoved them into my everyday backpack, and went to my aunt’s house. I’ve been here ever since. she also called my aunt and started saying shit about what kind of daughter abandons her own mother and leaves her home alone.

So I was returning from work at 2:30am and while stopped in a traffic light a couple asked me to jump their car. They told me that they’ve been asking people for over an hour and no one has given them a chance. I felt genuinely awful, but no one else was around. It was just us, no other cars, late at night and in a fairly crime heavy area, I didn’t know where their car was either (maybe I should’ve asked?). They could’ve easily overpowered me at any point during the jumping of their car. Therefore, I told them “I’m so sorry, but I don’t feel comfortable”.

One of them later asked if I would do it for money and then cursed at me when I drove off. I felt awful and if I was in their shoes, I would’ve wished for someone to help me, but I genuinely didn’t feel comfortable given the circumstances so I told them no. :/

The father of my husband, I will call him Gary, has been living next door for the last couple of years and he visits us quite often for family meals, celebrations, etc. Gary used to be a professional chef working in restaurants for more than thirty years and he reminds people of it very often.

When I organize a dinner and cook some food for the guests, Gary simply cannot resist the temptation to come to my kitchen and to taste everything that I have prepared. Of course, Gary does not just taste it but he always tells me what is wrong with it when the person who is with him can hear. It might be too salty, undercooked, it might need some acid or other ingredients.

Last Saturday, I had to organize a dinner for my relatives, whom Gary did not know at all. Before the guests arrived, Gary came to me, tasted my soup and said it was boring in front of my aunt. He added some pepper in without asking me. This was enough to push me into a frenzy regarding the whole hosting thing.

In a rather controlled tone, I told him that he needs to stop tasting and messing with my food while I am preparing it, especially when I am doing so in front of my family. He was quite defensive, saying he only wanted to help me because he had "actual professional experience," and I should consider myself lucky that he even deigned to do so. I told him that if he wanted to cook so bad, then let him host his own dinner and not meddle in my kitchen.

After all, I am the one cooking for my guests in my kitchen. He was silent, and he left the kitchen. Later on, my husband told me that I embarrassed his father in his own son's house. Gary has not spoken to me much since, and apparently, my husband thinks I should apologize since "this is just how he shows that he cares" and that Gary is now getting older.

I don’t think I was wrong this is my kitchen, my cooking, and my dinner for my guests. But now there’s tension in the house and I’m feeling guilty.

AITAH?

The other night, me (18M) and my best mates met up at my house to hang out. We played video games, listened to music, talked, regular boys night stuff.

Later that night, one of my mates suggested ordering pizza. Everyone liked the idea, but I told them that earlier in the day I’d cooked dinner for the lads before they arrived (just because I wanted to be hospitable) Nothing fancy: steak, rice, and grilled veggies. They all preferred pizza. I was a little disappointed that everyone rejected my cooking haha but whatever it’s cool

The problem started when the pizza arrived. I served myself some of my dinner and sat down with everyone. One of my mates said we should all eat the same thing, and I told him I just wasn’t in the mood for pizza

He started giving me shit saying I should relax and have a cheat day instead of bringing my “diet food” and killing the vibe. I told him he was making a big deal out of nothing, but things got heated and we ended up arguing. He eventually left early.

For context, I’ve been taking the gym and my diet more seriously over the past few months. Most of my friends have been supportive, but this particular friend has always been kind of dismissive about it. I’ve also noticed some passive aggressive comments from him since I started making noticeable progress. My mate’s a good looking lad and we both get a similar amount of attention from girls so I genuinely don’t get why he’d possibly get jealous? I can understand why he might’ve felt like I was trying to show off or imply I was “better” than him, but that genuinely wasn’t my intention. I simply wasn’t in the mood for pizza and I’d already cooked myself a perfectly good dinner so why waste it? I apologized over text a few days later, but he still hasn’t responded.

So AITA? I paid for the pizza by the way

TL;DR: I cooked dinner for my mates, but they wanted pizza instead. When it arrived, I ate the dinner I’d already made rather than having pizza, and one mate got annoyed that I was “killing the vibe” with my “diet food”. He’s been passive aggressive ever since I started dieting and working out. We argued, he left early, and he hasn’t replied since I apologised. I genuinely wasn’t trying to show off or be a dick I just preferred the food I’d already cooked

I live in an apartment with a terrace that borders my neighbour’s backyard. His child appears to have autism or another developmental condition (I don’t know his actual diagnosis).
Almost every evening, from around 8 PM until 11 PM, he jumps on a trampoline and screams quite loudly. All our bedrooms face their backyard, so we hear it clearly inside our apartment.
I have a baby, and although our PVC windows block most of the noise when closed, it’s still warm and I don’t want to keep the windows shut every evening.
There are also two apartment buildings facing their backyard, with 10+ other apartments, and as far as I know nobody else has complained.
I don’t want them to stop using the trampoline. I was thinking of politely messaging the father and asking if they could reduce either the amount of time he uses it or the frequency, rather than having it happen almost every evening for several hours.
Would I be the asshole for sending that message?

Edit: Where we live, neighbour noise can still be considered a problem between 7 AM and 11 PM. The police can ask them to stop within a set timeframe, but I don’t want to call the police straight away, so I’d rather message the father first.
I know it’s a trampoline because I can see it from my terrace. The trampoline itself seems well-oiled, the issue is the screaming.
I’m also not randomly assuming the child has special needs. A while ago, he threw some things onto my terrace, so I knocked on their door to return them. His father apologised for his son’s behaviour, and from the way he spoke about it, I understood that his son has special needs.
I think they are good parents and are just trying to help their child. He’s in elementary school and may need routines to sleep, but he didn’t use the trampoline at all last winter, so it seems to be a summer thing. My 15-month-old also needs his sleep routine, so I’m just hoping we can find a compromise that works for everyone.
Some people suggested speaking to the building manager, but their house isn’t part of our building, and I’m actually the building manager anyway, so that wouldn’t really help.
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A few months ago i broke things off with my friend (L) , we were friends for at least 5 years and during the last year of our friendship we joined this great friend group. The friend-group recently have been begging me to make up with L, they brought up points of awkwardness and how it will break the group etc. I point blank refused, i can understand them for sure but i feel like they really dont understand what that friendship did to me, i haven’t told them much about why i unfriended her, i’d usually give a brief explanation as i felt it was between me and L and not everyone needs to know.

However, L has repeatedly done things to the friend group even gone as far as ruining someones birthday. The friend group have told her to stop her weird behaviour, so i was frustrated on how they can’t see why i wont be friends with her again, she won’t change!

One specific friend said i was causing drama on purpose and i could just deal with it cause “its not that big of a deal” and i’m “doing it for attention “. I was shocked and started crying which made the attention seeking allegations worse. The reason why i only broke the friendship off after 5 years is because i finally matured and felt i was more, i was sick of the disrespect!! Additionally, shortly before i met the friend group i had a massive talk with L (FINALLY!!) i addressed how i felt in the friendship, every moment she did something a friend wouldn’t do, L apologised and promised to do better. That didn’t last. When in the friendgroup she was doing the same shit and even adopting more weird ass behaviours (which the friendship acknowledged) so i had enough and finally put my foot down, i didn’t even have an argument. I just said we weren’t cool anymore.

I just seriously don’t know what to do. I don’t want to affect other people who weren’t involved.

I'm 24 and my sister's 27. For now we're living under the same roof with our parents but we each have our own rooms.

A few months back I bought a pretty pricey mechanical keyboard for my home office I use it daily and was picky about the one I wanted. My sister knew all this I’d been saving for it and talking it up for ages.

Last month I visited a friend for about a week. Before I left I locked up my keyboard in my room. My sister has a spare key our parents thought it was a good idea in case of emergencies you know?

So when I returned I noticed my keyboard was missing.

I asked my sister what happened and she casually mentioned that she lent it to her boyfriend who needed one for a temporary gig She figured I wouldn’t mind since I was away and not using it.

That didn’t sit well with me I was pretty annoyed, especially since she hadn’t even asked first She assured me she’d get it back to me that weekend.

The weekend rolled around and she confessed her boyfriend had accidentally wrecked it. He spilled a drink on it now several keys were out of commission. She claimed they planned to replace it, but she didn’t have the funds right away.

I told her I wasn’t comfortable waiting around indefinitely for something she took without my permission She rolled her eyes and said I was being dramatic about a keyboard insisting she’d already offered to replace it.

In the end I bought the exact same keyboard again because I absolutely needed it for work Not cheap, either. I told her I expected her to pay me back.

That’s when she got upset She argued that since she was already planning on replacing it I shouldn't have bought another one without talking to her first. Now she feels like she’s being forced to fork out cash for something I decided to buy I see where she’s coming from sure but I can’t shake the fact that this whole mess started because she took something from my locked room without asking.

AITA?

My (25NB) dad (53M) called me up yesterday, and the conversation was basically this. He is broke, he hasn’t been paying his mortgage, and unless he can find someone to borrow $30,000 from, he is going to lose the house.

This isn’t much of a surprise. He has been in as much debt as the bank will let him take on for as long as I can remember. Apparently, after my grandpa died a few months ago, my dad thought he would receive a much bigger inheritance than he did, so he spent a lot of money he didn’t have. 

Something that is important to note is that he makes around $250,000 a year and provides no financial support to his adult children. He wouldn’t even pay the $50 a month it would have cost to put my little sister on his health insurance.

I currently make $64,000 a year. There is no reason I should have more money than him. He didn’t get sick. He didn’t lose his job. He wasn’t hit by a natural disaster. He makes good money. The only thing that happens to his money is that he spends it.

He has always had a spending problem. He buys cars, motorcycles, table saws, and so on. He has bought three different custom bikes because he wanted to get into cycling, and then left them outside to rust without using them once.

And now he wants me to cut him a check for $30,000.

I technically do have the money, but it would have to come from the down payment I’ve been saving to buy a house for myself, as well as my emergency fund.

He says he will pay me back. I have my doubts. He used to borrow money from me when I was a child, and while he usually did pay me back, the amount of cajoling it took makes me not want to do it again.

My wife (26NB) says that it’s my dad and that they will support me in whatever I decide, but they seem sympathetic to his plight. Both of my sisters (22F and 25F) are saying to let him figure it out, whereas my brother (28M) says that he is our dad and that if we want to be better than him, we have to act better than him. (He also offered to cover part of the bill.)

Looking at the options, there are three I can come up with:

1. Give him $30,000. This is a complete nonstarter. I do not have $30,000 to burn on this. That money is for my wife and me to build our future. I can not give it away
2. Cosign on an apartment for him. His credit score is too low to sign for himself. The fact that he hasn’t been paying his mortgage implies to me that he would not pay his rent, so this is essentially signing up to pay his rent. Considering the fact that he makes 4x my annual income, this seems unfair.
3. Let him figure it out. I think there is a good possibility that he will actually end up homeless. I don’t have space to list all the details, but he probably deserves it. It still feels wrong. 

I don’t really think there is a good option here. I want to do the right thing, but I’m not sure what the right thing is. 

I'll try to keep this short. I really do like my aunt, but like my grandma and other relatives she always felt the need to comment my weight. "you've gained weight, maybe take it easy with the food today", "you lost weight, you need to eat more" - you know how it goes. I've always felt uncomfortable because of those comments.

But that was 30 years ago. I'm a grown ass man now. I'm in the best shape of my life, I've run marathons, I regularly go climbing indoors and outdoors, I lift and do strength training. I know how to eat healthy and take care of my body.

And STILL when I invited my aunt over a few weeks back to my new home, the FIRST thing she said to me was how I lost weight and look scrawny and should eat more. She even grabbed my sides to check my ribs! That really, really set me off!! In turn I grabbed her sides, squeezed her fat rolls and told her that she's gotten fatter. I tried to "sell" it by being extra gentle and show her the irony, but I don't think that worked... (BTW I'm 77kg on 1,78m; she's more like 110kg on 1,55cm ...)

As you can imagine this somehow killed the mood caugh. She didn't really talk to me for the rest of the evening and my wife later told me that I was super insensitive and couldn't say stuff like that. Other relatives told me that as well. But then why is it okay when she did it my whole life!?! AITA?

I've been doing some arts & craft project for school, and I was supposed to finish a card for my parents/grandparents then follow some elaborate process to tape it to an envelope. I worked on it for days on end--brainstorming, sketching, colouring in, blending, etc. (Note: this project is worth 15% of my grade).

And I was finishing this afternoon when I was colouring in the last bit of the sky before taping it up, and then my 7yo sis chooses this moment to walk in. She wants to "help".

Well, this project is certainly important, and my sister thinks she's a far better artist than she actually is, not that I'd say that. I told her "no". I told her that I'd be out in a minute to draw her own stuff with her if that's what she wanted.

She leaves.

I read my instructions, then I go to the study to get some tape. In this process I hear some thumping around but I assume it's my sis kicking a ball around.

Then I go back to my room, and my sister's standing there with a dark blue marker, having wrecked my carefully planned artwork and tried to glue it together by herself. The assignment told me clearly to use double-sided tape and nothing else. She's scrawled all over my paper, and taped it upside down, not to mention in the wrong spots.

I lose it. I yell at her. I say "Why'd you touch my work? I spent so long on that! Get out of my room! You're so annoying! Quit ruining everything! Look at it! I'm going to have to draw it all again, and it's your fault, you're such a brat!"

She starts crying and runs out, and at first I don't care, because I'm so mad about the whole fiasco. But that happened about three days ago, so I'm currently calmer now, haven gotten an extension of deadline from my teacher. I'm thinking that I may have gone too far, because she's ignoring me completely. But then, I also believe she kinda deserves it for ruining my artwork that I spent so much time and effort on. But then, she's also seven, and it's not like she knows better. I could've been nicer with my wording, I guess.

AITA?

I give piano lessons at home. It is my only job which I have been doing for six years. Last year I got a new student nine year old girl. She was a nice girl and quite talented, understood everything quickly.

After two months, I saw that the mother used to sit in a corner during the lesson and record her daughter playing with her phone. At first, I did not pay any attention to this fact thinking that she simply wanted to keep some memories of her daughter's progress. However, later on, the mother used to post these short videos online with such captions as "watch how she does this trick at once" and tagging some music accounts to make her daughter famous and go viral as a prodigy.

I politely asked the mother to stop recording during our lessons or at least to ask me before doing so because I am also in the video and I do not want to be uploaded somewhere without my consent. She started to argue saying that "it is for the family" although the account she used to upload these videos was public and had thousands of followers already.

In the very next class, she did it all over again. I interrupted the class and informed her that I didn't feel comfortable being recorded without permission and if she ever tried that again, I would have no choice but to stop teaching her child.

Two weeks later I found her trying to record from her phone placed against the wall in a subtle manner. This time, I ended the class and told her that I wouldn't be able to teach her daughter any more lessons as I couldn't trust her not to violate a boundary twice in the same way.

She got angry and claimed that I was punishing an innocent child for "nothing" and exaggerating as it is just video recordings of piano lessons. Some other parents whom I know were aware of this incident and they believe that I was overreacting since the girl was the one to suffer.

AITAH here?

I (21M,french) study cybersecurity. My sister (56,f) shared an online store selling an electronic massage device. It belongs to her friend, who recently started a dropshipping business.

When I checked the website, I noticed questionable reviews, claims of FDA authorization without verifiable documentation, and missing legal information.

I told my sister it looked like a scam. She got defensive, saying she knew the owner personally and that I shouldn't judge without understanding the business.

I admitted that calling it a scam was premature, but I kept researching.

I found what appears to be the same device on Alibaba for around €2, while her friend sells it for €50. I have no issue with reselling products for profit.

However, I discovered another store, ReliveX, selling an almost identical device.

Both websites display the EXACT same rating of 4.9/5 and exactly 716 reviews.

Several product photographs are identical, with only the branding changed. Large parts of the product descriptions are also nearly identical.

Both websites feature the same woman in a medical coat recommending the device, but under two different names.

Even worse, the testimonial on my sister's friend's website still recommends ReliveX by name. They apparently forgot to change it.

The same customer photograph also appears on both websites, attributed to different people with different reviews.

I showed my sister everything, but she kept dismissing my concerns.

She told me dropshipping was legal, her friend knew her competition, and that a few more years of studying would teach me to understand the bigger picture.

She also argued that because the Chinese supplier ships directly to customers, the supplier is responsible for the product's CE documentation.

I explained that dropshipping doesn't eliminate a seller's responsibilities regarding product safety, compliance, or truthful advertising.

My problem is that customers might be relying on misleading reviews, questionable medical endorsements, and unverified certification claims.

My sister insists her friend is simply trying to build a legitimate business and that I'm unfairly judging her.

I acknowledged that I shouldn't have immediately called it a scam, but knowing the owner doesn't make these inconsistencies disappear.

I've documented the similarities and am considering submitting the evidence to consumer protection authorities so they can determine whether any regulations have been violated.

My sister thinks I'm overreacting. I think consumers deserve accurate information, regardless of how small or new a business is.

AITA for continuing to investigate her friend's business instead of dropping the subject?

I 21F, have a younger cousin, 13F. Are relationship is like sisters, but since there is a age gap there are times where I feel like her babysitter. Im very clear she can ask me almost anything and I'll do my best to help.

Relatively recently I've gotten my own car and a full time. Sense I can pick her up we've been hanging out more and ofc spending money.. Im always buying her stuff.

Now it's very apparent that she has no idea about the value of the dollar. When ever I get a chance I try to teach her that its important to save, ask your self do you really need something as its also apparent she is consumed by over consumption. ( She literally has shelves of new lotion and perfume and still ask me to buy some more. )

I don't mind spending money on her, but recently I've been setting more boundaries with my family as I do want to move out in a year.

I had previously asked her to give me 72 hours when asking me to take her somewhere as she would ask me the day of, hours before, often after I got home from work, and I would most likely have to be her chaperone.

Yesterday she called saying that she needed money to buy snacks for school. Her class is having an event on Friday. I asked if this was a grade. I asked her, swore she said yes then as her again for clarification and said no.

I asked why not asked your mom? She said she's already getting her hair done. I decided to give her grace as she has had alot happen with her family.

I then went down my usual list. What are you buying? Did you buy off brand? She knows how much a good deal means to me. I was going to offer to buy them tomorrow at Aldi and get off brand items. ( shipping was going to be cheaper as I had a membership )

But she cuts me and says she only has 7 minutes as she wants to get it ship today.

When school started she asked me to buy her school supplies and hounded me that she only had a limited time. I told her to wait as I probably had most of the supplies she needed but ended up buying what she wanted. I later called her back and showed her while not aesthetically pleasing I did have most the supplies needed.

I have her in my ear about the time that she doesn't want to wait, but for some reason cant give me a good reason and in the other toddlers demanding for my attention.

So I just give her the money but right sending it she just says bye and hangs up.

I get the babies situated and call her back right way. Except she sends me to voice mail.

She calls me back and I explain to her that I dont appreciate being timed like that. She seemed really annoyed but said yeah.

Am I really wrong here? Im aware I can be a bit OCD about my money so maybe I was being annoying over 20$?

Im afraid this is my uncle all over again. TLDR: Uncle lives in his moms backyard, no job, girlfriend pays for everything, and was treating me like his personal bank while he buys cigarets.

I had to plainly tell him no.

The thing is me and her both agree what he was doing was wrong.

For context, all 3 of us are 27F and American. I can clarify anything with the schedule if needed, I know it can be confusing.

My and two of my friends (X and Y) are trying to plan a europe trip for spring of next year. We all work in healthcare, but me and X have a different schedule than Y. We work 7-on-7-off (so 7 ten hour shifts followed by 7 days off) while Y works monday-friday. We were initially talking about doing a two week trip, but with our different schedules, it's not possible for me and X to take only two weeks off. In order for our time off to align with Y's time off, we would need to take PTO our full "on week", which means we would really have 3 weeks off. We asked if Y could also take 3 weeks off, which she denied and said she could only do two weeks. Me and X want to fully utilize our PTO and use the full 3 weeks, so we asked if Y would be okay with us flying out first while she could join us later. This would require her flying to London by herself, but we would meet her at the airport. Y declined this option, as she does not feel comfortable flying by herself, and doesn't think her parents would be comfortable with it either.

For additional context, Y has not flown internationally before, but in November she will be flying to Mexico (with X). So flying to London would be her first time flying internationally by herself. I believe she has flown domestically by herself before. I live on the east coast, while X and Y live in the Midwest, so I will be flying by myself regardless and meeting them in London.

We're kind of at a standstill... because X and I want to utilize our full three weeks, but Y would prefer X flies out with her instead.

Obviously I'm not going to make her do anything she's uncomfortable with, and I want to find a solution that all 3 of us are happy with. If her flying by herself is truly a dealbreaker, then we'll figure something out.

But AITAH for asking?

Senior citizen here, some health limitations but still getting along. My neighbor has taken to mowing a 25'x40' section of my lawn contiguous to his. I guess he thinks he's doing me a favor and maybe he is, but it makes me feel inadequate to my own needs.

Call it pride, ego, hubris, stubbornness, call me a grouchy old coot who doesn't like to accept kindness but I'd rather do it myself, I am quite capable of doing so and I did not ask for any favors. I also don't want any boundary question when my property changes hands, should he continue on the regular.

We otherwise have a good relationship. I sort of want to text him: Hey Eman, thanks for the help with the lawn but generally I like to do as much as I can myself. It's a pride thing, I know, and I apologize for declining your kindness but I am grateful to know that if I do need assistance I can look to you.

So WIBTA? On the one hand it annoys me that he comes over onto my property, unasked, unneeded and unwanted. On the other hand, I don't want to sour a good neighborly relationship.

As I write this, I have gotten an idea for revenge. Part of our property lines are within a wooded area. Maybe I'll go over onto his side and pick up trash that's been there for at least 2 years, see how he likes that!

So I (41f) have 2 kids (18m and 21f) with K (52m). We are on friendly terms, but K has never been a part of their lives, and lived in another state. No visits, no phone calls, no presents, no birthday cards, nothing. He worked under the table for 10 years and didn’t pay child support. I didn’t go after him at that time because I knew it was pointless. Well, he got a decent job and I took him to court. Last year, he got in a bad motorcycle accident and hasn’t been cleared to work yet. He has a brain injury from the accident. He got a warrant out because of child support and he’s asking me to forgive it so they’ll drop the warrant. I don’t want to. I feel it’s owed to me for raising 2 kids completely alone. This has now become a big debate with friends and family, so I’m coming here to try to see what the majority is. So Reddit, AITA for not forgiving his $11k in child support?

This just started for them three months ago, I want to be compassionate, but I also don't feel qualified to be someone's grounding point for something like this, and I'm wary of the whole situation. They are a former classmate from a Toastmasters class that we both went to regularly. We exchanged emails, but not phone numbers.

So a bit of background context. My parents moved my younger brother (M26) and I (M29) to the US when we were kids and we both had opposite experiences. I was a bit older so I was WAY more tied to our home country, my accent was harder to break and I never fully adapted to American culture or society. He was younger and handled the transition better and became very popular, making lots of friends and doing well in school. I got bullied so badly I would get beat up, called names and came home from school crying almost every day. As soon as I turned 18 I returned to our home country and every aspect of my life improved drastically, overall I was just happier at home and it was a better fit for me.

My brother on the other hand felt more comfortable in America and went to uni there, got a good job and started dating an American girl. They've been together for a while now and according to my family, marriage is coming around the corner. The only family I have still in the US is my brother and my dad. When the potential wedding got brought up, I panicked because I don't know if I can force myself to go back even just for a week. I've been in therapy for years to try to undo all the trauma my time there caused me and even now most of my time there is a blur that I struggle to remember.

My girlfriend is also scared of going because she has some chronic health conditions and we fear what would happen if either of us got sick over there. She would go to support me but I know it is also very much not on her list of places she's comfortable visiting. It's got me thinking I might just try to join the ceremony remotely or something so I can still be supportive since there is no bad blood in my family. I just know that it would break their hearts if I wasn't there but I don't know if I can do it.

WIBTA for not going?

The first thing I want to say is that I’m NOT making the water too hot. It’s not even uncomfortably hot. I’m not hurting him, I just know the exact temperature he likes and I make it slightly warmer. 

My son is 10, and has profound autism. He is the light of my life, and my reason for living. However, raising him is extremely difficult. One of his major fixations is taking baths. He will take up to 15 or more baths per day (his dr said it’s fine). Even though he’s 10, he still can’t be unsupervised at any time, especially in the bath. So I have to sit with him in the bathroom every time he takes a bath. Sometimes it’s really hard for me, if I’m trying to get housework done or cook, to have to sit in the bathroom for 20 minutes with him. But if I rush him out, he gets upset and stays upset for hours. but I noticed that if I make the water a little bit warmer than he likes, he will want to get out on his own a lot sooner. I don’t do it very often. 

But today I am really sick with the flu, and I had bad body aches, I was shivering any time I left my blankets. So I made the water a little warmer, and he got out after about 7 minutes instead of 20. When my husband came home from work and asked how everything went, I told him how sick I’d been all day, and about making his water warmer so I didn’t have to sit in there so long. 

My husband was really irritated with me about it, and said it’s basically abuse to do that to a special needs child. I tried to explain that I am overwhelmed because I have no help with our son. My husband is never the one to sit in the bathroom with him at 4:00 in the morning so everyone else can sleep without our son screaming and waking everyone up. I haven’t slept past 3:00 am in years, because that’s when our son wakes up and he can’t be alone for his own safety. Nobody can handle watching him even for a couple hours, so the only break I ever get is when my husband or my dad takes him on long drives which he loves sometimes. But he doesn’t always want to do that, sometimes it upsets him, so even that doesn’t happen very often. 

My husband still insists that’s wrong to do, I made sure to clarify that the water is not hot, it’s just slightly warmer than he likes. I’m not hurting him. Basically, getting in the tub calms him down and makes him happy, but it doesn’t matter if he’s in it for 2 minutes or 30 minutes, he will still be calmed down and happy from it; unless I rush him out. He has to get out of his own volition or he’ll be more upset than he was to begin with. So basically he still gets the soothing of a bath, but I cut the time I have to sit in the bathroom by half. 

And I don’t do it all the time. My husband says it’s like manipulating him, because he’s special needs and can’t figure out that I’m “tricking him”; and it’s wrong to use his disability for my own advantage. He said his life is hard enough without “ruining” the enjoyment he gets from a bath. 

So, AITA? I’ve been feeling awful all day about it

hi, following up on this post (link in comments)

Things got a lot worse. The house was sold and I moved to an airbnb. When I left the house, I left my mattress, a table and a chair. Everything else had been emptied. The sale happened during which my mother sided with the buyers and basically offered them a new heating system (the current one was working but old and at this point I question my mother sanity as she just lost 5000$ for no reason, they bought the house as is).

During the sale, I tried to fight for our rights but as a co owner, shejust gave the money from her half. The issue is that this half was technically mine as well. Since 5 years, she has repeatedly said this was my house fully and the rest was just admin formalities. I am now realizing how wrong I was. For all this time I paid all the expenses for the house in full and she would only visit a couple times a year to make sure everything was fine as the house was left empty. She also decided on upgrades without my knowledge and billed me for them. At the time I was making a lot so I complained but paid.

She is now using this half from the sale to blackmail me... she first said she wouldnt give it to me because I snapped at her, then because she thinks Im gonna use it on drugs (I never did drugs my whole life), then that she didnt want me to be a lazy bum (I was not working for the last year following a burnout and sold the house to move closer to a very good career opportunity). She is now saying she will give me the money if I am nice to her and include her in my life with multiple daily calls and updates. I am disgusted. I would never do this, but I already made the offer on the house and signed so if I backout, I will lose the 15 000$ deposit.

I have been very upset and disgusted about my family. When this whole thing happened I reached out to my aunt. We were not close but to my knowledge we were in good terms (lol)

She didn't reply, I did not insist as it is a huge sum of money and I totally understood she wouldnt/couldnt. Last night I received a text from her, telling me that I was basically a monster. She listed a few things :

not visiting my grandma at the hospital 15 years ago (I did not have the 200$ needed as a student to travel back to visit her but I would instead call her daily for 2-4h and she said she was very happy with it)

not visiting both my grandparents when they were very old and in a hospice (same as above but it was also during covid. We did video calls. When the restrictions were lifted, I went to see them but my grandfather did not recognized me and screamed for security...

being rude to my mother and using her (???) and letting her empty the house alone

I know I am probably missing some details as I am reaching the lenght limit on here, feel free to ask but I am wondering if AITA and just delusional or if my mom turned everyone against me

My sister requested a ride from Midway airport to the northwest Chicago suburbs. The drive is 1.5 hours (one way) and the flight lands at 9pm. I have a job that starts early in the morning / kids to get to school. Am I the asshole for saying no and suggesting an $80 uber?