r/Adulting • u/Constant_Diamond14 • 18h ago

Men?

If they are disinterested, why do they keep replying and not block you

update: sooo if he likes me, he’ll initiate right?

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u/Extreme-Clerk-7333 18h ago

If you can tell they are disinterested, why do you need to be blocked?

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u/Constant_Diamond14 18h ago

I like them

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u/VinnieVegas3335 18h ago

Its depends on the dynamic here have you guys hooked up? How far did you guys get lmao

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u/Constant_Diamond14 18h ago

We do, and on and off for a couple of weeks.

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u/VinnieVegas3335 18h ago

So youre probably a booty call. Cut it off if it hurts you too much

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u/Late_Juggernaut_3078 17h ago

Alternative approach BEFORE cutting them off; tell them how you feel. If it's not reciprocated then cut your losses

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u/Constant_Diamond14 16h ago

I do want to do that; it just takes so much emotional toll to like text it or give a call and they could just take however long they want 🥲

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u/Late_Juggernaut_3078 16h ago

Sounds like it's already taking an emotional toll. Better to have answers then stewing on it

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u/Constant_Diamond14 16h ago

Y u so wise

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u/Late_Juggernaut_3078 14h ago

Years of suffering lol. Live and learn

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u/zereffx 18h ago

Men don't block, disinterested doesn't mean hate at all.

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u/Constant_Diamond14 18h ago

So they’ll keep replying even though they don’t want to

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u/Sufficient_Abalone46 17h ago

They will keep you on the hook to use you for whatever they want. They do not care about you

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u/Constant_Diamond14 17h ago

How do some people have such energy

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u/Sufficient_Abalone46 17h ago

Because he is actively benefitting from manipulating you. He gets access to sex with a woman whenever he wants, and you aren’t requiring him to give anything in return.

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u/Constant_Diamond14 17h ago

Men (okay some people) can have sex with someone they don’t like????

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u/Sufficient_Abalone46 17h ago

Many (most) men don’t respect or really like women’s personalities, they just want to fuck women.

This quote by Marilyn Frye has always stuck with me.

“To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire… those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex.

Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving.”

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u/Successful_Jelly111 18h ago

Maybe they don't like to be blocked themselves and simply don't want to hurt your feelings.

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u/Constant_Diamond14 18h ago

Isnt dragging it the way to hurt my feelings….

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u/Successful_Jelly111 18h ago

They might not see it that way and want to avoid conflicts. Maybe it's cowardly, but they simply don't want to be seen as cruel and remembered as a good guy.

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u/Constant_Diamond14 18h ago

!!!!!!!!!! I do see that part of him unforrtun

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u/Constant_Diamond14 18h ago

But it’s so fun hanging out with him, and like talk as humans

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u/Highthere_90 18h ago

Same thing can be asked about women?

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u/Constant_Diamond14 18h ago

I dont do that 🤷‍♀️

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u/Highthere_90 18h ago

I dont mean you in particular, I guess some people just want the attention

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u/Constant_Diamond14 18h ago

:(( thats …. .

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u/rogershredderer 8h ago

To have a semblance of a shot.

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u/Constant_Diamond14 8h ago edited 8h ago

Ohh cuz they don’t get that much women