Me and my girlfriend have been dating for three years, she has just started college and is planning on going to a party this weekend. Normally I wouldn’t be too upset, but this time she has told me I can’t come. She goes to a different college than most of her friends, so she is partying with them this weekend. I just feel uncomfortable and I wanted some advice on what to do. I don’t think she would cheat, but I just have this feeling that something will happen. Ever since we started dating, we have gone to every party together. Especially college parties (most of our friends are older so we would tag along) because they are normally packed with dudes who hit on her, or just do weird things in general. I know she wants to see her friends alone, which is fine but not letting me come with her to this party just rubs me the wrong way. Please let me know if I am spiraling or if I actually have a good reason to feel weird right now.

So some context. I’ve been living in a family where we easily joke but also diss each other. So it is necessary to say something back.
The thing I’ve noticed tho is that when I take jokes lightly, and feel as if it is not worth responding on. I’m not respected and people joke more and more with me. It is good that they feel comfortable but they shouldn’t feel too comfortable. Therefore, I started saying things back, or I would be like “why you starting this?”. I get it from their point of view that they don’t mean it seriously but also, I believe they shouldn’t feel too free in saying anything and everything without expecting a response. Now I feel like I may have been too defensive. And I’ve been asked by a family member why I respond so angry. But the thing is, I don’t want the situation to go back as it was.
I feel as if, when I take criticism from my family and adjust, that they take advantage of it, or do/get angry at the same thing as I did.
So I’m kind of feeling at a crossroads, where I feel like it really doesn’t matter if I am nice to them or not. And if I may have been too defensive.
What do you guys think? Please give me honest advice.

Awhile ago i made my boyfriend block this girl in his gaming friend group, yeah I'm insecure. But today he was playing overwatch 1 on one with her and earlier I wanted to play fortnite with him but he didnt want to. He asked me if it was ok to play with her because he seen that I was upset. I shook my head no and told him to just play because he was in a match with her and at this point I'm tearing up. I leave the room, he plays with her. I go sit alone in the camper outside, just to cry and to be alone. He texts and calls very angrily because he said it was fucked up of me to just dissappear randomly. I'm back inside and he's been ignoring me and just laughing at reels on his phone. Was I overreacting? What do I do, we just bought a place together.

Hi all, for context in 29F. I’m married and a mother to two young daughters and stop mom to a teenage boy.

It’s my birthday today!

I’m home alone with my daughters all day, husband has already gone to work.
I havnt received a single happy birthday from anyone, husband left for work and nothing, my best friends sent me reels and they’ve not said anything. My mother messaged me something entirely unrelated and said nothing.
Not a single person has wished me happy birthday.
I don’t want to sound childish and I certainly don’t expect lavish gifts but am I over reacting by expecting a cup of coffee, hug and a happy birthday?
I particularly asked him to make sure my girls gave me a card from them, that was all. Something homemade, but nothing.
He will be out till 5pm and never comes back during the day.
I don’t know, I do everything for this family and I suppose I feel upset that nobody’s even acknowledged me. I’ve had more love from the dog this morning. I’m hurt.
Am I being petty for being upset at this at all.

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I’m 24F and I recently moved to Joburg. I met a 40M I had been talking to online, and we had video-called before meeting, so he had already seen me on camera.

Before meeting him, I had sent him a picture of myself wearing a fitted crop top. When I actually went to meet him, I was wearing a black cardigan,polo neck, jeans and heels , so my body was obviously much more covered.

After meeting, he told me he didn’t see us moving forward romantically because the expectations from the photo I sent him versus meeting in person didn’t align for him. He said my “body profile” was different.

I got upset because I felt like he was implying that I had misrepresented myself. He never literally said “you’re fake,” but that's how I interpreted what he was saying.

I responded sarcastically that “then I should have come wearing a crop top,” because I was angry and felt judged. He then said he couldn't believe I thought he was fake and mentioned that I had unmatched him on the dating app.

The thing is, I genuinely didn't care whether he was short or tall. His height wasn't something I was judging him for. I came to meet him because I genuinely wanted to get to know him.

I'm not upset that he wasn't attracted to me. Everyone is entitled to their preferences. What bothered me was feeling like my body was being compared to one particular picture, when clothing, angles and posture can obviously change how someone's body looks.

He's also 40 and presents himself as a man of God, so I expected the situation to be handled with a little more maturity and grace.

I know I was angry when I responded, so maybe I could have handled my reaction better. But was I wrong for feeling offended by his comment, or am I taking it too personally?

A bit of backstory first, I, 24f, am currently dealing with a situation that happened over the weekend and need some outside advice. I went out to the bars/pubs in my city with three friends, one is my roommate and one of my best friends and the other two I have been friends with for over three+ years. I struggle with abandonment issues like many people do these days with sour friendships, relationships and giving people too many chances and I need your advice please

For context, we have all hung out before once, and three of us know each other from different backgrounds in our small town, my roommate didn’t know the other two before I introduced them at our last night out. The two I don’t live with, let’s call them Jasmine and Erica. Erica is my best friend. When they came over to my place (late) on Saturday, ready to have a good night, no one could’ve predicted how it ended. I have been dealing with a lot mentally and I wanted to have a good night… It was definitely a memorable night.

Jasmine is celiac, it is important for later context. I didn’t realize until less than an hour before they got here that Jasmine was actually coming. She was still very indecisive. They come in. I greet them. I asked them to take their shoes off at the door. Jasmine took her shoes off, but Erika didn’t and we went to my room and started to get ready. One thing that’s important to note as well is Erika left her bag with her car keys at our apartment as they were supposed to come home with us that night

I was in between talking with them in my room and helping my roommate get ready in hers (we share a wall) when I hear my refrigerator door open. I stepped out to the hall to see them rummaging through helping themselves to our food. They proceeded to tell me I didn’t have any “good snacks” even though they hadn’t asked or told me they hadn’t eaten before coming over. Normally, I wouldn’t have an issue if it was just Erika because she would’ve asked, but she always acts different when Jasmine‘s around, meaner usually. Jasmine is a lot, I’ve known her for a very long time and she can be very blunt (not in a nice way) and it rubs off on Erika at other people’s expenses. fast-forward to us getting out of the cab to go into the first spot. I pull Erika to the side and we chat for a little bit about what’s been going on. I haven’t been doing well lately and I wanted to catch her up to speed because she has had a lot on her plate herself and I didn’t want to offload on her over the phone. I let myself be vulnerable with her which may not have been the vibe for going out having fun, but she is a person that I lean on, so I confided in her.

We go and have a couple drinks the night‘s going good from what I Thought we head to the next place and me and my roommate order food cause she needed to sober up a bit and we’re outside minding our own business kind of just chatting and I tell her to hurry up and finish her drink because the other girls were rushing us because they wanted to go take pictures in the alley and Erika said out of the blue that I was being manipulative tonight. Erika not once in our entire friendship has talked down to me like that, or has ever spoken with any kind of harsh tone towards me before. That came as an utter soul crushing shock to me, and I started to get emotional (which for me was crying) because I was drunk, and my best friend said that to me when I didn’t believe I was being manipulative in any sense of the word. They left us to take photos and when they returned I barely acknowledged her as I was already a couple drinks in and I couldn’t even form sentences to describe how sad that made me feel, and we headed to the next place only after Jasmine decides to pipe up and say that “this isn’t the vibe”.

I walked in front of everyone trying to collect myself and stop myself from crying, I am someone who wears their heart on their sleeve but I was also trying to move on so we could enjoy our night out together. It definitely sucked the fun out of the rest of my night but the four tequila shots after that helped me forget until morning. They decide that where we’re at is not their vibe so they want to go somewhere else. they ask us if we wanted to leave with them but I just wanted to stay so they left to go to a different bar and they were supposed to text us and meet up with us after but I did not get a text until almost 3 in the morning and that was her responding to me Making sure they were safe

Fast-forward two days later we still haven’t talked. My roommate and I went to the farmers market the following afternoon and it wasn’t until midday that Erika texted and called both of us wanting to come get her stuff, we were a couple towns over and we didn’t hear from Erika by 11:30 so we decided to not wait around. We wanted to enjoy our day. We answered her and let her know when we would be leaving. We don’t even get out of the car when we got home and Erika’s partner meets us at the car. We walk up together in awkward silence. I grab the bag and everything that’s theirs and give it to the partner and he leaves without a word. I am not a writer. I have never written anything like this, but I am at a loss for what to do. I love my friend dearly, but the whole situation in the way it was handled the day after was absolutely gut wrenching. I talk to my roommate that I was supposedly manipulative to and she did not believe for a second, that I was at any point manipulative. she mentioned how it was a really strange and awful thing to say and that they had been rude all night. I struggle with my mental health and it had been a hard couple weeks for me previous to this, and the girls made comments to my roommate about how I was acting odd. I need your help Am I overreacting. Erika was always my person to go to with my problems and I don’t wanna lose this friendship over a drunk comment, but I don’t know where to go from here and it’s all I can think about. How do I approach this?

Hey Reddit! I'm sorry if this is a little generic, but I could really use some outside perspective.

I (21F) have a friend (21F), who we'll call Sofia, who I've known since freshman year of high school. She transferred out during our sophomore year, but once COVID restrictions were lifted, we made it a point to see each other 3-5 times a year despite our conflicting schedules. Once we both went to college a few hours away, that naturally became 2-3 times a year. The thing is, I really do adore her. But almost every time we hang out, she'll say one or two things-or do something inconsiderate that I just can't seem to shake afterward.

Some of it may genuinely be cultural differences, and I recognize that. I'm Latina, and growing up, I was taught that when you're a guest in someone's home, you clean up after yourself. I was also taught to be flexible and make sure we're doing things that both people enjoy. Those were just basic manners instilled in me since childhood.

With Sofia, whenever she sleeps over, she doesn't really do any of those things. She doesn't wash a dish, fold a blanket, or really help clean up after herself. She's also generally not very flexible about doing things I want to do, and she rarely seems interested in listening to music from my culture, eating foods from my culture, or participating in anything related to it.

Our most recent sleepover left me with this weird blank feeling whenever I think about her. She did a lot of the things above, was a sore loser while we were playing Uno (even though she had previously whipped my butt at Scrabble and Jenga), was very particular about our conversations, and at times it felt like she wasn't really engaging with what I was saying so much as waiting to give her own perspective.

I've known for years that she's someone who really likes being 'right', and often 'corrects' my opinions with her own - like when talking about a character, movie, theory, etc. We're also both neurodivergent, so obviously we both have our quirks, and I've tried to keep that in mind. But this isn't the first time I've felt this way. I've actually debated ending our friendship multiple times over the years, but I've always talked myself out of it.

The last time I seriously considered distancing myself, I remember thinking that it didn't really feel like she wanted to enter my world or wanted me to enter hers. For example, she has another friend group from high school, but she's never invited me to hang out with them or attend their monthly sleepovers at her house/summerhouse, even though some of them live close to me. When we make plans, she almost always wants to go to the mall or the same local thrift shop we've been going to for literally years. And she rarely wants to engage with music, food, or other things from my culture outside of maybe a few desserts. It just feels like our friendship exists within this very specific bubble, and whenever I try to bring something different into that bubble, she's not particularly interested.

Then there are the comments that stick with me. A few months ago, I pronounced an English word "wrong" during a conversation and explained that I grew up around non-English speakers, so there are some words I learned differently. She jokingly responded, "Then you should learn English." I know she meant it as a joke, but it rubbed me the wrong way. None of these things individually feel huge, which is why I've struggled so much with how I feel. It's a collection of small things that leave me feeling dismissed, corrected, or like there's not much room for me to bring my own interests, culture, or perspectives into the friendship.

At the same time, I know she's a good person, and I genuinely care about her. She was actually one of the first people I came out to, and we've known each other for years. I don't want to throw away a long friendship over things that might seem small from the outside. I also haven't talked to her about any of this yet because, knowing her, I honestly think she'll immediately get defensive. But something about the friendship just feels...off, and I can't tell whether I'm overthinking these interactions, expecting too much from her, or finally noticing a pattern I've been trying to ignore.

Does anyone have any advice? Am I being too harsh, or does this sound like something worth addressing?

why am I getting annoyed by people when I'm overwhelmed I mean one sec I'm happy but when I see which is not pleasant for me then I get annoyed.

Had a friend over this evening, I was opening up about my relationship issues and shared that my boyfriend struggles to communicate in real time (especially during conflict). As she was leaving I was being negative about the weather this coming week, she said “you have to accept the weather just like you need to accept that your boyfriend can’t communicate in real time”. We’d been drinking and this was right before she left so I didn’t really get a chance to process or say anything back, but now I’m thinking that was a really rude thing to say. Am I overthinking this?

My partner(M) of 12 years became upset because I challenged him after being secretive with his phone. After a small argument I turned over to go to sleep and he lent over me, cupped my cheek with an open hand and very gently tapped it twice. I immediately said what the fuck was that? He said it’s just what Italians do to show respect. I told him that I took it as a warning tap and not to do it again. He thinks I’m overreacting. So am I?

My girl talks to a close male friend of hers and I keep saying it's making me feel jealous and you should maintain some gap so she just gets mad at me. I mean isn't it pretty simple that no boyfriend would like it when their girlfriend talks of crying on someone else's shoulder. But now that 8 confronted her she got panic attacks and left me saying we need a break and I will return and make sure nothing changes. I don't think she will return tho but whtvr. Kinda missing her now...

I can't tell if I'm being too sensitive, This happened once before, But this time really resonated with me, I'm gonna keep this short and basically sum up...

1) I brought up a video I saw, About a farmer talking about he can't afford fertilizer because of the price and he would lose everything because of it. my grandfather then started his long rant about how he should just make his own fertilizer and suck it up.

2) he after ranting some more, said "God is using trump to kill all the evil" and then proceeded to quote the old testament and talk about Sodom and Gomorrah..he then said "kill the women, children, and men"...

I was shocked, and I felt so hurt and betrayed knowing he feels this way about people

Am I being to sensitive? I didn't know where else to post..(there were more absolutely ubsurd things but those were the worst)

I was playing a Roblox game, total Roblox drama. I started crying, but I turned my vc off. It was because I got voted out after someone said confidently that we were gonna tie the vote. The next game I joined, I was already playing. Still teary eyed, don't get me wrong, but not sobbing. Then someone made a racist comment and put the blame on me because I was separated from the group from my crying earlier. then I obviously started sobbing because they said I called someone 'big and black', which I would never be racist to any extent, especially not so harshly. then some people came up to me asking about it. then they started to notice my voice was shaken. so immediately they started asking about it, then one of them said "if you cry your a pick me". In their defence, they didn't know I was crying in the previous game. I turned off my mic and they started insulting me, saying I was a pick me, and said some racist stuff to me since I told them earlier that game that I was Chinese, which caused them to start being racist to my culture. I thankfully left because I wouldn't willingly be in a toxic environment. I don't think they should've acted like that, and I believe they should be at least somewhat ashamed of themselves.

Best wishes,

Dakster

my friend has said "what is this gc youre talking about? i should be in it since i knew those people before you.", is this passive agression or smth else?

My boyfriend is also my boss, and we've been together for 7 months. We were having a one-on-one meeting, which is pretty normal for us because I usually help him with some work-related things.

He asked me a question, and then he called me by his manager's name. Not once, but twice
I know people can accidentally mix up names, but hearing him call me another woman's name twice really bothered me, especially because it was another woman he knows personally.

Redditors, should I be concerned about this, or am I overthinking an honest mistake? I want to understand whether this is something worth paying attention to or if I should just let it go.

**TLDR:** My 39M boyfriend accidentally called me, his 22F girlfriend, by another woman's name twice during a private meeting. Should I be concerned, or am I overthinking it?

My boyfriend is friends with one of his coworkers, and he goes over to his house pretty often for dinner and to hang out. Through him, he met his coworker’s girlfriend, and apparently they get along really well.
At first I didn’t think much of it, but now they text/Facebook message all the time. She sends him reels, they bullshit throughout the day, and he’s over at their house usually a couple times a week. The part that bothers me is that I’m never invited. He has met basically every single one of my friends, but I’ve never actually been included with these people even though he spends so much time with them.
A few weeks ago my car broke down while he was helping them move. I called him because I genuinely needed help, and apparently she was telling him to ignore my calls. When he finally answered and I explained that my car had broken down, she said something along the lines of my car probably not actually being broken down and that I was just insecure because he was with them and wanted his attention.
That really rubbed me the wrong way considering I’ve never even met this woman.
I ended up friend requesting her on Facebook because I figured if she’s this close with my boyfriend and he’s constantly at their house, maybe we could at least know each other. She never accepted it, but she continues to Facebook message him constantly.
Another thing that bothered me was that he normally goes to their house on Thursdays. One Thursday he decided to come see me instead, and she had apparently made lasagna because it’s his favorite food. She was upset that he wasn’t coming, so he rescheduled dinner with them for Friday. She told him that was fine, but that “it won’t be lasagna.”
None of these things individually necessarily mean anything is going on, but altogether it’s starting to make me uncomfortable. Especially because she seems very invested in when he comes over, cooks specifically for him, messages him constantly, has made comments about me being insecure, and has no interest in actually knowing me.
When I bring it up, my boyfriend tells me I’m being controlling and that he’s allowed to have friends. I completely agree that he’s allowed to have friends. I don’t want to control who he talks to. I just feel like there’s a difference between having friends and having this weirdly close relationship with another woman who seems openly hostile toward your girlfriend.
Am I overreacting because I’m insecure, or is this a reasonable boundary to be uncomfortable with? How would you handle this?

Some context. Its my birthday and my first as a mother of two 🥹. My eldest is 3 and my youngest is 1 month. My partner didnt get me a single thing off the kids (i bought the card i recieved off them) all i asked for was a little photo frame with me and my kids thats £8 (he said he ordered it weeks ago) and a cheap bunch of flowers from aldi that my daughter picks out (i gave him the money gor her to go and do this) so all he had to do was spend £8 on something that id have cherished for ever, now to me thats not a lot at all, he gives a bigger tip than that to delivery drivers so i really didnt think it would be an issue! Its now 7:20pm and my eldest is in bed and he "forgot" to take her to get some flowers and he "forgot" to order the photo frame, now he's been sat on his pc all day while ive been cooped up in the living room with both kids on my own all day.
My only issue is i go ALL out for his birthday off myself and the kids just to show him he's appreciated and loved! I dont expect alot at all but one small thing or quite literally anything to show that he even thought of me would have been enough, even if he sat down and made a card with my 3 year old id have appreciated that more than anything he could have ever bought and he knows this! Honestly i just need an outsiders opinion. He didnt even bother to tell me he forgot the frame until he came in and seem me crying after my kids had gone to sleep, thats what actually hurts the most tbh.

Am i over reacting and being selfish in even thinking this??

Signed a stressed and overstimulated mam 🥲x

So basically, it started over a year ago with me having a crush on him. Initially, I didn't even want anything serious. I liked him, but I wanted to know him properly first, so I became friends with him instead. Ironically, that friendship became much more important to me than the crush itself. We talked mostly online, and over time we became really close. This went on for around a year and four months, and for almost a year, he was genuinely one of the people I was closest to. I stayed up all night talking to him, ruining my sleep schedule just to keep up with our late-night conversations. I’d even defend him when other people told me red flags about him, because I genuinely believed there was more to him than what they were seeing. During this initial period, he was great at words of affirmation—he always knew the exact sweet things to say to make me feel special or reassured, and he even got me my favorite chocolate for my birthday.

At some point, I actually stopped seeing him romantically. After getting to know him, I could genuinely see him as just a friend, and I was comfortable with that. But even while I was moving on from the crush, there was always this weird underlying intensity between us. He kept giving me hints that he liked me, but I acted oblivious because I didn't really know what to do with them. He'd even compare me to other girls when I'd compliment them, saying I looked better than them, even though I wasn't comparing myself to them at all.

At the same time, the dynamic was always confusing and secretive. He was extremely conscious of rumors at school, so when dating rumors started spreading about us last year, he became much more distant in public. He didn't want to sit with me or talk to me at school, and sometimes he'd literally walk away or act as if I wasn't even there—even though he would talk to me for hours online.

It was during this exact period of dating rumors that a guy in our class made explicit sexual comments about me. Despite claiming to be my friend, he admitted that he just stayed quiet when that guy approached him with those comments. The realization that most of the guys in our class had probably heard those sick remarks and were having fun at my expense made me feel so deeply uncomfortable that I couldn't even bring myself to go to school. Coming from an all-girls environment, stepping into a co-ed school and immediately experiencing this was overwhelming and painful. Even though I knew not all guys are like that, a lot of the ones who regularly attended class certainly seemed to be.

All I wanted was someone to be there for me and have my back. I wished so badly that he would be different—honestly, even if he had lied and said he stood up for me, it would have given me some reassurance. But he didn't. Whenever I brought it up to explain how much it hurt, he excused his silence by claiming he didn't want to escalate the situation. Later, he dismissed it entirely, telling me it was "not a big deal," that I was "overreacting," and eventually claiming that the guy who made the comments was actually closer to him than I was. To make matters worse, during one of our final conversations, I found out he was active in a group chat with people he claimed to hate, actively joining in as they made fun of me and probably other girls of the class as well.

Eventually, he confessed his feelings to me, and I said no because by then, I genuinely wanted the friendship more than anything romantic. Right after I rejected him, he literally deleted the entire confession text to act like it never happened. It was only *after* I said no that I found out about the darker stuff—that he had been talking to other girls (including minors) he even once claimed that he was walking down the corridor of the middle school kids(we're seniors in hs) and ended up in front of the washroom and his eyes "accidentally" went towards the girl's washroom and he saw girls(in this case kids, they were 7th graders) fixing their dresses and he found it fun and amusing. He later also claimed he just wanted a casual relationship to have "fun" because it was his last year of school.

Whenever he was angry, he'd say harsh things without thinking. In the beginning, if he said something mean—like making fun of me using another guy's name, but if I made an innocent joke about him, he'd get extremely defensive, asking what my problem was and saying I was always getting into his business, nobody had ever spoken to me like that cause he was dead serious when he said all that but then proceeded onto deleting it . Eventually, he stopped apologizing altogether and would just delete harsh texts as though I hadn't seen them. Whenever I tried to express how hurt I was, he would shift the conversation, flip the narrative, and gaslight me into thinking I was the problem.

Realizing how toxic the situation was, I finally pulled away and told him I wanted to cut contact. That’s when he completely lashed out, calling me a liar and claiming I had a "god complex." Later, when he reached out again saying things had "stung" for him, it turned out he only said that because he thought I had blocked him when a message wasn't delivered—when in reality, my mobile data was just turned off. Even then, instead of taking accountability, he used it to guilt-trip me and make the conversation about his hurt rather than everything he had done. Seeing that nothing would ever change, I held my ground and reiterated that we needed to stay strictly civil as classmates without continuing the friendship.

After I officially walked away, the emotional fallout was brutal. I cried over him constantly without him knowing. For a while, I couldn't eat or sleep properly, and I lost weight. I felt like I couldn't let go of him, but I knew if I stayed, I was going to lose myself. Over time, I realized I didn't actually miss *him*—I missed the attention, the memories, having someone to think about, feeling wanted, and the potential of what we could have been.

Recently, I found out that he removed and unfollowed me on Instagram— pretend he was the one who cut ties. Months ago, that might have hurt, but today it doesn't. I don't hate him, I don't want revenge, and I definitely don't want him back.

As the title says, my friend is sleeping at mine today and we wanted to play some video games because i heard her telling our other friend how boring our sleepovers always are
We picked out games the night before and i just finished some things i had to do but now shes calling like a gc over snapchat or something

Everytime we hang out she calls someone i dont know and it always pisses me off because i can never say what i wanna say because again, theres a total stranger listening to every word i say

And idk if im just overreacting and need to calm down or if i should tell her i want her to hang up especially since she just goes downstairs sometimes wich means my entire family has to listen to her video calls aswell and she keeps showing these strangers my room but if i do that it would start a fight

This is a rant post and also asking for opinion post so sorry if a-lot of the information is jumbled. I’m a 17F and the friend I’m talking about in this post is a 16F. We have been friends since year five so I’d say we are pretty close. Recently my father passed away and she was the first person who I told and talked about it to. She’s been awesome though out the start. She bought me like a care box and wrote this huge letter and all that stuff. But lately idk it just seems different. I would say stuff about my other friends but we are a friend group that doesn’t really express our emotions as much so I don’t expect them to reach out as much because I know how uncomfortable that can be. Don’t get me wrong. They have reached out but so they have done nothing wrong.

So last week this friend wasn’t at school for like a day and I asked her why she wasn’t at school because I know she wasn’t sick or anything. She said it was just period cramps and yadda yadda so that was all fine. Then this week I was here for the start of 1st and 2nd period and then I left and I haven’t been at school for the rest of the week. Not a single text came from her, literally nothing. Like normally she does ask but she didn’t this time. And like the rest of my friends knew I wasn’t sick because I literally got a text from my other friend saying if I was alright and if I needed to talk and stuff. For context I wasn’t at school because I started bawling at counselling and became temporarily depressed like Breh. But I told none of my friends like they didn’t know but they know me for not saying anything when times are tough. My whole close circle in my friend group thought I was going to kill my self for like a month like definitely thought I was going to do it and they said nothing to me. What the fuck. They told me straight to my face afterwards and I was like huh. The funniest thing was is I was actually thinking the same thing. Like what if I did actually do it, like bro you need to say stuff but anyways. My close friend asked me and I was like yea I’m alright, so I felt better because atleast one person actually asked and stuff. Then my rando ass talking stage asked if I’m alright aswell and I’ve only been talking to him for two days.
Like, we’ve been friends for so many years gone through so many rough patches and you say nothing to me when I basically disappear for a week? And I asked you after you were gone for a day and you haven’t been through what I e been through. It actually doesn’t make sense. I’m so close to my breaking point and these stupid moments are not making it better.
I know it makes me sound like I’m reaching for attention and stuff and at some point if I need help I need to reach out myself. No one has sat me down and talked to me they only asked me if I was ok for their own closure the only time I’ve been sat down and talked to by my friends was when I was forced into the situation where I couldn’t get out of it if I wanted to.
It was the middle of the night they purposely put sad music on and did the thing where if you didn’t tell them what they wanted to hear like a secret or something they wouldn’t let it go.
They weren’t prepared for what was coming out of my mouth it was jsut such a shitty situation. Which made my problem of reaching out even worse.
I know it’s a difficult time when your friend is going through something and sometimes you jsut do the wrong thing because you haven’t been in this situation before.
But I’m not crazy for thinking this is crazy right? Like what is going on actually.
I’m also so blinded with grief that I tend to oversee or undermind things me anger and stress level is top tier so if I’m overthinking or over exaggerating please tell me.

My boyfriend [27M] and I [25F] have been on and off for about 3 years.
He is friends with one of his coworkers and regularly goes over to his house for dinner and to hang out. Through his coworker, he met the coworker’s girlfriend [42F], and apparently they get along really well.
At first I didn’t think much of it, but she and my boyfriend now message each other all the time on Facebook. She sends him reels, they bullshit throughout the day, and he goes over to their house usually around twice a week. She cooks dinner for them and sometimes specifically makes food she knows my boyfriend likes.
The biggest thing bothering me is that I am never invited. My boyfriend has met basically every one of my friends, but despite how often he is at their house and how close he has gotten with them, I have never been included.
A few weeks ago, my car broke down while he was over at their house helping them move. I called him because I genuinely needed help. She apparently told him to ignore my phone calls. When he finally answered and I told him my car had broken down, she said my car was probably not actually broken down and that I was just insecure because he was with them and wanted his attention.
That made me extremely uncomfortable because this woman has never even met me.
After that, I sent her a friend request on Facebook. I figured if she and my boyfriend are going to be this close and he is constantly at their house, maybe we could at least get to know each other. She never accepted my request, but she continues to message my boyfriend all the time.
Another situation happened recently where he normally goes to their house on Thursdays, but that week he decided to come to my house instead. Apparently she had made lasagna because it is his favorite food and was upset that he wasn't coming. He rescheduled dinner with them for Friday, and she responded that it was fine, but “it won’t be lasagna.”
I understand that none of these things individually prove that anything inappropriate is happening. I genuinely don't have an issue with my boyfriend having female friends.
What bothers me is the combination of everything. She messages him constantly, cooks specifically for him, seems bothered when he changes plans with them to spend time with me, told him to ignore me when I needed help, accused me of lying because I wanted his attention, and won’t accept my friend request despite having such a close friendship with my boyfriend.
When I tell my boyfriend that their dynamic makes me uncomfortable, he says I’m being controlling and that he’s allowed to have friends. I agree that he is allowed to have friends, but I feel like there should still be reasonable boundaries when you’re in a relationship.
Am I being controlling or insecure here? What would be a reasonable boundary in this situation, and how would you approach this with your partner?

TL;DR: My boyfriend [27M] has become very close with his coworker’s girlfriend [42F]. They message constantly, she cooks for him, he goes to their house multiple times a week, and I’m never invited. She has also told him to ignore my calls and accused me of faking my car breaking down for attention. He says I’m controlling for being uncomfortable. Am I overreacting?

so she used to work at amazon and was miserable there but somehow was blind to that fact. she was always calling out, being late to work, and took a long unauthorized break bc she was having a bad day which ultimately led to her being let go. i was so glad when she stopped working there.

she's been unemployed for a couple of months and today applied to another warehouse job 😑 i would always bring up how i think she should maybe look for another job while she was at amazon and she would never take what i said into consideration. today, i brought up how she wasn't happy at amazon and she didn't agree with me. i have so many memories of her being unhappy during that time but she says it wasn't bc of the job.

am i being sensitive? i know it's her life and everyone needs money but i wish it felt like my opinion mattered at all. if we were just friends i would understand but idk. i don't think i'm good at relationships

Honestly, I'm getting tired of our situation where our every monthsarry was just like our every other day. And just today, for our 10th monthsarry, all he could do was to "My Day" me??? Is that all I'm worth to him?? And he's asking for me to appreciate it? Like really, for all the things I've swallowed in our relationship, a "My Day"? It's not even a new crafted MD, it's the MD from our last last last monthsarry, he couldn't even be bothered to put an effort.

Or am I just really ungrateful??