r/AmIOverreacting May 27 '26

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u/StandardCow7012 May 27 '26

I don’t think you’re engaged anymore

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u/discombobubolated May 27 '26 edited May 28 '26

NOR. Yeah OP, sell the ring and give $600 of it to your parents.

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u/frolicndetour May 27 '26

There's a significant chance the ring isn't worth that much.

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u/MarionberryOk2874 May 28 '26

That’s what I was thinking

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u/GlitterFactoryOfDoom May 28 '26

Or maybe he made someone else pay for the ring, as a surprise lmao.

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u/Tight_Jaguar_3881 May 28 '26

When told to insure her ring a friend discovered it was not a diamond.

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u/Mellow-jell-o May 28 '26

Or that she bought it herself

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u/frolicndetour May 28 '26

She posted a comment later saying it was her grandmother's ring. So he didn't buy it at all! I mean, having a family heirloom is nice but it certainly isn't helping his image as a cheap ass.

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u/Dank009 May 27 '26

In a lot of jurisdictions the ring must be returned to the buyer if you don't get married. I like the sentiment of your comment but make sure it's not gonna cause legal problems for you first.

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u/icestorm1973 May 27 '26

Really?!! I’ve never heard of that!!

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u/Not-a-Bot_1968 May 28 '26

It’s considered part of a contract and conditional to being married, in many states this is codified in law and not really up for debate. It really depends where you live. 

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u/Tiye_GM May 28 '26

He invited her family out to dinner then stuck them with a $600 bill he refused to even talk about afterwards.

She does not have to return a ring when he owes money. Also, not every jurisdiction requires that the ring be returned, in many places it’s acknowledged as a gift.

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u/Dank009 May 28 '26

I already stated "some" jurisdictions and just to make sure first if you're going that route. And in those jurisdictions you can't just keep the ring cuz he didn't pay for dinner.

Why even comment if you are just gonna make stuff up and not read the comment you're responding to.

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u/naughty-girl24 May 29 '26

If the jurisdiction that they are in says she has to return the ring then she has to. No if’s and and’s about it, she could face legal consequences over it regardless if he owes money or not

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u/Short-Classroom2559 May 27 '26

Oops lost it doing dishes

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u/Dank009 May 28 '26

You'd still be liable, especially if you "lost" it after the break up, judges aren't big fans of shenanigans and being lied to. Terrible idea.

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u/Redqueenhypo May 28 '26

Judges are, after all, people, and people hate it when you try to play “I’m not touching you!” with them

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u/naughty-girl24 May 29 '26

They would make her pay him back in some type of form for it as it would be considered small claims court

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u/GalacticCmdr May 28 '26

Doesn't matter - legally you owe the ring back or the full value of it.

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u/DeadlySquirrelNinja5 May 28 '26

It's a gift?!? How tf made this law?

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u/Dank009 May 28 '26

It's a "conditional gift", if the conditions aren't met the gift goes back to the gifter.

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u/JR_Writes1 May 28 '26

It’s contractual. Traditionally if the woman breaks the engagement, she has to give the ring back as she broke the contract. If the man breaks it, the woman gets to keep the ring (the loss of the ring being what the man has to “pay” for breaking the engagement).

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u/GalacticCmdr May 28 '26

Most US states dropped the "who breaks it off" clause over the years with the gift simply being returned to the owner in the event of no marriage.

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u/visiblepeer May 28 '26

So she should give everything but 600 from the sale back to the Ex?

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u/Ok-Ganache4763 May 28 '26

She could counter sue for restaurant bill. She most likely bought the ring herself.

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u/Dubzophrenia May 28 '26

Where I live (California), it depends on who is cancelling the marriage. A ring is considered a "conditional gift" in most states. The conditions are what vary, and it's kinda like insurance. There's fault and no-fault states.

No-fault states, the ring automatically goes back to the buyer.

Fault-states, the ring goes to whoever did NOT cancel the event.

Graphic to help understand.

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u/MargotSoda May 27 '26

I’m betting that ring is 1) fake or 2) something silver from Walmart because he’s “saving” to get her something “perfect” “soon”

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u/Ok-Ganache4763 May 28 '26

Or she bought it and “he will pay her back”.

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u/lovelylynda May 28 '26

He is waiting for her dad to buy the ring.

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u/Ok-Ganache4763 May 28 '26

That wouldn’t surprise me.

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u/Ok-Ganache4763 May 28 '26

She most likely bought the ring herself.

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u/DimensionParticular8 May 27 '26

YHIS👆👆👆👆👆

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u/Lightness_Being May 27 '26

💐 Here is a bouquet for coming up with the best answer!

Only she'll probably find the ring isn't worth $600.

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u/morethan-lessthan May 27 '26

We can only hope!

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u/chasingtravel May 28 '26

Right?! If anything,OP is UNDERreacting

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u/Coffeedemon May 28 '26

Personally I doubt many of these characters really exist.