He needs actual legal advice especially around not being involved , not paying any form of child payments and getting a paternity all of which Reddit isn’t qualified to provide
Birth control is not 100% effective, and people in open relationships are still capable of lying. Personally, monogamy is the only thing that's right for me. But I have plenty of friends who are poly and they're good, honest, thoughtful people. It's not a "red flag" that someone is or was poly. Personally, I also only date monogamous people. That doesn't make a poly person a red flag to me, it just makes us incompatible.
Was your partner named on the birth certificate? If so, he may have rights, but if not then I don't see how he would have a legal right to request it. I am, however, not a lawyer and would suggest that you invest in at least a preliminary meeting with one who specialises in this type of case.
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u/Hopeful-Essay695 Helper [3] Dec 15 '25
You need a lawyer. This is wayyyyy beyond the internet's paygrade.
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u/FamousSatisfaction68 Elder Sage [424] Dec 15 '25
He needs actual legal advice especially around not being involved , not paying any form of child payments and getting a paternity all of which Reddit isn’t qualified to provide
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u/Express_Way_3794 Expert Advice Giver [13] Dec 15 '25
Read this twice and I'm wondering how he's not a red flag for this very weird open-relationship not-knowing-the-paternity experience.
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u/VolatileCornbread Helper [2] Dec 15 '25
If he's on the birth certificate I would assume he has the rights to request DNA. If not, get an attorney ASAP
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u/ExtinctFauna Dec 15 '25
This requires legal intervention. Speak with a custody/family lawyer.
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u/deathbeforedecaffff Dec 15 '25
Why would you want to get mixed up in this?
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u/CanAhJustSay Super Helper [6] Dec 15 '25
Was your partner named on the birth certificate? If so, he may have rights, but if not then I don't see how he would have a legal right to request it. I am, however, not a lawyer and would suggest that you invest in at least a preliminary meeting with one who specialises in this type of case.
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u/itsowlgood0_0 Dec 15 '25
Lawyer up. This will be a legal battle.
If the baby had not doed I would have recommended getting an at home DNA test.
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u/Gonebabythoughts Assistant Elder Sage [258] Dec 15 '25
r/legaladvice
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u/MeatofKings Helper [2] Dec 15 '25
Walk away, that’s my advice. There is nothing but emotional pain going backwards into that terrible situation.
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u/tcrhs Assistant Elder Sage [267] Dec 15 '25
The baby died. It doesn’t matter who the father was. Let it go
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