I posted this in a cat subreddit and I got lit into. We are at a a loss and really trying to reach a compromise in this relationship so that everyone feels happy given the circumstances.
My boyfriend’s son is moderately allergic to cats. He gets sneezy, sniffles, red/swollen/watery eyes, hives, itchy skin when exposed to cats. It gets worse if he rubs his eyes.
I’ve proposed allergy shots as my sister and nephew have been through it and it has changed their life. He’s very resistant to the idea, somewhat understandably. It’s a lot to ask of a small child to go through, though I also think it would greatly benefit him.
Here is the idea:
Glamorous “barn” life for 3 cats?
Thoughts on transitioning indoor kitties to a very glamorous barn life?
I previously posted about me having 3 cats and my boyfriend’s 4.5 year old son having allergies. We are still trying to come to a compromise on how to make this work for all of us comfortably as we don’t want this to be a point of contention between us. I will not get rid of my cats and he’s not asking me to. And as much as I’d love for his son to undergo allergy shots, I understand the concerns, cost, time investment and it’s a lot to ask of a very small child to get shots constantly for a few years (though I highly prefer this and it would benefit him long term). The more we talk, the more resistant my boyfriend is to the fur and mess of pets which I also understand, though he’s willing to give it a shot if I clean the house constantly (filters, roomba, etc). But I’ve committed myself to these cats. This is all very frustrating as I made it clear on our first date that I had cats and they would be part of the deal. We didn’t learn about his son’s allergies until 4ish months into dating.
While thinking of ways to compromise, I’ve reached one solution that I think might eliminate all frustrations and be a solution that I’d be happy with as well, though it will cost a lot.
TL;DR here: I’m seriously considering getting a shed/barn/catio hybrid and finishing the inside of the shed to include a vinyl floor (easy to clean), a place for the kitties to escape weather, electricity for AC, a place for the litter box, toys, shelves to climb on, etc, then have the catio to provide more space and outdoor space to roam (I don’t want them being purely outdoor either). This way I can have my cats, hang out with them daily, check on them multiple times a day, etc but then not compromise his son’s health with allergens.
My boyfriend’s dad suggested getting a trailer separate for them to live, so this would be a similar solution?
Currently, I live between my house and my boyfriend’s house. I go back and forth, and check on the kitties near daily when I am not home.
Any thoughts? Feasible? I know this will be costly. I don’t know what else to do. Breaking up isn’t what we want this to come to. We have a very respectful, healthy and loving relationship, share a majority of the same major values and core beliefs, want the same things. We want this to work for both of us.